Thursday Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Thursday wedding OK?
    Yes- It's your wedding, you chose! Plus, it saves you so much $$! : (38 votes)
    40 %
    No- it is way too big of a hassle, no one will come. : (58 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had a Thursday wedding. I gave people plenty of time (STDs went out a year in advance) to request off from work and make travel arrangements. I didn’t get any negative comments at all from anyone. We only had 4 ‘no’ RSVPs and 100% of our guests were traveling at least an hour to get to the venue.

    Don’t get discouraged by the comments you might receive here, as it seems that many bees are strongly against weekday weddings. Sure not everyone can take off of work or would be willing to use their vacation days, but that is something you have to be prepared for with a weekday wedding. I would just check in with all of your most important guests to make sure that they would be able to make it.

    I initally was hesitant about having our wedding on a Thursday, but we didn’t meet the minimum headcount for Saturday. Now that its over I wouldnt have changed a thing.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @paygeee:  You are not yet engaged so I don’t REALLY think you should be scraping the bottom of the barrel just yet…Two years is a LONG time to plan a wedding and it should honestly be reasonable to be able to afford a weekend wedding. I would not expect 120 guests to be able to come during a weekday wedding. The wedding is REALLY your day but you should try to PLAN to accomadate your guest. I mean if crap hit the wall it would be understandable to have a week day wedding as a last resort but to always plan it that way? Seems a little inconsiderate, especially since a weekday wedding has not emotional value to you. 

    EDIT: Reading back this seemed a little harsh but I simply meant that you have time! I am sure a weekday wedding would be possible but personally I would struggle to attend a loved ones wedding that was on a weekday. For me that could mean missing school and work! If you absolutely have to have a weekday wedding then I am sure your guests would understand, I just think it is polite to try and offer them a more convienant time. 

     

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i think it’s fine. you just need to be ok with the idea that some guests may not be able to come. even local guests may have to make arrangements to get off work and like you said, that could be hard to do with it being so close to a holiday weekend.

     

    Post # 6
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    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @paygeee:  I think most companies that give the July 4th holiday will give it on that Friday, July 3rd since the 4th is a Saturday. I’m thinking that most people would have that Friday off anyways so it would work out really great. People could stay late and party hearty without thinking about work the next day. I kind of love the idea.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @paygeee:  It’s your wedding, so you should definitely choose what works best for you. Some people may not come, but you will get people who can’t go regardless of which day you choose. If it was my friend, I wouldn’t think twice about attending- I’d be there!!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Bear in mind that even if you give people a year’s notice they might not be able to submit requests for time off until a few months before.

    I would come if you were a close friend/family, but otherwise probably not. And some people might not be able to get the Friday off too, therefore they would have to leave the wedding early so they weren’t out late before work on Friday.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @paygeee:  I didn’t see the emotional attachment, I gave an opinion and that is that one should try to be accomadating to their guests. I didn’t say to absolutely avoid a weekday wedding I am simply suggesting that you wait to see your options. I am sure there is something nice and affordable, there always is. Even if given a year notice I couldn’t guarentee my spot at a wedding because I can’t ask for time off unless it is a month in advance but even then a thursday is a school day for me and I am not sure what would be going on during the course. I know you wrote this post to get other peoples opinions and I hate to be the one that isn’t all happy go lucky but a weekday wedding would REALLY be hard for me and I am sure it would be hard for other guests.

    I personally would prefer a DW on a weekend but that is just me, I would rather spend money than miss school. SOMEONE would come no matter what but I think to plan a weekday wedding right off the bat before you have had a chance to look at every cost effective option is just kind of jumping the gun. 

    In the end you will, can, and should do what is best for you and your SO 🙂

     

    Post # 12
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    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm

    I think in your circumstances that a Thursday wedding would work out really well. As you said, you’ve already talked to most of the people that would be attending. Personally, I love to have a reason to take off work and make it a long weekend hahaha. Even if I wasn’t able to get off work, it’s not really that exhausting to stay out until midnight on a weeknight and go to work the next day. I really don’t think it’s a big deal since you’ve thought it all out. 

    Post # 13
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    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Go for it!  Honestly I’d rather go to a wedding on that Thursday than have it ruin whatver plans I would have had for the weekend of the 4th!  

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Would I attend a wedding on a Thursday? Probably not. I might because of the holiday weekend…but I can’t take 1-2 days off. I have to take an entire week. It’s the way our PTO works.

    Only you know your guests though. Ask your mom, dad, a few friends and other family members what they think. If they all say “sounds great!” then go for it. If they are all telling you they won’t/can’t make it, then reconsider. The good thing, is you have PLENTY of time to decide.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t personally do it, but I see the appeal. 

    My biggest thing that I would be afraid of in your situation is I have visited Chicago on a weekday before.  The traffic is CRAZY, and I bet with it being the Thursday before a holliday weekend, it’s going to be worse.  People are going to want out for the weekend or in for the weekend.  With a weekend wedding, while Chicago traffic is always steady, you won’t have a rush hour problem.

    That said, if I were to do this, I would make sure most of your guests where up for one of two options;

    1. 3:00 PM wedding, reception close by or the same place so you guys are settled into your reception venue no later than 4:00, avoiding the worst traffic.

    2. 7:00 PM wedding, after all the traffic has passed, with a rather late reception. 

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