- 5 years ago
I want to start by thanking all of youshot take the time to read my little rant,
I’m 28 and my S.O is 30 we’ve been together and lived together for almost 4 years now. Over the years we have talked about how we know we want to get married to each other and start a family, and it had always been understood that it would be once we had both finished paying off our debts and are able to therefore save most of our income. Since last year we have both paid off our debts and I had gotten a large raise at work.
I had patiently waited for the last couple of years beliving we would be gettingengaged in the near future, however my S.o. Decided to quite his job 2 months ago to start his own company. I fully support his decision as i know and see how happy he has been over the last two months , howver i feel extremly guilty as i am upset that the proposal i had eagerly anticipated within the next year will not be happening since he has not had any income in the last 2 months and is living off his savings.
I actually get resentful about this at times particularly because he will be his bff’s best man next summer who has only been w his fiancé 2 years. What compounds the situation and confirms to me that there is no proposal in the next year is bc for thebachelor party they are going on an elaborate cross country boys tripwhich is making a serious dent in his wallet.
When I broach my SO about when we will get engaged he gives me the same line that he has a plan and it would ruin the fun if he gave me a timeline. I do understand that bc I do genuinely want to be surprised when we get engaged and I also understand that he only wants to get married when he is financially secure but I keep asking myselshow much longer is thewait going to be….. I know I won’t leave him he is my best friend but I’mjust frustrated and needed to vent. Thanks for listening and I’m glad I found thegive and I know there are others out therelike me.