(Closed) Three weddings- not a single thank-you note!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hummm this is bazaar! I’m not sure about proper etiquette with the time of a thank you note but as soon as they open it they should be writing down on a list of who gave what then plan to mail those notes right after. If it was me I would nonchalantly ask the Bride or Groom if they got their gift.  At this point I don’t think it would be as rude as them not sending a thank you note:) LOL

Post # 4
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The past few weddings I have been to I didn’t receive a thank you note either. One was for quite a close friend and I gave them a generous cash gift and I know they got it, because I asked.

It’s a bit disappointing really!


Post # 5
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I haven’t gotten any thank you notes from the last few weddings I’ve been to either! This piece of ettiquite seems to have fallen by the wayside. We at least got a thank you text from the last one!

We will definitely have thank you cards, I think it’s lovely.

Post # 6
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Er..we don’t have that etiquette here..that i know of! But then again my family is sooooo practical and there have been sooooo few weddings maybe i don’t know what’s normal here. If someone would send me a gift (by postmail), i would definetly call and thank. If given by hand, a hearty hug!

Post # 7
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Last three weddings I have been to have not done thankyous either.

We gave generous cash gifts to all.

I slaved handwriting my ‘thankyous ‘ within a month of our wedding, and I think it is laziness and rudeness that others cannot even get around to it within a year.

Post # 8
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How rude. If I waited longer than three months to send out mine I’d be so ashamed of myself. 

Post # 9
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s really awful. I don’t think there are any good excuses for not sending a note!

I didn’t go to my fiance’s brother’s wedding two years ago, but I did send them a gift card to a place where he and his wife registered. I didn’t hear a peep. They were only 21, so it didn’t surprise me too much that they weren’t on top of the etiquette surrounding weddings. That said, if you are making adult decisions like getting married, you should ensure you behave with at least minimal adult etiquette… like saying thank you to people who gift you wedding gifts!

Post # 10
15 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve not recieved thankyou cards from the past few weddings I’ve been to either. These were couples in their 30s and I actually find it quite sad that people can’t be bothered to say thank you. One couple sent a thankyou text message, which I thought was fine since they are on very limited funds.

Post # 11
4 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hand wrote thank yous to all of our guests regardless of whether they gave a gift or not.  Their presence was presents enough!  I would be embarrassed not to have sent thank you notes.

Post # 12
724 posts
Busy bee

I was a “plus one” to a wedding (I knew the bride but we’d drifted apart over the years so I was fine with not being invited) two years ago but I gave her a gift anyway.  I brought it directly to the wedding and placed it on the gift table and taped a SIGNED card to it, so I know she got it and I know she knew who it was from.  No thank you note.  All the invited guests got one but I heard none of the plus ones did.  That really grinds my gears!!  

Post # 13
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was just venting about this.  I didn’t attend a wedding in October, but I still sent a gift and I tracked it so I know it got there.  Not a word.  I guess technically it hasn’t been a year but still….

I really feel people have no manners anymore.

Post # 14
2742 posts
Sugar bee

@DEBeachGirl:  This makes me so mad. It’s not a YEAR people. You send it when you get the gift. Not a year later. Folks have a year to give you a gift but you don’t have  a year to thank them. Anyhow, I’ve been to a few weddings where I didn’t get a thank you card. I sent mine a bit under the 2 months mark and even then I was a bit ashamed. I know it’s tedious but you just spent countless hours working on your wedding. It takes a few hours more to write about 70-100 cards if you had a big wedding. You can even space it over a week or two. Sorry for the rant. This etiquette lapse really ticks me.

Post # 15
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@bRooklynRocks:  I don’t know why people think it makes sense that you supposedly have a year.. and if a guest does send you gift a year later, why should that have anything to do with making the person who gave you a gift the day of wait that long for a thank-you?

Post # 16
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We attended five weddings last year and only received a thank you note from two of those couples. It is indeed kind of odd. I’ll definitely be doing thank you cards but maybe it’s just something that a lot of couples forget or something? I’m not sure.

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