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posted 4 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@stuckinwonderland:  

You have nine months.

I would say that the hall should have been booked by now, if you have not done that already.

If you are sending out invitations, wait until three months before the vow renewal since it is a destination thing. If you are buying a new wedding gown, please start shopping by next month or you can look for an evening gown in the fall.

My husband and I will book our hall a year in advance and plan everything else starting January 2015, which will give us about ten months. The venue has packages with everything included, so I don’t have to search for individual vendors. Awesomesauce!

Post # 5
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@stuckinwonderland:  

Yeah, packages make everything easy. Our venue has EVERYTHING in the packages…food, photographer, officiant, flowers, decorations, etc. All we have to do is show up and we would like to bring our own music. It is a very small venue, but perfect for the kind of party we want.

 

Sorry mama….I didn’t know that you are pregnant. Obviously you have to wait until after the baby comes. I’m not sure what you are going to wear, but if it is a wedding gown then time is running out. Are you having your renewal on a Saturday? If so, you’ll want to find one about 8 months before. Dates fill up fast.

 

How many guests are you having at your renewal?

Post # 7
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@stuckinwonderland:  

We are having 25 guests max too. Large gatherings are not our taste.

Our venue is a small chapel which has packages. It is meant as a nice alternative to city hall. It is beautiful and cost effective. It will still be a lot of money for our pockets, but we feel that it needs to be done. Our elopement and its aftermath was awful.

Since you are having a small guest list, you may find that B&B’s or wineries have some nice packages for smaller weddings. I can appreciate wanting something close to where you live, especially with young children.

Four months in advance is a little bit tight, but you should be able to find something off the rack. You can also look at elaborate white evening gowns.

http://barijay.com/

http://www.morilee.com/bridesmaids

Post # 9
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@stuckinwonderland:  

Choose the place which speaks to you and your husband the most.

Both our families were upset, but my in-laws handled it far better. My MIL threw a party for us on our first anniversary. It was over 100 guests and people even gave cards with money.

My family did not speak to me for a whole year. It was very painful. My husband was angry with my parents for a long time because of that. The wedding is still a sore point with my parents and we have been married almost three years.

We eloped because my mother was trying to make my wedding all about her. She wanted to pay for it and not give me any say in the plans. That was unacceptable. I knew if I let my mom control our wedding, she would try to run our lives. I also did not want to have a huge wedding for certain extended family members who never wished me well.

Recently, my mother and I had a conversation about the wedding. She apologized for being controlling; it must have been snowing in hell! LOL My mom has also said that she will not try to control our vow renewal. I have asked for her opinion on some things, like whether or not to wear a wedding gown or have favors. She is envisioning a wedding like event and I will do so to soothe my parents hurt feelings, as well as my own regrets.

The few guests we had at our elopement were late and that ruined our plans. We invited three of my friends and two of them were late to pick up my third friend. We almost could not get married that day because the guests were tardy and I had to be dressed by strangers, instead of my girlfriends. It hurts me that two of my guests were talking sh!t about me behind my back the whole time; they were judging me for being very angry. The whole thing was just awful.

You can’t try on dresses now because you are pregnant; your size will change dramatically after the baby is born. Why don’t you feel attractive in gowns?

 

 

Post # 11
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

In terms of etiquette rules, vow renewals are not supposed to be like weddings. However, I think there are certain mitigating factors such as eloping. People can do whatever makes them happy, rules be damned.

I will have favors, a first dance without announcing it as such, invitations and wedding attire. I will also have a cake.

Maybe you are being too hard on yourself about your appearance. Have you ever considered having someone make you a dress?

Post # 13
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Thankfully “the rules” on Second Weddings, Vow Renewals and the like have let up a lot in recent years.

You can make your Vow Renewal as Wedding-like as you wish… just as long as you:

1- Don’t call it a Wedding (you had one of those already)

2- Don’t have an Engagement Party, any Showers or a Bachelor / Bachelorette Party (the timeline on all those ships have sailed)

BUT other than that… you can do as you please.

Which makes them a ton of fun, and a lot less drama / trauma than many regular Family Weddings.

Mr TTR & I had a Back Home Reception for Friends & Family after our Elopement & Honeymoon.  And it was fabulous !!

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Mr TTR & I Eloped to a Destination Wedding (just the 2 of us saying our Vows on the Beach)

We originally looked at Myrtle Beach… but timing changed, so we ended up marrying in Key West

GOOGLING is a great source of info… Pick a possible destination and then look on-line

ie – Getting Married in St Augustine Florida –

This should bring up info on the Marriage Licensing Rules for Florida, specifics for the Courthouse in St Augustine area, websites for Officiants, and maybe even some tourism info for the City / area itself

That will get you started.

St Augustine is lovely… and Florida is a very easy State to get married in (one of the reasons we wed there)

Other great options IMO… Myrtle Beach SC – Charleston SC – Savannah GA – and of course Southern Florida

Hope this helps,

PS… If you have more Questions.. just ask.

 

Post # 14
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@This Time Round:  

 

What I have read is that wedding dresses are inappropriate, as well as wedding parties and having a parent walk the wife down the aisle.

 

http://www.idotaketwo.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html

 

 http://www.idotaketwo.com/shopping/dresses-for-vow-renewals.php

 

I am on the fence about the veil, StuckInWonderland. I know it is not appropriate to wear one, but I was thinking that since I was wearing a wedding gown, why not? Birdcage veils are perfect for a vow renewal.

 

When you say that no formal gown flatters you, it seems like you have some body image and confidence issues. I bet you look far better than you think. Why not bring a friend when you go shopping for a gown? They would be able to give you an honest opinion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 15
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @TakeTwo:  First I am curious… with your name and that website being so similar, I gotta ask.. are you affiliated ???

 

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