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Hi all. So I have a question and I want your honest opions. I know a lot of you are going to be saying to do whatever I want. What great etiquitte. However I do actually want your honest opinions.
I am one of those women who has dreampt about a wedding since I was very little wearing a white gown for Halloween. I also always imagined myself as a princess on my wedding day. And while a lot of what I have decided for my wedding has changed since the days of prince charming and my glass slippers I still want to feel like a princess on the day.
So now to get to the issue. I used to always picture myself wearing a tiara. Specifically the one Audrey Hepburn wore in Roman Holiday. I even found a replica store online.
http://www.tiaratown.com/ah1.html
But now that I am actually planning my wedding I am wondering if it is tacky to wear a tiara? Most of the time I see pictures of brides wearing them I do think how tacky and childish they look. Most of the time it just looks like they are playing dress up as little girls or like they were just names prom queen. Neither of which I want to look like. I would much rather look elegant and classic than tacky.
So is the tiara tacky or fabulous?
P.S. No dress yet...but I am picturing a simple dress. Preferably ball gown or A-Line and off the shoulders neck line. Very little if any detail work.
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I would never call it tacky because a lot of brides do choose to wear tiaras, but I would never wear one. I prefer a more simple look :)
Tiaras remind me of beauty pageants.
I don't think tacky is the right word for it. They're definitely not my style... I have absolutely zero desire to be a princess for a day. I think the Audrey Hepburn tiara is a bit TOO much, even for a wedding. She was a real princess in Roman Holiday after all (that's where this pic is from right?)! To me, there is a BIG difference between being a bride, and being a princess. That said, I think a smaller and less conspicuous tiara would work better. Hope that wasn't TOO honest! Just giving my 2 cents! :)
Oh no no ddubzz...that was exactly what I was looking for. Thank you for your honesty!
No dress yet. But it will be very simple and classic. Nothing modern with colors or lots of rhinestones or anything like that.
I think you could pull it off, but honestly, I have personally seen too many people NOT pull it off in my opinion, so I voted tacky. would you wear a veil with it? I think a tiara and veil together might be part of what I dislike. If your dress is simple enough and you go without a veil, it would look more classy, I think. good luck!
I wouldn't wear one only because it reminds me of being a "princess." I have a very natural and simple style so a tiara would never fit well for me. Every bride I have seen that has worn a tiara, has always been way overdone with hair, makeup and "bling." So, they give me a bad opinion based off of what I have seen. However, a small headband style tiara would be beautiful if you ask me...Simple and just the right touch. Good luck :)
I was adamant about not wearing a tiara. However, I wanted something so that it's not going to be just a plain veil on top of my head. Perhaps look into wearing some rhinestone/crystal hair ornament that is not in a shape of a full crown. Also, there are alot rhinestone headbands that look really pretty too.
I wouldn't say they are tacky. they are just in poor taste, (in my opinion). you can be "princess for a day" without taking it so literally. doesn't every bride feel like a prices on her day?
I think tiaras should be limited to actual royalty, beauty queens, and little girls playing dress up. Sorry, but that's my honest opinion. To me tiaras on a bride always look forced and very juvenille.
I'm voting "neither." I don't think they are tacky (I'm sick of "tacky" as a descriptor for anything wedding-related!), but personally I don't care for them at all--but I'm not into the whole princess-y thing on any level anyway. I wouldn't judge someone for wearing one, and I think they can actually look nice in limited circumstances, but you wouldn't catch me in one, ever!
Tacky is too subjective to automatically pin on something. I just think that a "crown-like" tiara seems more beauty pageant than bridal. Modern interpretations on tiaras can be really classy...kinda like the rhinestone headpieces/headbands of Jennifer Behr or Regina B. You get the glamourous look without the "I'm a Princess" message.
I think every girl deserves to wear a tiara at some point in their life....I wore mine to prom, and again to work....hehee.
I personally think that this particular tiara would be a bit too much, but agree with everyone else that you can still have a sparkly headpiece without going too far into "pageant queen" territory.
Maybe I don't fully understand the definition of tacky, but I think tacky (or in poor taste) is a way to describe if what someone is wearing is too revealing, flashy, takes away from the birde, etc. But not simply because a bride wants to wear something for her wedding day, that someone else doesn't think looks nice. I guess I understand having an issue if someone wearing a tiara turns them into a bossy queeny for a day.
