Post # 1
Hey there –
So my wedding date is in about 7 months (Mid August – but on a Sunday afternoon.) And so far we have, um, the venue, my hair person and a potential hotel block. That’s it. I’m just not sure what I HAVE to do next. I figure by Marchish I should have invites picked out and the Rhearsal dinner sorted, and by April or May a DJ and Photographer (we’re not doing: Flowers or any decorations, Favors, Programs, Guest bags, or anything that requires DIY.) My bridesmaids are wearing whatever they want and I have my dress too. And I guess we also need a Rabbi. I live in NYC and we are just trying to keep everything low key and relaxed and, well, cheap. Am I missing something – should I be trying to book everything yesterday?
I feel like the "To List" on the Knot involves many, many things that I’m not doing, so I don’t have a real sense about what’s urgent and what isn’t. Advice is most welcome. TIA!
Post # 3
Wow! I would run out right now and see about your photographer. We booked ours 8 months in advance, and within a month he had three other requests for the same day. Also if you have any preference as to the Rabbi. I am panicking about our officiant, as the first one we asked (a local judge) will be out of the country. My FI is supposed to call his pastor this week. I don’t know what we will do if he is not available.
You also might want to think about sending save-the-dates 5 to 6 months before the wedding, as August can be prime vacation time and your guests may be making summer vacation plans before you send out your invitations.
Also your caterer, unless that comes with the venue. It has surprised me how early everybody books up. I think that the timelines in most of the books I have seen don’t really factor that in, and are more like "this is the latest you should be doing booking this resource" rather than the optimum time.
Post # 4
There was a timeline (powerpoint) that Miss Daffodil posted a while back that was incredibly helpful. You’re right, the Knot’s list of things to do is so extensive its easy to feel frustrated or as if you’re behind schedule. You didn’t mention if you had your wedding dress picked out yet…if you haven’t started shopping for one, now’s a good time to start. Its taking a little over six months for my dress to get here (my wedding is mid-Aug too and I ordered the dress in mid-Dec), and you want to leave a little time for alterations and fittings (approx two months). Three to four months out is about when you want to secure the cake, if you’re planning to have one…though depending on your area and how fast things book up, you may want to start looking a little earlier. Also, I would start looking for a photographer now…the good ones get booked quickly, especially since the summer is peak wedding season. Not sure if you’re thinking about pre-marital counseling, but that’s something FI and I started this month in order to get all the sessions in before Aug. Hope that helps!
Post # 5
In NYC, good vendors with affordable prices book up fast. So it’s not like you need 8 months to find a good photographer, it’s just that if you wait until 3 months before your wedding, the good ones have been snapped up already.
So, I think any vendor that can only be booked for one wedding per day has priority (Rabbi, photographer, hair makeup, etc) Things like invitations and cake, you have more time with.
Post # 6
I do have my dress (bought this summer on a whim at sample sale) It just needs hemming. And as for Photographers, it’s a good point that affordable ones are likely to book up quickly. I suppose the same is the DJ.
Cake comes with the venue (or we wouldn’t be doing one). I looked at Miss Daffodil’s timeline – that’s what freaked me out b/c we don’t have any of that stuff done!
Post # 7
~timing for hemming your dress
~picking out your wedding bands
~think about if you want a "trial run" for hair and makeup and book appt
~making rezzies for any other beautification (hair cut/color, wax, etc)
~shoes (and breaking those bstrds in at home )
~setting a time to go and get apply for your marriage license – then sit and wait and wait and wait in the waiting room for it 😉
~if you guys are travelling out of country for honeymoon – getting your passports up to date