Thursday rehearsal dinner????? NEED ADVICE!

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should we have our rehearsal on Thursday night and the dinner at the perfect restaurant or Friday?
    Perfect Thursday : (3 votes)
    38 %
    Convenient Friday : (5 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 2
    567 posts
    Busy bee

    lsfheid:  where are you located? are there really absolutely no other good options in the area?

    Post # 3
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are having a thursday rehearsal as our wedding is on friday, nobody has complained but I know some people won’t be able to make it.

    Post # 4
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    lsfheid:  But if you have it Thursday, wouldn’t they have to take off Thursday too? Surely, there is another option for Friday that is acceptable and everyone can make it?

    Post # 5
    4638 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would go for it if you feel that strongly but manage your expectations of people. Not everyone may be able to make it/ not want to go if they work the next morning.

    Post # 6
    3623 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    lsfheid:  I would be royally peeved about having to take off an extra day. I don’t care how perfect it is, if you only get 2 weeks of vacation a year, that is asking people to take 10% of their annual vacation for the perfect venue. It also adds an extra night of hotel costs and expenses. If I were your bridesmaid, I would probably fly out for it (grumbling to myself, not you), but tell my husband to skip it and meet me there before the wedding.

    Rehersal dinners don’t have to be perfect– I would absolutely make it as easy as possible for your friends and family.

    Post # 7
    5812 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    lsfheid:  The wedding is on Saturday? So I have to pay for another night of hotel just so we can eat at a cool restuarant–no thank you. AND, I’m just sitting around on Friday waiting for your Saturday wedding. I would not be happy…

    Post # 10
    567 posts
    Busy bee

    lsfheid:  ahh okay my FI’s family is from out that way. I’ve been to the French restaurant Brasserie Du Soleil in Ligonier and loved it. Honestly if I were attending your rehearsal I would rather have a bit of a drive between church and restaurant than to have to take a whole other day off. So if there are other options, even a bit of a drive away, I would research those in my opinion.

    Post # 11
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    lsfheid: “Three of my bridesmaids and 2 of his groomsmen are from out of town but they’re far enough away that they’d have to take Friday off anyway to make it in for a Friday night rehearsal”

    <br />What does this have to do with it? Wouldn’t that mean they’d have to ALSO take off Thursday to get to a Thursday night rehearsal? The rehearsal dinner is just, IMO, not that important. I would only have it on Thursday night if you’re okay with some of the bridal party not coming to the rehearsal (which is also not that big of deal, but I know to some brides it is).

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  carolinabelle.
    Post # 12
    322 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree with the other bees. Hold it on Friday. Otherwise your guests have taken off of work to hang around Friday night for nothing. They’re going to be tired and just ready to eat after flying in and doing a rehearsal. They won’t care what it looks like, and its a huge inconvenience to make them take another day off. See what you can do about finding a location and making it nice if its important to you. It will never be that perfect spot, but you can make it special. You all will likely be excited and enjoying your time catching up regardless of the location.

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