I think tiaras were a popular trend, but are now fading. I do think that they are OK, if they are scaled down a bit. IMO, the Audrey Hepburn one is a bit much. But I think that it's hard to begrudge a bride who wants some sparkle in her hair.
I don't thinjk calling threm "tacky and childish" is a good way to start off--lots of women do wear them. And a lot of it is a regional thing.
I had a headpiece--not a tiara. A regular tiara didn't really look good with my hairstyle and was too up in my space. But if you want to wear one (a la audrey hepburn who is never tacky!) you can, just remember it should be a focal piece and downplay some other jewelry since it's so blingy.
There are so many versions of what is considered a tiara nowadays I think you should just pick your dress then accessorize around it.
To be honest, I really don't like them. I sort of cringe whenever I see a bride wearing one. They're not necessarily "tacky" in my opinion, but maybe "dated." What about a sparkly headband instead?
I agree with the rest of the gang, they are certainly not tack. In fact, right up to the day of purchasing my dress I assumed I'd wear one but as I started trying them on, I just preffered another look with my dress. It's individual style and gown.
Thanks everyone! I think I might look for a nice headband instead as some of you suggested. That way I still get the sparkle but am not over-doing it. I'll keep you updated!
I think that it depends. You can certainly find tiaras that go over the top and rival the crowns of British royalty, but I also think that they have some that are understated and that look elegant (especially if they match the detailing on your dress). As long as it isn't too flashy or gaudy, they are beautiful. You should definitely feel like a princess on your special day and if a nice tiara makes you feel that way, go for it :)
I agree w/other posters. I am not a fan of the word tacky. It's a matter of personal preference imho.
And it also happens to not be my preference. Tiaras seemed imho to be something we saw more of about five years ago. And as we are all aware of, things float back into and out of style all the time.
I also wouldnt use the word "tacky" because every bride does what is right for her, but there is something that bothers me about the look when considering it for myself. I think it is obviously one thing if you are actual royalty, but if you aren't I guess it seems like one is trying a little too hard to be something they aren't (ie royalty) which I guess bothers me because I don't want to be anyone else but me!
I am actually wearing a big ball gown, which I guess one could call a "princess" dress, though that is not the look I'm going for, and I'm considering either weaving some diamond jewelry of my mothers in my hair (fake would obviously work too) or using flowers in my hair. There are so many gorgeous flowers in different colors and shapes that can compliment any type of dress. I think flowers often look really elegant and can still frame your face or veil much like a tiara would. Just some other options, if you are interested! Ultimately, you should do what makes YOU happy, not anyone else :)
I also thought that I wanted a princess tiara but now as it gets closer I am leaning more towards a headpiece instead which I have tried on and still makes me feel like a princess!
I love some of the beaded headbands and jewelled flowers that I see nowdays. As for me, the jewelled flower is going to be my thing! I don't want a veil, but do want a touch of glamour.
I'm not a fan. Like another bee said, in Roman Holiday Audrey (we're on a first name basis 
) was an actual princess. Maybe scale it down a bit? David's Bridal has a TON of great head-wear. Some are a bit on the expensive side, but other's aren't. Here is the link to them. Have you thought about possibly just a headband rather than a tiara?
Personally I don't like the tiara/headpiece trend...it's one of those things that make me think brides try too hard to be a "princess" on their wedding day through appearances, rather than letting their joy shine out naturally at being married. I want to be myself when I'm married...besides, I'm a princess every day! :P I'd take flowers over sparkly headpieces any day.
As for you, do whatever you please!
Ok so I have taken everyones comments under consideration and I agree...this tiara is a bit much. Maybe something like this tiara from Davids Bridal would be better. Add a bit of sparkle but not over the top. Thanks thisismeAXid for the link!
Thank you everyone who has given me their advice. I really appreciate the honesty!
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I personally think most tiaras look tacky, but I am a firm believer that if you feel beautiful and special in it, then go for it! Who cares what anyone thinks?
There are great tiara alternatives though - like the headband idea and also great sparkly hair clips and hair jewelry. Also my SIL had a really cool tiara that was a cross between a headband and tiara - very low and more like a 'band'.
I think you should wear what you want!
I agree with everyone else that I think "tacky" is a little too harsh (I voted neither). Personally, I'm not a huge fan of the full-on tiaras, but I love the headband-like ones (actually just ilke the one you just posted).
