Three weddings – Bridesmaid/Bridal melt down.

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Do both! You totally could pull it off and youll be a hero forever.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@nicholeee:  Why can’t you be in both of their weddings? Technically as a bridesmaid, all you have to do is show up on the day of the wedding. A 4 hour drive is definitely do-able, just requires some getting up early and probably being tired. 

I would explain to both of them about one anothers weddings, and that they both mean so much to you, so you may be unavailable for all activities (like the rehearsal dinner of the one on the 16th) but want to be there for both of them. I don’t see why you can’t help them plan things beforehand (decor, etc.). 

If you have to back out of being a bridesmaid, there’s no reason why you can’t be a guest. If you have to back out of one of them, I would choose whoever’s wedding you knew about second (who set their date second?). That seems to me to be the only fair way to do it. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nicholeee:  

@weatherbug:  

I’d see if the wedding rehearsal on the 16th is one you can skip, otherwise, you can’t be in both weddings.

If there is a choice to be made, I would honor the commitment to the person who asked you first and adjust your plans according to making sure you are fully committed to it.

Otherwise, you may be able to politely decline bridesmaidship and be a guest at each wedding.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@nicholeee:  It can be done.  I went to a Saturday wedding in NEBRASKA where one of the bridesmaids flew in that morning because she was a bridesmaid in another wedding the night before in Seattle.  She just made it but both friends were super important to her.

This doesn’t mean you have to do it, I wouldn’t!  But if you think you would regret it – just try to do it.  You might be happy and will be proud of yourself.

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