Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years in late October and this evening we were talking about weddings and marriage. We’ve talked about this a lot before, but tonight he finally gave an inidication of timeline. He’s the sort of person who likes to make careful choices and doesn’t rush things (for instance, we’ve even decided to wait until engagement for sex), and he told me that he thinks that around 3 years of dating is a “good time for engagement” and “would seem appropriate.” Ok, so that’s a little longer than I would’ve liked but I am only 22, so I guess I’ve got a bit of time. Obviously, a lot can happen before then and it’s important to me that he proposes when he’s ready, but I’m so glad he’s given some sort of indication.
14 months seems like a long time away, but at least he’s talking about it! =)
Post # 3
I think that’s totally reasonable considering your age. FI and I are getting married when we’re 24 after 6 years together. That would be way too long to wait if we were in our 30s, but I think it’s better to wait longer the younger you are.
Post # 4
I agree, I think that’s appropriate for your age. If it bothers you, why don’t you tell him?
Post # 5
Fourteen months seems like an eternity, but time flies!
Everything happens for a reason.
My advice would be to use this time to get to know each other even better and focus on bettering your relationship rather than focusing on engagement.
Post # 6
I totally agree that that timeline is perfect. I am 22 as well, and will be engaged any moment now! Definitely before Christmas, and it will be after 3 years of dating as well. When we talked “timeline” much earlier in our relationship, my guy said he thinks proposing between 1 and 3 years of dating is good. He’s waiting until the very end of that timeline for us, but we’re young too, so what’s the hurry. It gives you more time getting to know eachother!
Enjoy every minute of your “boyfriend”, because you won’t be able to call him that forever 🙂
Post # 7
I had to wait 3 years for my engagement. I already wanted to at 2 years, but I’d just started graduate school and it wouldn’t have been an ideal time. It was TOOORTURE waiting a whole year. But it is so worth it in the end!! It’ll go by SO fast!!! 😀
Post # 8
I have to respectfully disagree with pp. I don’t think it has anything to do with your age vs. how long you have been together. I think it has to do with how fast you’re moving in your relationship and what your immediate goals are. Every couple is different. If three years is a timeline that yall are both comfortable with then that’s wonderful.
If you know the man and you know that he’s the one and he feels the same way, then why does time matter?
Trust yourself and him.
Good luck and congrats!
Post # 9
@EvenAngelsFall: The thing is, how do you know he’s the man, if you haven’t been dating for very long? I know a lady who dated a guy who she thought was “the one” and absolutely “perfect”. She “knew him SO well after they were dating for 3 months”.
They got married early, with a short engagement. They divorced after 2 years after he’d sent her to the hospital with broken ribs and limbs 4 times.
Post # 11
@MrsJenBee: I think you’re absolutely right, but in my head that bit was common sense. You have to get ready when you feel comfortable enough making that huge decision. My SO has told me numerous times that he will propose when he wants to and that he’s only going to do this once. I feel the same way.