Thursday Night Weddings

posted 6 years ago in Orange County, California
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Worker bee

                           We were invited to one but had to decline. Due to travel times, to make sure of getting to the wedding, we’d've had to leave on Wednesday, and my FI was not into using up 3 vacation days on a wedding. But we have to plan our vacations very carefully, and honestly, using three days for a wedding is something we wouldn’t be likely to do. I’d look at how many people that are really important to you will have to travel a long distance. If most of your guests aren’t travelling, go for it.

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Worker bee

I attended one recently.  It ended out working ok because we stuck it at the beginning of a family vacation, but it did mess with our plans a lot more than a Friday or Saturday wedding would.  I didn’t like the idea of a Saturday wedding much either, but it’s generally better for everyone.

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Helper bee

I think it really depends on whether your guests will be mostly in-town or if they’re traveling far distances to be there. It’s hard enough getting people to come in from OOT for our Saturday night wedding, so I can imagine people’s hesitation to come to a Thursday night wedding! I think every case is different though, so you have to assess what makes best sense for you. Have you talked to your family and friends about this? Gauging their reactions might help you make your decision- if they are really hesitant, then your work might be cut out for you! Good luck!

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Newbee

Honestly, I attended a Friday night wedding this summer and people complained about that.  Ceremony was at 6 so even people who aren’t out of town have to leave work early.  But then, I’m having my wedding on January 3, a Saturday at 4pm.  I figured that would be good because most ppl won’t have to work that Friday because it’s right after new years.  People still complained.  Some people are going to complain no matter what you do.  You just have to make sure the people that are most important to you are going to be there and then do what YOU want to do.

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Helper bee

I think a Thursday wedding would be a no-go.  Could you possibly have a Sunday afternoon wedding instead?  Not many people would want to take a vacation day for the day after your wedding… remember, your wedding isn’t as important to other people as it is to you.

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Worker bee

my cousin got married on a Thursday and even though i was excited to be part of his special day, it was a MAJOR pain in the butt having to leave early from work, go home and get ready, sit through traffic and then to leave early because we had to work the next day. if you have a choice, please dont do that to your guests. but if there is not other option then do it. its your day afterall!

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Helper bee

i went to a friday one once, and it was a pain.  it was an hour drive away, but w/ limited vacation days it was difficult… i left early and got there on time but she had expected more people for her wedding and was way below her guarentee min. guests.

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Newbee

We really wanted a Thursday date…and are considering the pros and cons now.  I thought maybe it being on Thursday would give a good excuse to people who did not really want to come:)

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Bee Keeper

we’re having a sunday wedding and we’re having a lot of declines from oot guests due to the day. i’m sure thursday would be even harder for people.

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Bumble Beekeeper

We are having a Thursday wedding. The people that matter will be there, so we are not worried about it. We are paying of the entire wedding/reception ourselves and it fit our budget much better and we love the date.

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Wannabee

To all of the neysayers about a Thursday wedding…Those closest to you will be more than happy to take the time off to be a part of your special day. We are having a Thursday wedding and most of our guests are coming from out of town. Our family knows how tight our budget is and that having it on a Thursday was the best option for us. Plus, since it’s during the summer, we figured people could make it a 4-5 day vacation since we live in a coastal city. Point being, those closest to you will be there and those that can’t be bothered to take a couple of days off of work to celebrate with you have messed up priorities. Hope this helps others!

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Wannabee

I just got into a big fight over a Thursday date. My fiancee acutally likes the idea but his mother doesnt. She said that “no one would come” since it was on a Thursday.

 

It’s the day before Friday, which is the day before a weekend. It’s less travel hassle during the week (airlines) and it’s not hurting the pocket. 

 

I’m glad missyx84 said what was said. I feel better about my date.

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Newbee

I’m sure this is all resolved for the OP, but for anyone googling “Thursday weddings”, you might end up here. And I say if it’s your dream venue and you can’t afford a Friday, go for it, as long as the people you really want there are willing to take the time off. As for the others, if they can’t make it, so be it. It’s true no one cares as much about your wedding as you, but in metropolitan areas especially, venues are unbelievably expensive (and sometimes you just can’t cut the list of invitees without drama)- and it doesn’t make sense to break the bank to please other people; it’s your money and after all, you care the most about the day, so make yourself and fiance happy!

On a side note, I’m sure this will raise some ire, but though it’s one thing if the boss just won’t let you have off, I find it interesting that even with permisson, how 9 to 5′ers still just can’t spare those paid vacation days for a huge day for (presumably) someone important to them (unless they’re NOT important to you, which is another story- then just don’t go). For those that work in the restaurant business and serve the rest of us nights and weekends, it’s just de rigeur for them to have to take time off for things like weekend weddings- and quite often in that business, you don’t work, you don’t get paid. Obviously everyone has their priorities, but having many friends who work in restaurants/bars pointing this out to me certainly gave me a fresh perspective on the matter.

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Newbee

I am having a Thursday night wedding, it is actually the Thursday before Easter. My fiancé and I both work for the airlines and so do most of our guests. So it will actually be easier for our guests to get those days off. Also our vacation only works with us getting Sunday-Saturday, so a weekend wedding would be too iffy and difficult for us to do.  Hopefully with it being a holiday weeK people might be able to have Thursday off. 

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