(Closed) "Through a rapists eyes" – Interview with incarcerated rapists…

posted 5 years ago in Legal
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Edit, not comfortable leaving comment up.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@UpstateCait:  That’s better than I thought it might be! Thanks for passing it along. 🙂

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yikes….Prob not the best idea for me to read this before bed! I tend to be so paranoid-but always thought that if I’m on the phone, it may serve as a deterrant because someone on the phone would hear the comotion (think: the movie Taken where the girl kidnapped yells out “6’0! TATTOO ON WRIST!..ETC”. I will also not wear my hair in a pony when walking to my car anymore…ugh. I hate that women have to think of such awful things. I’d like to put my rose colored glasses back on now… 🙁

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’ve gotten this in an email before. Definitely seems like good advice… the only one I’d question is taking the elevator instead of the stairs… it can’t be any better to be trapped in an elevator than to be trapped in a stairwell, can it? :-/

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I never, ever would have guessed grocery store parking lots as the most popular abduction site. Is that like a Wal-Mart/Target? I feel like our grocery parking lots always have enough people around even after dark.

The stuff about fighting back being a deterrent – I can’t imagine that a woman doesn’t fight back? They just made it sound like it’s so easy to scare them off.

I will say I do have a habit of sitting in my car after doing something (but never at night) so I’ll definitely be more cautious of that. 

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m using my android so I can’t copy/ paste the link. Can someone send it to me in a pm, I’d really like to read this.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@UpstateCait:  isn’t there usually an emergency call button in an elevator? 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This is another perspective, but I have heard that these types of “tips” are not helpful for women. 

This article explains it well:

http://dukegroups.duke.edu/develledish/2011/a-plea-to-stop-the-circulation-of-through-a-rapists-eyes/

There has been a message “Through a Rapist’s Eyes” circulating through emails and Facebook lately. Claiming to expose research findings about what rapists “look for in a potential victim,” the piece seems to come from a place of care to warn women of all the ways they can prevent sexual assault. However, despite this intention, the tips do more to contribute to the myth of stranger rape and victim-blaming (that you are most likely to get raped by a stranger, that a woman can protect herself from rape and that if she fails to do so, it is her fault).

The message sensationalizes rape and plants a seed of fear while ignoring facts such as how stranger rape accounts for 10-20% of all rapes, and how 70-80% of victims know their assailants.¹ The email is actually a hoax that came out in 2001.² But people are still buying into these myths about rape:

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ETA: I did not click on the link to see the original… I feel like I have seen the same sort of thing over and over at school, through email, news, women’s mags, etc. I guess Im tired of hearing everywhere how I should be vigilant 24/7 or I will get raped… it’s exhausting, and for me, for many personal reasons, it is not a helpful way to look at everyday life, rape is something that I am already paranoid about and terrified of, like many women. :/

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

While there are some interesting things to think about, I’d just like to point out that women are far more likely to be sexually assaulted by someone they know, who use coercion or take advantage of a friend who’s already had a couple of drinks. I think it can be very useful to take self defense classes, if for no other reason than to empower ourselves, but we should keep in mind that it can be intensely difficult to punch someone we had always thought of as a friend. 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@teabiscuit:  Yes! I see we were posting at the same time, but you said it much better than I did.

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