How do you really feel about a Thursday night wedding?
Our coveted location does not give discounts for Friday nights but will for Mondays through Thursdays. My initial thought is people may enjoy having a reason to take a three day weekend, but my fiance isn't sold on it. I would like to get some feedback from people who have either had, or attended a Thursday wedding.
Oh, and the ceremony and reception will be held at the same location so people won't have to travel.
We were invited to one but had to decline. Due to travel times, to make sure of getting to the wedding, we'd've had to leave on Wednesday, and my FI was not into using up 3 vacation days on a wedding. But we have to plan our vacations very carefully, and honestly, using three days for a wedding is something we wouldn't be likely to do. I'd look at how many people that are really important to you will have to travel a long distance. If most of your guests aren't travelling, go for it.
I attended one recently. It ended out working ok because we stuck it at the beginning of a family vacation, but it did mess with our plans a lot more than a Friday or Saturday wedding would. I didn't like the idea of a Saturday wedding much either, but it's generally better for everyone.
I think it really depends on whether your guests will be mostly in-town or if they're traveling far distances to be there. It's hard enough getting people to come in from OOT for our Saturday night wedding, so I can imagine people's hesitation to come to a Thursday night wedding! I think every case is different though, so you have to assess what makes best sense for you. Have you talked to your family and friends about this? Gauging their reactions might help you make your decision- if they are really hesitant, then your work might be cut out for you! Good luck!
Honestly, I attended a Friday night wedding this summer and people complained about that. Ceremony was at 6 so even people who aren't out of town have to leave work early. But then, I'm having my wedding on January 3, a Saturday at 4pm. I figured that would be good because most ppl won't have to work that Friday because it's right after new years. People still complained. Some people are going to complain no matter what you do. You just have to make sure the people that are most important to you are going to be there and then do what YOU want to do.
I think a Thursday wedding would be a no-go. Could you possibly have a Sunday afternoon wedding instead? Not many people would want to take a vacation day for the day after your wedding... remember, your wedding isn't as important to other people as it is to you.
my cousin got married on a Thursday and even though i was excited to be part of his special day, it was a MAJOR pain in the butt having to leave early from work, go home and get ready, sit through traffic and then to leave early because we had to work the next day. if you have a choice, please dont do that to your guests. but if there is not other option then do it. its your day afterall!
i went to a friday one once, and it was a pain. it was an hour drive away, but w/ limited vacation days it was difficult... i left early and got there on time but she had expected more people for her wedding and was way below her guarentee min. guests.
We really wanted a Thursday date...and are considering the pros and cons now. I thought maybe it being on Thursday would give a good excuse to people who did not really want to come:)
we're having a sunday wedding and we're having a lot of declines from oot guests due to the day. i'm sure thursday would be even harder for people.
We are having a Thursday wedding. The people that matter will be there, so we are not worried about it. We are paying of the entire wedding/reception ourselves and it fit our budget much better and we love the date.
To all of the neysayers about a Thursday wedding...Those closest to you will be more than happy to take the time off to be a part of your special day. We are having a Thursday wedding and most of our guests are coming from out of town. Our family knows how tight our budget is and that having it on a Thursday was the best option for us. Plus, since it's during the summer, we figured people could make it a 4-5 day vacation since we live in a coastal city. Point being, those closest to you will be there and those that can't be bothered to take a couple of days off of work to celebrate with you have messed up priorities. Hope this helps others!
I just got into a big fight over a Thursday date. My fiancee acutally likes the idea but his mother doesnt. She said that "no one would come" since it was on a Thursday.
It's the day before Friday, which is the day before a weekend. It's less travel hassle during the week (airlines) and it's not hurting the pocket.
I'm glad missyx84 said what was said. I feel better about my date.
I'm sure this is all resolved for the OP, but for anyone googling "Thursday weddings", you might end up here. And I say if it's your dream venue and you can't afford a Friday, go for it, as long as the people you really want there are willing to take the time off. As for the others, if they can't make it, so be it. It's true no one cares as much about your wedding as you, but in metropolitan areas especially, venues are unbelievably expensive (and sometimes you just can't cut the list of invitees without drama)- and it doesn't make sense to break the bank to please other people; it's your money and after all, you care the most about the day, so make yourself and fiance happy!
On a side note, I'm sure this will raise some ire, but though it's one thing if the boss just won't let you have off, I find it interesting that even with permisson, how 9 to 5'ers still just can't spare those paid vacation days for a huge day for (presumably) someone important to them (unless they're NOT important to you, which is another story- then just don't go). For those that work in the restaurant business and serve the rest of us nights and weekends, it's just de rigeur for them to have to take time off for things like weekend weddings- and quite often in that business, you don't work, you don't get paid. Obviously everyone has their priorities, but having many friends who work in restaurants/bars pointing this out to me certainly gave me a fresh perspective on the matter.
