(Closed) Three out of four chose the same dress and I want them mismatched!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So who chose it first? Don’t they get first choice?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would stick with your original directions. Don’t make this your problem to please them. You gave them explicit instructions with many options. It’s not like you forced one choice on them.

BM3 was the first to choose “The Dress” . It is now out of the running. If the other girls wanted that dress they should have got off their derrieres  and responded promptly.

I can’t believe the one BM is making an issue out of a $4 price difference. Tell her I’ll pay the $4 for pete’s sake. That’s not even the price of one latte.

“Sorry girls, BM3 was the first to get back with her choice so dress # __ is out of the running. Please get back to me asap with your choice, and copy the rest of the girls so they will know what’s left to choose from.”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BetterSherm:  Well if they agreed to your “rules” of the dress being off the table once someone chose it, and if it’s that important to you, you should follow through with your original plan. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wanted my BM’s in different dresses, but they all happened to like the same one. I just let them all get the same one, considering they are paying for it, and I wanted them to have something they liked & would be comfortable in. But if you want them in different ones, it’s your wedding after all, so it’s your call.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

That’s kind of crazy, that must be some dress! I’m kind of curious about it now. Would you be okay with them all getting the same dress but different colors? Otherwise I agree with julies1949, just tell them you were hoping for each of them to get a different one and that since BM 3 selected it first they should pick a different one. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had the same experience. Sent my girls a variety of dresses telling them to pick different ones, but they all liked and picked the same one. So I asked them to all get it. I ended up really liking that they had the same dress, even if it wasn’t initially what I had in mind, so it was no big deal.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

First come, first served!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The same thing happened to me, but there was only 5 options. I have 5 bridesmaids and didn’t mind if a few had the same dress, but they all picked the same dress. I didn’t mind, but I asked that they get different colors so it still looked mis-matched. 

But it sounds like you were straightforward. Just stick to your guns. 20+ seems like more than enough options. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

Omg, can we please see “The Dress”??  I kind of want it now, too! 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@BetterSherm:  Man, what are the odds! Just stick to your guns, I have a hard time thinking that they really couldn’t find another dress out of 20 and with multiple colors to choose from. 

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