Post # 1
My fiance and I want to get married on a Thursday evening (for a lot a reasons) and when we talked about to our priest about it, he actually didn’t know if it was allowed. I understand no Sundays, but has anyone ever gotten married on any other day besides Saturday? Why wouldn’t he know? I’m so confused and ready to have a melt down, because this will set the tone for the rest of the wedding.
Post # 3
Hmm I’ve never heard of this. Is your priest checking with anyone? Could you call the Diocesan office? Saturday isn’t any special wedding day, I think it just tends to be most convenient for everyone.
I’ve heard of Catholic weddings happening on Sundays and on Fridays, so I think it’d be okay.
What are your reasons for Thursday? I’m intrigued! And don’t worry, you’ll figure something out!
Post # 4
I don’t see why it would be a problem. You can have mass any day of the week, and really, that’s what a Catholic wedding is…plus the vows. I’d make a phone call and find out for sure.
Post # 5
My parents were married on a Wednesday in a Catholic church, and my aunt was married on a Friday night. However, a Catholic wedding is NOT allowed on a Sunday, or any other day of obligation (New Year’s, Easter) or during Lent.
Post # 6
Well at my church they ONLY marry people on Saturdays…period…..so it probably depends on the parish.
Post # 7
I too think that it depends on the parish. I’ve done my research on churches around the area and no one seems to have a Thursday night wedding — I’ve only seen Friday and Saturday nights.
Post # 8
Well, Thursday weddings… Catholic or not are very rare. I get maybe 1 inquiry a year from a non Fri-Sun bride. Odds are, he’s just never come across a thursday wedding before.
As long as your wedding does not interfere with scheduled Sacraments… i.e Mass/Confession or standing ministerial commitments like an Every Thursday hospital visit etc… you should be good to go. There’s no “rule” or “standard’ that should prevent it other than plain ol unavailability.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the feedback. A little update: he’s a newer priest but I wouldn’t have known that since I’m new to the parish. It’s not that we wouldn’t be allowed, he’s just making sure that nothing internally goes on that night (Parish Council, Religious Ed stuff, etc…) Not sure why my fiance didn’t clue me in since he grew up in that parish but that’s for another time.
The reason for a Thursday evening wedding is because my side of the family is scattered all over the US and a lot still live in Puerto Rico. The last weekend in July is when everyone comes into town and we have an informal reunion. I think it started that way because we have a ridiculous amount of birthdays in July.
I didn’t want to derail anything already being planned so I thought getting married on Thursday night would kick off the whole long weekend. It was just dumb luck that a Thursday night would not only work really well for my fiance’s side of the family (all teachers and self-employed) but it turned out to be incredibly cheaper. We can have our dream wedding for about half the price.
I recently jumped shipped from weddingchannel.com. I’m so glad to find you all here! Thank you so much!!
Post # 10
we are getting married this coming Thursday, as in the day after tomorrow! 🙂 We wanted a very small intimate ceremony before all our guests come in for the Weekend Wedding. We weren’t so much worried about the cost, but more the convenience factor of our non-catholic guests. There also isn’t a catholic church that would marry non-members on the beach.
Post # 11
@afbacher: I am getting married in a Catholic church during lent. The only difference is my flowers cannot stay and decorate the church, they have to leave when the ceremony is over. (saves me money, they can be moved to the venue)
Post # 12
@LY1923: It depends on the parish. I am also getting married during Lent, but our church is in high demand (they actually do 4 weddings every Saturday!). We aren’t allowed to bring in any altar flowers, but it’s a beautiful church, so that was fine with me.
Some churches don’t allow any weddings or baptisms because it is supposed to be a time of solemn reflection, not celebration. I know at my childhood church, I always hated mass post-Easter because there would be 5+ babies getting baptized every week for a few weeks, catching up!