I am having a Thursday night wedding, it is actually the Thursday before Easter. My fiancé and I both work for the airlines and so do most of our guests. So it will actually be easier for our guests to get those days off. Also our vacation only works with us getting Sunday-Saturday, so a weekend wedding would be too iffy and difficult for us to do. Hopefully with it being a holiday weeK people might be able to have Thursday off.
It really depends on the location and the time of year.At my old job I would have had a hard time getting Thursday and Friday off at month-end or quarter-end. Most of my friends in accounting would feel the same way. I know other people who just started their job this year and can't take off any vacation days.
If it was a local wedding I wouldn't mind, but since most of my friends/family live 6 hours+ from here, It would be at least 2 days off work if I could get it.
For a good friend I'd make the effort though!
Even though this was resolved, I wanted to throw in my two cents.
We are having a Thursday wedding for many reasons
1. The venue is 2000 on a saturday and 750 during the week
2. My fiance is in the army and has to go to drill one weekend a month and it could be the first, second, or third weekend of the month and his side of the bridal party are the same way. They have to be gone friday-sunday
3. I'm in nursing school and our wedding is next May and May will be the only month I am able to have the wedding in that won't interfere with school (the problem is that a wedding would NOT be considered an appropriate excuse to not work my hospital shift for school if I had my wedding during the spring or summer semesters
4. May is a very popular month to get married in and even though I have plenty of time, I don't want to battle it out with other brides for my vendors
5. Alot of the guests that work usually can't take off a saturday (I worked retail for awhile and it was a battle to take off during the weekend for anything)
I accepted that our guests, especially older family members will leave around 8pm, which is fine. It's the younger group that really wants to party the night away anyway. We get the venue until Midnight, so my fiance and I will probably make our exit around 10p and I'm sure after that most people will leave.
My aunt said that with enough notice, they could definitely work out their schedules. The only person that's really complained is my mom because she doesn't want to make sure our centerpieces get home at a late hour but she's still willing to do it.
I also feel like with it being in the summer months, most people will be treating a Thursday like a Friday anyway ( I know college students do anyway!)
I personally hate Thursday night weddings, because it forces me to take a half day (to get ready) on Thursday, as well as all day Friday. If I have to travel, it may involve even more time off. I think they put more of a burden on your guests, even though they are very cost effective for the couple. I can honestly say I'd consider saying no to a Thursday wedding because of how inconvenient they tend to be, unless I was really close to the couple, or if the venue was really close.
I would also maybe duck out after the cocktail hour so I could avoid having to take Friday off from work, if I was local.
ETA: I just saw this is 3 years old. So... guess my point is moot anyway!
Yeah I'd be bummed if I was invited to a Thursday wedding...
Unless I would take a bullet for you, I probably wouldn't go, and that's A LOT being said because I LOVE WEDDINGS...
I'd definitely recommend a Sunday afternoon instead of a Thursday.
I'm getting married on a Friday night which may or may not be annoying for people but I LOVE FRIDAYS and people should hopefully enjoy the excuse to start the weekend early ;D
I think runfaster made a lot of sense (last year, lol). When I was younger, I worked in the service industry and I took off many, many Saturday nights to be at celebrations for my guests, a big financial hit since it's not a paid day off. I am thinking about a Thursday wedding, not really "saving" anything on it but to get a great place I couldn't touch otherwise. I've been polling family members. Turns out, a lot of people have pretty flexible work schedules, etc., and if I decide to do it, I don't think it will be a problem with enough notice. Anyone traveling in would be staying a few days anyway. And it's in the summer, so no hassle with kids' school schedules. I don't know. I am wavering on this. I am going to see the place tommorrow, so I guess I will know then. I am waiting for that "this is it" moment so many brides-to-be describe, so I want to keep an open mind.
I am having a Thursday evening wedding and I sent out a mass text message when we were deciding to do it. People were willing to make the sacrifice. It helps that I am in the hospitality industry with most close friends from college and work being in the industry so a Thursday night off is easier than a Friday/Saturday. As for the family members, they are close to the wedding location so they are willing to take the one day off or two day if they wanna stay over night at the hotel just for fun.
people will always have something to complain about. and at the end of the day your the one paying for the wedding and will be married to the man of your dreams so dont let people change what you want to do. :) happy planning! and congrats! :)
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