throwing myself a pity party.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
7153 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

@theEguarantee:  I’m sorrry you’re feeling down. i just want to remind you of a true fact, that what we see on the outside isn’t everything. I’ve found that the people you think have it all are often hiding some pretty painful stuff. If what you say about her history is true, and not just a moment of upset, logic suggests that this is not a love match. And that is really sad for her. 

If you know your SO loves you and you love him for the right reasons, you are the person who has everything, ring or not. You didn’t do anything wrong, and you might hve actually done something smarter than your friend. But it’s not a competition or a race. Don’t forget the real prize, a person who loves you for the right reasons and a solid relationship. 

it will happen for you:-)

Post # 5
7153 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

@theEguarantee: my pleasure.  I’m so glad you feel better!  I will be looking for your proposal thread! Hugs:-)

Post # 6
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Oh boy do feel you girl! A good friend of mine got engaged a bit ago and it actually was the first time I even realized that I should be in line for that! I have been faithful and comitted for over three years, why is she getting it so friggin soon. At first, I was absolutely so unbelievably confused, I just did not understand!! I definitely see where you’re coming from and I honestly feel that as long as you can work through those feelings and come to term with them, then normal emotion and IT HAPPENS! Don’t stress about feeling this way 🙂

It honestly didn’t take me long to realize that different things happen for different people at different times and some of the absolute strongest marriages I know are marriages of people who were together 5+ years before they married. It does not make our relationship lss valid. In fact, we are so strong and secure in each other that the paper is irrelevent. Would I like to get mrried? Absolutely. But I know deep down that he is the one and as long as I can ejoy hm and our time together, who the heck cares about anything, or anyone!, else. 

I know it is not always the case but too often people rush to the altar and then rush off of it as fast as they came. Your time is solidifying what you have, not taking away from it. And by the sunds of it, engagement ring or not, that girl does NOT have what you have going for you!

Post # 8
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@theEguarantee:  Aw! We’ve all felt this way – trust me. At the end of the day, you have to remember two things: 1) it’s not a race (if it were, I shouldn’t even be on WB as I should have resigned myself to cat lady status after being 30 and waiting, lol) and 2) do you really want that person’s (the one that got engaged before you/quickly) relationship? I can’t imagine someone who cheats all the time having a secure and happy relationship – I’m sorry.

As long as you have discussed marriage with your SO, your 8 and half years together gives you a very solid foundation upon which to build your engagement and then marriage (WHEN it comes!). It’s really nothing to be depressed about – as long as you two are on the same page, and you say your engagement is coming so I am assuming you are. 🙂

Hugs and as it’s Friday and margaritas are in order – CHEERS! 🙂

Post # 10
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i think i read something similar.. neither hte size of your wedding, or your diamond, makes a wedding.. that takes something else. 


From the outside, its easy to be jealous of others, I feel the same a lot 🙂 but even if that girl has a Harry Winston honker and a walking bank.. she doesnt have your relationship. Focus on the positives hun and remember, its a new day tomorrow. You can choose to think about it differently. Hang on! thats what the waiting boards are for!

Post # 11
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

@theEguarantee:  Literally 10 minutes ago.. a girl that is 3 years younger than me (so she’s 20) and has been dating her SO for 2 years less than me (so for 1 year) just announced her engagement on facebook. I’m not one to normally judge them for being young or rushing or anything.. but you just kinda get the feeling in the pit of your stomach, ya know? Definitely a little jealous right now. So I will gladly join you in your pity party 😉

Post # 12
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@theEguarantee:  I am sorry that you are going through this.  The first line you wrote about the man getting broke up with the day before his wedding day and just now getting engaged a year later…HE might have some problems.  When you get engaged, it will be for real and it will be right.

I’ve had a hard time doing this-but try not to measure your relationship according to other people’s.  EASIER said than done, trust me, I know…but it sounds like you have the real deal with your partner and who knows how long this other relationship will last.  HUGS 😀



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