Post # 1
My fiance and I are on a budget (isn’t everyone these days)? The problem we’re running into is that friends/family think a cash bar is tacky (my fiance and I are more understanding of cash bar, but would prefer to have an open bar). However, an open bar is going to run us about $3000 for our 120-130 guests, which is excessive (to us).
If we have a morning wedding, or afternoon wedding, we think we could get away with just a beer/wine open bar, and catering and venue costs will also be less expensive.
What are the drawbacks to a morning or afternoon ceremony/reception? We would still have dancing, etc, just at an earlier time of day.
Post # 3
Would the total reception time end up being cut shorter due to an earlier start time? (I am not planning myself so not sure about whether or not that is a factor.) As a guest though I probably wouldn’t be interested in dancing at a morning or early afternoon reception. I do think you could definitely have a beer/wine bar that early with no problems.
Post # 4
If you’re reception will be over at about 7 or so I think the only drawback will bethe dancing. Personally, I don’t dance until I’ve had a couple drinks and I usually don’t get in the mood to dance unless it’s late. At most receptions I’ve attended the people usually don’t start dancing til it’s about 8.
Post # 5
Are you REALLY opposed to beer/wine only bar in the evening? Like PP, it would be difficult for me to feel comfortable dancing during a morning/afternoon reception.
Post # 6
I never thought about it until now, but I have actually never been to a morning or afternoon wedding…. how strange…..
But I’ve been to PLENTY of evening weddings that had a beer/wine open bar, and it was just fine!
Post # 7
ya i agree with the PPs. an evening wedding with only wine and beer is fine.
if you really want an afternoon wedding to save on catering, then that is fine too. i haven’t been to any, so i cant say what its like. but if someone got the dancing going, i am sure i would join in. you just need the right atmosphere which you can create.
i think morning might be too early to drink wine and beer and dance though.
Post # 8
Definitely don’t have a cash bar. Beer and wine of an evening is totally fine. If it’s held in the early afternoon, I would expect people will still drink the same amount. Cutting out alcohol can really effect the ambience in a bad way. People are more likely to leave early and not dance.
Post # 9
The advantage of having an earlier wedding that finishes at 7-8pm is that you and your groom will have the whole evening to yourselves, something that usually doesn’t happen with evening weddings as you tend to stumble into bed exhausted in the early morning.
I think you should skip the dancing if you have an earlier wedding, you could still have music and maybe some people will dance but I would’t expect it.
Like everyone else said, having just beer and wine is fine, if anyone absolutely wants a stronger drink they can pay for it themselves. Most weddings I’ve been to have done it that way, and the one wedding where everything was free I woke up with a pounding head!
Post # 10
SOmeone “wanting” to have an open bar at your wedding should be the one considered tacky. As time goes on things change. We don’t have the money to have an open bar for the entirety of our evening wedding either. We had to meet a 3000 minimum, and we had 300 applied towards an open bar. Once that runs up, then its a cash bar all night long. I’m feeding everyone a delicious full meal, and dessert, with beverages to boot.. I think its rude to expect any kind of alcoholic beverage. Are you paying for the wedding yourselves? Because we are, and not one person lifted a finger to help. Now, had some folks offered to take over some expenses I’d be more than happy to put money saved towards an open bar. But if you feel obligated, then wine and tap should do just fine. Otherwise, water and tea would suit them well.
Post # 11
I’m having an afternoon wedding (ceremony starts at 11:00; lunch served at 1:00) and we’re having dancing. If guests don’t want to dance, that’s fine, but I’m going to want to and so we’re having dancing.
Post # 12
we’re having an afternoon wedding with dancing. we splurged on a band so that people will dance.