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Honestly, I attended a Friday night wedding this summer and people complained about that.  Ceremony was at 6 so even people who aren't out of town have to leave work early.  But then, I'm having my wedding on January 3, a Saturday at 4pm.  I figured that would be good because most ppl won't have to work that Friday because it's right after new years.  People still complained.  Some people are going to complain no matter what you do.  You just have to make sure the people that are most important to you are going to be there and then do what YOU want to do.

We really wanted a Thursday date...and are considering the pros and cons now.  I thought maybe it being on Thursday would give a good excuse to people who did not really want to come:)

I'm sure this is all resolved for the OP, but for anyone googling "Thursday weddings", you might end up here. And I say if it's your dream venue and you can't afford a Friday, go for it, as long as the people you really want there are willing to take the time off. As for the others, if they can't make it, so be it. It's true no one cares as much about your wedding as you, but in metropolitan areas especially, venues are unbelievably expensive (and sometimes you just can't cut the list of invitees without drama)- and it doesn't make sense to break the bank to please other people; it's your money and after all, you care the most about the day, so make yourself and fiance happy!

On a side note, I'm sure this will raise some ire, but though it's one thing if the boss just won't let you have off, I find it interesting that even with permisson, how 9 to 5'ers still just can't spare those paid vacation days for a huge day for (presumably) someone important to them (unless they're NOT important to you, which is another story- then just don't go). For those that work in the restaurant business and serve the rest of us nights and weekends, it's just de rigeur for them to have to take time off for things like weekend weddings- and quite often in that business, you don't work, you don't get paid. Obviously everyone has their priorities, but having many friends who work in restaurants/bars pointing this out to me certainly gave me a fresh perspective on the matter.

Even though this was resolved, I wanted to throw in my two cents. 

We are having a Thursday wedding for many reasons

1. The venue is 2000 on a saturday and 750 during the week

2. My fiance is in the army and has to go to drill one weekend a month and it could be the first, second, or third weekend of the month and his side of the bridal party are the same way. They have to be gone friday-sunday

3. I'm in nursing school and our wedding is next May and May will be the only month I am able to have the wedding in that won't interfere with school (the problem is that a wedding would NOT be considered an appropriate excuse to not work my hospital shift for school if I had my wedding during the spring or summer semesters

4. May is a very popular month to get married in and even though I have plenty of time, I don't want to battle it out with other brides for my vendors

5. Alot of the guests that work usually can't take off a saturday (I worked retail for awhile and it was a battle to take off during the weekend for anything)

I accepted that our guests, especially older family members will leave around 8pm, which is fine. It's the younger group that really wants to party the night away anyway. We get the venue until Midnight, so my fiance and I will probably make our exit around 10p and I'm sure after that most people will leave.

My aunt said that with enough notice, they could definitely work out their schedules. The only person that's really complained is my mom because she doesn't want to make sure our centerpieces get home at a late hour but she's still willing to do it. 

I also feel like with it being in the summer months, most people will be treating a Thursday like a Friday anyway ( I know college students do anyway!)