Post # 1
I and my boyfriend keep talking about getting married. He keeps asking me what kind of ring and diamond I like, etc. However, I haven’t seen an action of proposal yet. He works really hard and I think he is trying to save money to get the ring that I like and cover the expenses of wedding. I don’t wanna wait for a long time, I wanna marry him soon. It’s ok for me to get a symbolic ring for now… however, he made a big deal out of the diamond ring. 🙁 What should i do?
How should i convince him that we can get the ring later maybe after the wedding?
Post # 3
I think you should let him figure it out 🙂 Talk about a timeline and let him get you the best ring he can afford! if you want to upgrade later, you certainly can!
Post # 5
Why don’t you help with the wedding? That may free up some of cash to get you the ring. You also don’t have to have the full wedding saved for to become engaged.
Post # 6
@love2010: Unfortunately, the diamond industry has a very firm hold in the minds of men (and women), so many think that it is necessary in order to make a proposal official. If you’re open to it, I would definitely recommend a lab created alternative (CZ, Moissanite, lab sapphire/emerald/ruby, etc), otherwise, an inexpensive silver ring could act as a place holder until you have enough money to upgrade if you so wish. I highly recommend going ring shopping with your SO if you choose to get a diamond alternative, since your SO will probably encounter a lot of negative feedback, especially from large chain jewelry stores. You could always get married at the courthouse and have a nice backyard reception if you are in a rush/are on a tight budget.
Post # 7
@love2010 : It’s a tough situation. 🙁 But you always have the option of upgrading your ring in the future. Go with a cz or a gemstone for your first ring.. Then get your dream ring! I also found this website offering engagement ring upgrade plan if it helps : http://www.25karats.com/engagement-ring-upgrade-plan
Good luck with your engagement and wedding! 🙂
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Post # 9
I definitely second a diamond alternative… White topaz and Moissanite are popular!
Actually… Groupon has a deal going on for a diamond e-ring! I think it was originally $1,000, and is on deal for $199?
Post # 10
Good question! I’ve been telling my SO for almost a year now that I want a moissanite, and yet he’s still insisting on a diamond! i think he feels like a diamond is what makes things official, and I know that he feels like he’ll be looked at as a cheapskate if he gets anything else. Silly boys!
Post # 11
@love2010: Very interesting situation. I think you should discuss it together. Just say something along the lines as you want to marry him as you want to spend the rest of your lives together, but you don’t want to create a fiancial burden. Then tell him your thoughts such as a promise ring, a “fake” diamond etc.
To tell you the truth my husband actually put my ring on a no interest pay off type deal. So he had to make regular fortnightly payments until it was paid off. He didn’t pay anything extra for the ring doing this nor did he get charged interest. It was like a lay-by system! It was awesome!
Post # 12
@housebee: thank you for your suggestion but still I and my boyfirend think that diamond is the symbol of the eternal love so the engagement. 🙂
@SincerelyShe: I absolutely agree with you! 🙂 Diamonds are girls bestfriend!
@natalia2013: thank you for the link natalia! It seems pretty reasonable.. Even those classic solitaire rings look so beautiful.. And the upgrade option in 365 days! wow
@andielovesj: I don;t even wanna have a big wedding! But his family insists on it.. what can you say? 🙁
Other than the diamond issue, I like antique designs. I believe that’s why my ring costs more 🙁 I found one at the website that @natalia2013 suggested. Let me know what you guys think?
thank you all once again for those lovely suggestions…