- 5 years ago
Time to ask for your input on something.
I’m a wedding planner and/or DOC, who is now planning her own special day! I also am a “bride that almost was.” 🙁 That’s right, in my previous relationship, we had planned an entire wedding and he cancelled on me. It was all for the best because his financial dishonesty could have hurt me more than it did! But admittingly, I was completely hurt and to this day I still work to get rid of the wedding that never was.
Fast forward to present times, happy times, MOVED ON TIMES! 🙂
My SO and I have had quite a few conversations as to how we visualize our day. He is very much aware of my past, it’s disappointment, and the feeling of anxiety I have over “inviting many of the same guests to a wedding with a new partner.” I just don’t want to go through any of the comments, stress, etc. It was stressful enough to deal with a cancelled wedding that was only 3 months away! smh
My SO….such an understanding Godsend…ahhhhh……sorry, had a quick moment. 🙂 LOVE THE IDEA OF HAVING A SURPRISE WEDDING! So we plan to keep it a surprise as much as we can.
We still want a few traditional aspects. For me, and for this particular post…I want my daughter and a special girlfriend or two, to be bridesmaids. But I don’t want to tell them until it is close to the actual wedding day! So here’s what I’ve thought of possibly doing:
1) individually treat them to a girlfriend’s shopping day. letting them know that I’ll have a professional photographer at our ‘engagement party’ so when they’re formally introduced at the bridal party, i’d like them to have a uniform look.
2) meet them all for shopping for their bridesmaid’s gowns on our upcoming wedding. So they could still traditionally order, but the only problem with this is “what if alterations are needed?” hmm….. (also, keep in mind, I went through this entire process before, have dresses hanging in my closet as we speak, so I don’t feel comfortable asking them to pay a deposit on dresses AGAIN. SMH even though, I paid off the dresses once they came in.)
3) tell them to all wear long black gowns. (the party will be themed, which I’ll talk about in another post soon.) (the only thing with this is we plan to ask all of our guests to wear all black attire. I do want the BM to stand out from the crowd, so I guess I could just purchase a color sash or jewelry to tie them into the actual “wedding party”.
So, bees. Tell me. How am I going to get the girls into one of these babies? 🙂