Post # 1
I’ve been to three weddings over the past year, and have not recieved a SINGLE thank-you note. For one wedding, we just bought something from the registry and had it shipped directly from the store. They do this 50x a day, so I seriously doubt it got lost in the mail, etc.
For the other two, we gave a card with cash, and heard nothing (it’s been several months).
What the hell is wrong with people?
Post # 3
Hummm this is bazaar! I’m not sure about proper etiquette with the time of a thank you note but as soon as they open it they should be writing down on a list of who gave what then plan to mail those notes right after. If it was me I would nonchalantly ask the Bride or Groom if they got their gift. At this point I don’t think it would be as rude as them not sending a thank you note:) LOL
Post # 4
The past few weddings I have been to I didn’t receive a thank you note either. One was for quite a close friend and I gave them a generous cash gift and I know they got it, because I asked.
It’s a bit disappointing really!
Post # 5
I haven’t gotten any thank you notes from the last few weddings I’ve been to either! This piece of ettiquite seems to have fallen by the wayside. We at least got a thank you text from the last one!
We will definitely have thank you cards, I think it’s lovely.
Post # 6
Er..we don’t have that etiquette here..that i know of! But then again my family is sooooo practical and there have been sooooo few weddings maybe i don’t know what’s normal here. If someone would send me a gift (by postmail), i would definetly call and thank. If given by hand, a hearty hug!
Post # 7
Last three weddings I have been to have not done thankyous either.
We gave generous cash gifts to all.
I slaved handwriting my ‘thankyous ‘ within a month of our wedding, and I think it is laziness and rudeness that others cannot even get around to it within a year.
Post # 8
How rude. If I waited longer than three months to send out mine I’d be so ashamed of myself.
Post # 9
That’s really awful. I don’t think there are any good excuses for not sending a note!
I didn’t go to my fiance’s brother’s wedding two years ago, but I did send them a gift card to a place where he and his wife registered. I didn’t hear a peep. They were only 21, so it didn’t surprise me too much that they weren’t on top of the etiquette surrounding weddings. That said, if you are making adult decisions like getting married, you should ensure you behave with at least minimal adult etiquette… like saying thank you to people who gift you wedding gifts!
Post # 10
I’ve not recieved thankyou cards from the past few weddings I’ve been to either. These were couples in their 30s and I actually find it quite sad that people can’t be bothered to say thank you. One couple sent a thankyou text message, which I thought was fine since they are on very limited funds.
Post # 11
I hand wrote thank yous to all of our guests regardless of whether they gave a gift or not. Their presence was presents enough! I would be embarrassed not to have sent thank you notes.
Post # 12
I was a “plus one” to a wedding (I knew the bride but we’d drifted apart over the years so I was fine with not being invited) two years ago but I gave her a gift anyway. I brought it directly to the wedding and placed it on the gift table and taped a SIGNED card to it, so I know she got it and I know she knew who it was from. No thank you note. All the invited guests got one but I heard none of the plus ones did. That really grinds my gears!!
Post # 13
I was just venting about this. I didn’t attend a wedding in October, but I still sent a gift and I tracked it so I know it got there. Not a word. I guess technically it hasn’t been a year but still….
I really feel people have no manners anymore.
Post # 14
@DEBeachGirl: This makes me so mad. It’s not a YEAR people. You send it when you get the gift. Not a year later. Folks have a year to give you a gift but you don’t have a year to thank them. Anyhow, I’ve been to a few weddings where I didn’t get a thank you card. I sent mine a bit under the 2 months mark and even then I was a bit ashamed. I know it’s tedious but you just spent countless hours working on your wedding. It takes a few hours more to write about 70-100 cards if you had a big wedding. You can even space it over a week or two. Sorry for the rant. This etiquette lapse really ticks me.
Post # 15
@bRooklynRocks: I don’t know why people think it makes sense that you supposedly have a year.. and if a guest does send you gift a year later, why should that have anything to do with making the person who gave you a gift the day of wait that long for a thank-you?
Post # 16
We attended five weddings last year and only received a thank you note from two of those couples. It is indeed kind of odd. I’ll definitely be doing thank you cards but maybe it’s just something that a lot of couples forget or something? I’m not sure.