Post # 1
So tomorrow after lunch we are having a big talk about our relationship. A lot of stuff has come up lately, about his parents having failing health and lack of support, my recovery from carpal tunnel surgery happening presently, and the whole what is marriage/wedding/reception etc.
So I expect this will be a difficult conversation, possibly with some elements that will leave me disappointed. I guess I am just suspicious of him saying we need to talk after three failed proposal attempts last year (he’d say he was planning it, and then nothing would come to pass).
I’m going to try to do a lot of nurturing stuff for myself, like going out to breakfast at a favorite place alone in the morning. Thanks for listening gals!
Post # 3
I just wanted to say good luck and I hope it all goes as you wish! Sending good vibes your way.
Post # 4
Breakfast sounds like a great idea. Hope everything goes well. I don’t know what your tactic is, but I always right a list of things I want to knock out. I don’t bring it with me. But writing it helps me remember what I want to cover. Good luck!
Post # 7
Good luck. Even if the conversation doesn’t go the way you want it to it can be an eye opening experience.
Post # 8
Thanks Ladies! the breakfast was devine and now I’m taking a little break at the library. I”ll report back
Post # 9
I hope everything is going well. I’ve got my fingers crossed for you!
Post # 11
Oh, it was a difficult talk. He said he wants to feel like he wants to claim me in front of God and everybody (like at a wedding) but he’s not there yet. I cried. We talked about different aspects of relationship that he sees ARE great, and about areas that could be better for both of us. We spent the rest of the evening together, being affectionate and watching a couple good movies.
I knew I was going to be disappointed during this conversation. I am trying to take a breath of fresh air and plunge back into our relationship. I will be so glad/relieved when he is finally ready.
Post # 12
Awww… well at least you know where his head is.. and he’s not stringing you along. I’m glad that he’s being honest with you. It allows you to be honest with yourself and decide how long you’re willing to wait for him to be on the same page as you are.
Good luck, doll.. hopefully it won’t be long!
Post # 13
Oh I am so sorry honey- did you ask him though what exactly does he need to be ready? I am sorry, I just don’t understand the whole not ready part of it and I assume you are done with schooling, have jobs and live together…. what exactly more does he need? Why must he receive everything you give to him for him to not be ready in return?
I am sorry, I am just so frustrated for you. I really hope he readies himself soon.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry to hear about the talk – it does sound difficult. He still is non-commital and “not ready” but as armcychica06 said “why is he not ready?”
This is a difficult situation. You hang in there and keep us posted.
I feel like I’m in a similar situation with a man who is “not ready” but says “yes” to the question ‘do you want to get married to me.”
It’s confusing and frustrating to say the least.
Hugs and positive vibes!