Post # 1
Hello. I’m trying to decide if I’m being evil to my guests. My ceremony will end at 4:30pm but reception will start at 6:00pm. It’ll take the guests 20 minutes to go from ceremony location to reception location. There is plenty to do in between. They will be in the middle of a city.
Is this evil? Must I arrange something for them to do in between?
Also, let me know what your time differences are, if you have any.
This is a US city destination wedding so they won’t be able to go home but there will be so much to do in between ceremony and reception locations. They’ll also all have hotel rooms nearby.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry at all in Vegas…there is so much to see and do that I don’t think someone will just be sitting around. However, you might want to give them a list of local things to check out if they haven’t been so that they’re not afraid they won’t make it back in time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@vegas: If it takes 20 minutes to get from the ceremony location to the reception location, it’s most likely that the additional hour before the reception will pass quickly. It can also give additional time should there be additional traffic or issues getting from one location to the other.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@vegas: That’s fine, especially since there is travel time so they could stop off someone else if they wanted to. Our ceremony is right next to the reception so the guests will leave the ceremony, go to the recpetion, get a drink, have some hor deurves, sign the guestbook, etc, and only waiting half an hour until we get there.
Post # 6
I had a 3 hour or so time difference. Most people do where I live.
I generally use this time to go home/go to the hotel, get changed to something fancier, relax, or go out for drinks/appetizers with friends. I’ve gone to the mall to shop inbetween before. I’ve hung out at people’s homes. I’ve gone to restaurants. I’ve always entertained myself, it’s not a big deal to me- it’s normal.
Post # 7
@vegas: I think it’s rude to just leave your guests to do nothing for 1 and a half hours. Who cares if they’re in a city? You’re hosting an event and I don’t think you’d be a good hostess if there was nothing for people to do in that time. If you know there is going to be a big gap then fill it in with a cocktail hour, that’s what most people do. Nobody has to attend the cocktail hour if they don’t want to but it gives people something to do.
Post # 8
@vegas: You should be fine especially if people know in advance. If you take out travel time they have maybe an hour and most people stand around talking after ceremonies. If you are worried I went to a wedding that had a little map on the back of the ceremony program. It showed the ceremony location and reception location with different things to do along the way like bars, sculpture parks, great views and those places locals go just for a quick bit like cupcakes, deserts, food carts and such.
Post # 9
I have a 5 hour gap. Church ceremony at 1 and reception around 6. That is generally the norm where i live. Guests will usually head off in small groups and have snacks and a drink at someones house. No one expects the bride and groom to provide entertainment for them.
Post # 10
@RedPandas: +1 same with where I’m from.
We’re actually having a 4-5 hour gap (we wanted the 1 pm ceremony spot but the only time available at our church was noon) and our reception will start around 5. Every wedding I’ve been to has been similar. I’ve always found a way to entertain myself.
Post # 11
@Ruby-Redshoes: I agree it is rude tojust leave yhem hanging for an hour but gaps are unheard of in my crowd. Never happens
Post # 12
I wouldn’t leave guests hanging for more than an hour, and that’s if you’re doing cocktail hour. Can you move up your ceremony?
Post # 13
I’m from Canada too. I wonder if we live in the same province. It’s probably a regional thing! It seems like a gap is super strange in some areas but normal in others!
Post # 14
this is just confusing to me now.
Post # 15
I don’t feel like it’s a big deal! Most weddings I have been to have some time inbetween. I like going back to the hotel, getting a drink somewhere with friends/family, etc. A little down time never hurt anyone and I’ve never heard anyone complain about. It’s a pretty common occurence for weddings and I am sure people will be perfectly fine with it 🙂
Post # 16
Is it normal to have a break where you are from? It you don’t think it’s strange, then it is probably fine. If you would think it’s strange if you were invited to a wedding with a gap then it probbaly isn’t fine. In that case, try to organize something for your guests to do in the middle… a cocktail hour or even just looking up things to do in the area and giving your guests ideas!
Your name is Vegas.. is that where your wedding is? If that’s the case I am sure there is ton to do.. even if it’s just walking around and checking places out!