- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
I need some advice concerning our engagement ring! I’m gonna start from the beginning of the story so it makes sense to you guys: (long story)
My FI and I started thinking about engagement before he moved away for his studies. We are now a LDR. So we started talking about rings during last fall, and when my FI came back home for Christmas, we shopped around a bit. I liked the princess or cushion or emerald cuts, but didn’t quite like round cut for some reason I don’t know. And I liked a thin, flat band. Anyways, my FI already had bought the ring back then and he was planning on asking me on Christmas day, but my aunt passed away so it was a bad time for me… The proposal got postponed by a few months, to March.
So, I was really happy when I saw the ring was a Tiffany cause I couldn’t imagine that my FI would get me such expensive jewelry. However, he did get a round cut while he knew it wasn’t my favorite, and the band was quite thick and pointy. But I did like the 6 prong setting and the platinum band and I did like the diamond a lot. However, after wearing it for a day, I noticed I hurt a lot when carrying something heavy in my hands like a grocery bag etc. So then I looked online and learned my ring was a « knife-edge ». I was a bit disappointed that I hurt wearing it, so when my FI came back home, we went to Tiffany’s and asked about the possibilities.
They said that the return policy was 30 days and that was that. I asked if it was in any way possible to flatten out the sides and they said they could not alter the band. I asked if we could keep the same diamond but only change to another setting, they said no, that every diamond comes with its own setting. I was really bummed. They convinced me that sizing the ring would solve the problem of the poor comfort and that if I wasn’t satisfied afterwards that « there were other options » but « that they never said it would not incure costs ».
Yesterday, I went to get the ring after it was sized. It was still a bit big, but it was the evening and I know I’m more swollen in the morning so it’s fine I think. I talked a bit with the lady about all of this, and she said to try it a week and see how I feel. So that’s where I am at now… The ring feels a bit better than it did, but I still feel like it’s annoying me since my fingers can’t even close together properly because the ring is so sharp/thick. Maybe my fingers are not normal or smth… but it feels like the ring’s edge cuts directly on the joint/bone of my pinkie finger…
I am so, so sad. I didn’t want to make my FI feel bad about all of this and now we learn that we can’t do anything about it unless we spend even more money, when the ring was already too costly according to me. I want to wear my ring, but if it’s not comfortable I know I won’t… I will try it for a week first though… What should we do if it still hurts??! Sell the ring to another person? Modify the ring in another jewelry store anyway?? Wait it out and see if my fingers get used to it?? HELP