- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I’m a bridesmaid (one of four) in my best friend’s wedding, and we are going to be throwing her bridal shower at my house in February.
The back story: My DH and I recently met with a financial planner, as we just bought this house and have a baby on the way in March, so budgeting is crucial at the moment. We’re on a SUPER TIGHT budget now (so tight that I had a breakdown after the meeting was over). The FP budgeted in $125 for me to spend on the shower, and not a dime more. I told her I thought that was more than enough because my plan was for the shower to be the bride’s gift, and that I wouldn’t get her an actual, physical gift. But now, I’m starting to feel bad about that! I WANT to get her a gift. Not in a million years would she expect a separate gift, nor would she care either way. I’m sure of that. This is all just me wanting to give, give, give.
The bridesmaids understand our situation and all have graciously offered to cover the extra costs if for some reason the expenses of the shower were to go over $125 per person. So that’s incredibly kind, wonderful and generous of them, and I don’t have to worry about going over budget in that regard now.
But what about a gift? We’ll obviously be giving them a wedding gift at the actual wedding in June. That has been pre-budgeted for as well. But what would you do about a shower gift in my situation? Shower = her gift? Or get a separate gift, even if it’s something small and inexpensive?
I’m sure I’m over-thinking this. Just want to hear some voices of reason. Thank you!! 🙂