How do you really feel about a Thursday night wedding?
Our coveted location does not give discounts for Friday nights but will for Mondays through Thursdays. My initial thought is people may enjoy having a reason to take a three day weekend, but my fiance isn't sold on it. I would like to get some feedback from people who have either had, or attended a Thursday wedding.
Oh, and the ceremony and reception will be held at the same location so people won't have to travel.
We were invited to one but had to decline. Due to travel times, to make sure of getting to the wedding, we'd've had to leave on Wednesday, and my FI was not into using up 3 vacation days on a wedding. But we have to plan our vacations very carefully, and honestly, using three days for a wedding is something we wouldn't be likely to do. I'd look at how many people that are really important to you will have to travel a long distance. If most of your guests aren't travelling, go for it.
I attended one recently. It ended out working ok because we stuck it at the beginning of a family vacation, but it did mess with our plans a lot more than a Friday or Saturday wedding would. I didn't like the idea of a Saturday wedding much either, but it's generally better for everyone.
I think it really depends on whether your guests will be mostly in-town or if they're traveling far distances to be there. It's hard enough getting people to come in from OOT for our Saturday night wedding, so I can imagine people's hesitation to come to a Thursday night wedding! I think every case is different though, so you have to assess what makes best sense for you. Have you talked to your family and friends about this? Gauging their reactions might help you make your decision- if they are really hesitant, then your work might be cut out for you! Good luck!
Honestly, I attended a Friday night wedding this summer and people complained about that. Ceremony was at 6 so even people who aren't out of town have to leave work early. But then, I'm having my wedding on January 3, a Saturday at 4pm. I figured that would be good because most ppl won't have to work that Friday because it's right after new years. People still complained. Some people are going to complain no matter what you do. You just have to make sure the people that are most important to you are going to be there and then do what YOU want to do.
I think a Thursday wedding would be a no-go. Could you possibly have a Sunday afternoon wedding instead? Not many people would want to take a vacation day for the day after your wedding... remember, your wedding isn't as important to other people as it is to you.
my cousin got married on a Thursday and even though i was excited to be part of his special day, it was a MAJOR pain in the butt having to leave early from work, go home and get ready, sit through traffic and then to leave early because we had to work the next day. if you have a choice, please dont do that to your guests. but if there is not other option then do it. its your day afterall!
i went to a friday one once, and it was a pain. it was an hour drive away, but w/ limited vacation days it was difficult... i left early and got there on time but she had expected more people for her wedding and was way below her guarentee min. guests.
How do you really feel about a Thursday night wedding?
Our coveted location does not give discounts for Friday nights but will for Mondays through Thursdays. My initial thought is people may enjoy having a reason to take a three day weekend, but my fiance isn't sold on it. I would like to get some feedback from people who have either had, or attended a Thursday wedding.
Oh, and the ceremony and reception will be held at the same location so people won't have to travel.
posted by Shereef79 1 posts 3 months agoWe were invited to one but had to decline. Due to travel times, to make sure of getting to the wedding, we'd've had to leave on Wednesday, and my FI was not into using up 3 vacation days on a wedding. But we have to plan our vacations very carefully, and honestly, using three days for a wedding is something we wouldn't be likely to do. I'd look at how many people that are really important to you will have to travel a long distance. If most of your guests aren't travelling, go for it.
posted by ninanina 48 posts 3 months agoI attended one recently. It ended out working ok because we stuck it at the beginning of a family vacation, but it did mess with our plans a lot more than a Friday or Saturday wedding would. I didn't like the idea of a Saturday wedding much either, but it's generally better for everyone.
posted by historykitty 33 posts 3 months agoI think it really depends on whether your guests will be mostly in-town or if they're traveling far distances to be there. It's hard enough getting people to come in from OOT for our Saturday night wedding, so I can imagine people's hesitation to come to a Thursday night wedding! I think every case is different though, so you have to assess what makes best sense for you. Have you talked to your family and friends about this? Gauging their reactions might help you make your decision- if they are really hesitant, then your work might be cut out for you! Good luck!
posted by mssweettea 72 posts 3 months agoHonestly, I attended a Friday night wedding this summer and people complained about that. Ceremony was at 6 so even people who aren't out of town have to leave work early. But then, I'm having my wedding on January 3, a Saturday at 4pm. I figured that would be good because most ppl won't have to work that Friday because it's right after new years. People still complained. Some people are going to complain no matter what you do. You just have to make sure the people that are most important to you are going to be there and then do what YOU want to do.
posted by klheasley 11 posts 2 months agoI think a Thursday wedding would be a no-go. Could you possibly have a Sunday afternoon wedding instead? Not many people would want to take a vacation day for the day after your wedding... remember, your wedding isn't as important to other people as it is to you.
posted by briannie 183 posts 1 month agomy cousin got married on a Thursday and even though i was excited to be part of his special day, it was a MAJOR pain in the butt having to leave early from work, go home and get ready, sit through traffic and then to leave early because we had to work the next day. if you have a choice, please dont do that to your guests. but if there is not other option then do it. its your day afterall!
posted by WMforever 43 posts 1 month agoi went to a friday one once, and it was a pain. it was an hour drive away, but w/ limited vacation days it was difficult... i left early and got there on time but she had expected more people for her wedding and was way below her guarentee min. guests.
posted by superstar 157 posts 1 month ago