Post # 1
So today I read this article which decribes some of the biggest problems that affect the success of a persons relationship with others.
I’ve been here for a little while and I always find it interesting (and sometimes entertaining and infuriating) to read the various threads posted here. This particularly includes how many of the bees respond/react to different situations about their relationships or one another on the hive.
I mostly admire the humour that many have; including the insightful advice and general positive support from most of the bees here. There are however some characters who’s responses from genuinely honest questions or opinions from other bees that astound me with thier immaturity and defensive reactions.
What are your thoughts on these ‘relationship killers?’ do you think there are other major deal breakers or does this pretty much sum it up?
Post # 3
@wifey2be: Its an interesting article, but these things are not exactly a revelation.
Actually, the article describes the attitudes/actions of several personalty disorders. People with personality disorders tend to have a hard time maintaining healthy relationships.
Post # 4
@wifey2be: Would agree with those things. I think the biggest killer I have witnessed is contempt/lack of respect for your partner. I hear how some people talk to their other half – with such disdain and contempt – and I can’t see any love there anymore.
Post # 5
@Bridey77: I completely agree with you… for the average mature person, this artical is no relevation. 🙂
I also realise that there are a number of reasons why people struggle to attain these particular qualities needed to grow and nurture a happy and successful relationship.. There are however some people who have no bloody idea… then wonder ‘why do these problems always happen to me? It must be everyone else!!’
I simply posted it cause I have recently read a few posts that scream immaturity concerning their issues/responses and the need for them to take a long hard look in the mirror.
Post # 6
I agree that these 3 things are some of the top reasons why marriages fail. I for one think what the author calles the “me first” mentality is seen on this website way more often than it should be.
I also agree that with you OP that there is a lot of ‘why do these problems always happen to me? It must be everyone else!!’. If you are having problems in multiple relationships then the common dominator is you.