I have a friend wearing a headband-style tiara, very similar to the one above, but she's wearing it like she would wear a tiara, not like a headband. Kind of hard to explain, but I think it's gorgeous and very elegant - not at all tacky!
The word tacky sucks, such bad karma.
I personally don't like them for me, but I see them very often down here, I agree that it is a regional thing. Also I think they were more trendy a few years ago, I see less of them these days.
Of course, seeng a pic with audrey its hard to say tacky... but there are so many things you can put in your hair. if you want bling, you could use a skinny headband, or pretty clips, even a flower brooch thing. You could also use real flowers in your hair, or find amazing fake flowers on etsy. ( http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=6296630 )
i say: go for it!
a tiara isn't for me -- but i completely disagree that it could be judged to be tacky or in poor taste any more than, for example, a giant, (faux) satin princess ball gown is.
this is simply a matter of fashion: dressing like cinderella is popular and accepted these days; big crowns aren't so popular these days... but why is everyone in such a rush to look like everyone else? why go with the flow, if a tiara's your dream?
if you think about it in the context of wedding-fashion history, i think you will feel more confient: have you seen the giant headdresses worn in victorian times, and edwardian times? or the wax-flower crowns worn up thru the 1940s? those were "faux" -- they weren't actually diamonds, or even real orange blossoms -- but they were the fashion then. and loooking back, they look FABULOUS to our eyes, today.
if you love a crown, this is your ONE TIME to wear it.
in short, i think brides who live in glass houses (and wear crinolines or cinderella gowns or miles of machine-made lace or any of the other fabulous faux-fashions) shouldn't cast stones at your dream!
As someone said above that tiaras are kind of dated but styles always come back around. I wore a tiara (actually it was pretty small but I guess you would still consider it a tiara) 7 years ago when I got married and I loved it and I can tell you it didn't look tacky.
I thought I might want to wear one for my wedding but I have decided to go with a flower/feather fasciantor. I designed it and then had an awesome gal on etsy make it for me and I love it. I will still wear a veil and then for the reception put the flower in my hair! I definetly will have some Texas hair poof going on, I am wearing my hair up but want some volume in the front so a lot of you girls might call it tacky but I gotta show my family some texas love since I am getting married in Colorado and my whole TX family will be there.
I am sure I will look back 5 years from now and thing what the heck was I thinking wearing a flower with a feather sticking out of it. HA!
Starcharades- I meant to include this in my post but here is a pic of my fascinator.
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I wouldn't wear one because I'll leave that to beauty and prom queens. BUT sometimes they can look lovely - I agree with the previous poster that you can't look at a picture of Audrey Hepburn then say "tacky".
It depends on the wearer. I couldn't pull it off, no one would take me seriously, as I tend to wear dollar-store tiaras at the drop of a hat.
My bf once mentioned wedding hats, at which I got the vision of a glorious satin top hat, with or without embellishments.
I don't know what my dress will look like (I don't really think about that sort of thing), but there will most certainly be a satin top hat.
Imo, I don't really think they are tacky as long as they are more subtle. Not like "bam! look at me" If the first thing you see when looking at a bride is her tiara, it might be a bit much lol I DID have a tiara, even though originally I didn't want one. I didn't have one for prom or anything before. I tried one on though and as sold. I figure it was my last chance in life to wear one, so I did! It will also make a great heirloom if any future daughter of mine were interested. Mine was actually barely visible in my hair most of the times lol Granted, it was probably a bit further back than it needed to be. I also didn't go crazy with accesories. Don't worry if something is "dated" or tacky though. If you REALLY like it, then give it a try because you'll never have this opportunity again!
I never considered a tiara for my wedding... I dreamt of wearing a long cathedral length veil that just tucked into my hair - it looked very timeless. I feel like the tiara "trend" is kind of making its way out for modern brides.
I wouldn't worry as much as what other people think, though, everyone has a different style. One of my friends just got married last October and wore a tiara and she pulled it off. Just because it may not something some of us would want to wear, doesn't mean you shouldn't wear it if it is YOU. All of our weddings here on the bee represent our own styles... just do what makes you happy. I'd hate for you to regret not wearing it just because of something we would say.
You know what's funny? In five years someone may write the same post like this for faux flower fascinators, skinny headbands, birdcage veils, etc.
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