Tie or no tie for the groom ?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should the groom wear a tie
    Yes : (7 votes)
    64 %
    No : (4 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 2
    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Your wedding sounds similar to mine and my husband did not wear a tie.  I was fine with it.  He wore a nice dress shirt under his suit that looked good open-collar and he looked great in my opinion.  Not once in looking back at my wedding photos have I thought “he should have worn a tie.” I just thought it was more important that he feel comfortable in what he was wearing than to force formality on him. 

    Post # 3
    2129 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    For your style of wedding I think he should suck it up; the other men will be wearing ties and he’ll look odd in pictures. Plus, no offence to him, but it’s really not a big deal to wear a tie and he can sneakily take it off after the formal photos are done 🙂

    Post # 5
    45162 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    TanyaLeigh050414:  If he  has a thick neck, is a standard tie long enough for him?

    He may  not need all the length of an extra long tie that is made for very tall men, but a standard tie may be too tight. He might be tieing the tie too tight in order to get it to be long enough. Any tailor could make him a custom tie.

    Ties are not tourniquets. They just need to be tied so they sit well on the shirt, not tight enough to strangle him.

    Post # 6
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    TanyaLeigh050414:  I think he should wear a tie, given the formality of the wedding.

    No tie is MUCH better than a clip on tie.  No one over the age of 8 should wear a clip on tie.  Ever.

    Most men who are uncomfortable in ties have them too tight, and have shirts that are too small.  I would start by trying to find a shirt he wants to wear, that is comfortable with its top button done up (like it will be with a tie).  Then, move on to a tie.  Clothes that fit make such a huge difference!

    What colour suit is he going to wear?


    Post # 7
    11 posts

    My sweetie isn’t wearing a tie. We think a suit jacket is formal enough for our hot summer outdoor wedding! As long as the groomsmen aren’t either, I say go with whatever makes you happy, comfortable and feels true to the two of you. If he feels stiff and unhappy, it will reflect in the photos. 

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