- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
The title in itself would make anyone with my In-laws shudder!!! My goodness, now I knew Fi had a very unique family from the get go, now don’t get me wrong, they are not awful, they all have a very unique “bondness” and LOVE for each other that is very admirable but at the same time, very difficult when you’re the outsider.
My Fi is youngest of 4, actually he was “the oopsie” the sibling before him is 12 years older, but the root of all the drama are his older sisters (13-14 years older.) His sisters both actually refer to my FI as their “son” because they believe they had a hand in raising him. Now at first I thought it was sweet, but as the time passed, I soon realized that I was basically dealing with not one, but THREE mother-in-laws! I learned to deal with each of their very different personalities, mood swings, and tendencies. I think its very sweet the love they have for my FI, BUT as soon as he put that shiny ring on my finger it has been non-stop drama! If it’s not with one sister it’s with the other, and when she’s fine, all of a sudden the other sister is upset, and if neither sisters are the issue, then his mom is drama.
It has been insane trying to keep up with them, especially with FI in Texas for school, and me here in CA along with the rest of his family. This has been the case for the entirety of our dating relationship, but as wedding preparations began, they were not happy with our decisions.
We chose to have a short engagement, half a year to be exact, and they weren’t too pleased.
We choose to have semi destination wedding in AZ, they were really not too happy.
It even got to the point where at first, they were not giving us a straight answer about even COMING to the wedding. We know it wasn’t a $$ issue , which by the way FI family has not offered to help one bit, which is fine since we were planning to pay for the expenses, but my family has really surprised us with SO much help, its amazing, any way, it’s not a $$ issue because they have all flown to TX for a week for FI college football game, and as a matter of fact, weeks before announcing our wedding location, FI family were all discussing how excited they were to plan a roadtrip to AZ for one of FI away games!!!! LOL
Any way, that’s just to give you an idea of how it’s been. Currently 5 weeks till the wedding, FI family has agreed to come, and have jumped on board the wedding.. So I thought..
Now there’s guest drama. FI’s mother’s yes plural, are upset because we have chosen not to invite certain members of family, whom specifically were not invited due to space, not really knowing them, AND a big one, because they have been incredibly disrespectful to my mother.
The kicker is FI family is not really the confrontational type, they like to “fake the funk” so the speak, so if I happen to visit, they either act like all is fine or they act like I am some kind of stranger. (Mostly his sisters) I guess where this is going is that I am just so tired of keeping up with their mood swings and trying to figure out what the problem is. They are so petty, and it really is upsetting because I care so much for FI’s family, I consider them my family now. They all claim to be very happy for us, and on numerous occasions have openly expressed how they think we are the best thing for each other…blah blah and so forth. But sometimes things just don’t add up. When things are good, they’re great, but when it’s bad, it is SO painfully awkward to be around them. UGH!!! Fi tells me that this is just how his family has always been…but I am SO not used to it, and don’t think I ever will.
Anyone else have in-laws driving them nuts????