- 7 years ago
FI and I are having a small destination wedding in Mexico. A lot of people were invited out of courtesy but we only expect about 15 or so people, 20 at the most, which we’re fine with.
FI and I decided to just have one attendant each. His brother is his best man and originally a friend of mine was going to be the Matron of Honor. However, she found out in September that she was pregnant and due in early May. I’m really happy for her and her husband so that wasn’t a big deal. I just had to make other arrangements. I decided on my SIL (brother’s wife), who I get along with great and who was going to be at the wedding. I asked, she said yes, everything was great.
Fast forward five months. I find out my brother and his wife are getting a divorce so she obviously won’t be at the wedding. I’m upset they’re splitting up because we get along great and I think she was really good for my brother. But they’re not happy so what are you going to do.
So now it is three and a half months to the wedding and I don’t have a MOH. There are a small list of people actually going to the wedding so my options are slim. In my mind I can see three possibilities:
1. No MOH or attendants. Not the best option but would be easiest. However that might look odd with a best man up there with FI and no one with me.
2. My mother. She’s probably the best option as I’m closest to her of all remaining guests. She also has a pink dress (which is my color). However, is it weird to have your mother as your MOH?
3. One of FI’s sisters. He has two but I’m closer with one of them. I’m not too close with the other so I don’t think she would be offended but you never know. And that would be the other sister would be the only sibling not in the wedding party. Plus, if FBIL is the best man and FSIL is the MOH, added to the fact that FI’s BIL may perform the ceremony, it kind of feels like his wedding, not mine.
I’m just not sure what to do.