(Closed) Three months to go, He called the wedding off!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

(((HUGS))) Oh my goodness, I am so sorry! That is so horrible. I don’t even know what to say other than I am so so sorry that you are having to deal with this and we are here for you!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Wow.  That was it?  Have you asked him what brought this up?  I’d contact a lawyer about custody of your daughter, I’m so sorry.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh, no..! I am so sorry your FI is doing this to you.  I’d probably normally say you probably don’t want to be with someone who keeps things to himself all the time and then break it to you when a lot has been invested and he was just “going along”.  That IS playing with your feelings and your life.  A marriage is a partnership and he should be able to communicate and share with you his thoughts.  BUT, you have a 2 year old daughter..  I don’t know the details of your relationship but maybe, just maybe, he just got cold feet?   I hope everything works out ok..  Big hugs to you!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am so sad for you.  You will figure everything out.  Right now, just think about your daughter and your own well-being, and I’m glad you obviously have a family (since you said your mom was going to the venue with you) to support you through this tough time.  It will be ok!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I am so sorry to hear that!  That is a horrible thing for him to do!  But I think that you are doing the right decision.  If he doesn’t appreciate you now, it seems he won’t treat you well later.  Be strong.  And if you decide to end it, make sure to rely on your family to help you through it… and keep yourself busy.

HUGS!!!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

wow… sendings lots of hugs

has he had this kind of blowup before?  has he actually made plans to move out or once things settle down he will think everything is ok

if its just a blowup and then he settles, he needs to discuss his coping methods because its totally unfair to you and your daughter – if he is moving out and its over…. tell yourself as bad as youre feeling – you WILL be ok

sending lots of hugs because i really dont know what else to say

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Um, what?

That’s so awful! That’s the most hurtful thing he could say… was he angry & going for the jugular or are these his true feelings? You said he lets his feelings build up & then he explodes? So he’s exploded before? How did you resolve your past issues?

After reading your update: if he acts like nothing has happened tomorrow you can’t let this slide by. You have to get to the bottom of this– your baby needs a stable future & life. He can’t play these games.

I’m sorry this is going on right now… it might not help a whole lot, but we’re all here to listen to you & support you 🙂

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

OMG so sorry to hear this ..hugs

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m so sorry.  I wish you the best.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Even if he changes his mind and is not serious, I seriously consider what this means for your relationship. If he feels he can just nonchalantly tramp all over the future you were planning together, not to mention a huge event that means so much to you, your family, and friends, then he is really selfish and immature. Honestly, if he doesn’t mean it, to me he is that much more selfish and immature. The decision to get married should not be thrown around like that. He obviously doesn’t respect you, and from what you’ve shared – not paying for your E-ring, etc – you could find someone who appreciates you a lot more. I know its hard when you share a life, and you think – well, this is it, this is the person I’m going to be with because we have a history and a child and a home. But you aren’t married yet, and I seriously think that’s a good thing. I think you should move forward without him, regardless of what he says next week or next year.

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