Post # 1
Get out the bubbly because I just had my first official rude comment regarding our engagement. I look it as a right of passage
Said by co-worker that’s incapable for being happy for anyone….including herself: “You’re engaged? Are you pregnant?”
Yes – we’ve been together for 2 & 1/2 years and are in love…it must have to do with me being pregnant and he proposed out of obligation.
List the first debbie downer rude comment you received! This could get fun.
Post # 3
I didn’t know people still thought that. In this day and age where you can have babies before marriage without shame why on earth would a co worker jump to that conclusion? Not cool!But congrats on your engagement 🙂
Post # 4
When I got engaged, my FFIL’s first words were, “Oh… I wasn’t expecting that.”
Uhh… what’s THAT supposed to mean?? 10 months later, I still haven’t gotten a congratulations. I see him all the time and thought we had a pretty good relationship too!
Post # 5
After my Fiance proposed and gave me a lovely .5ct diamond solitaire (which is plenty big enough for me) – “Oh, the ring is ADORABLE. And you are really having a wedding ceremony at your age?”
Why yes – yes I am.
Post # 6
My fsil said “thats cute!”…. i was a little offended at first, she was newly wed and just announced she was preggo so maybe she thought we were stealing some thunder? English is also her second language so i try and hope sheee didnt realize that wasnt the best congratulations
Post # 7
@trueblue14: Your age????? Is there an age minimum or maximum for a ceremony? People are so weird.
Post # 8
I talked to my Uncle for the first time today about my engagement he opened with ‘so I hear you’re making a huge mistake next year”. It’s to be expected though my family loves to tease each other and has a really dry sense of humor.
Post # 9
I think my first rude comment was from a co-worker who asked me if my ring was real. It is, and while it is on the larger side, it’s not so large (IMHO) that it looks fake (1 carat on a size 5 finger).
Post # 10
@futuremrste: I’m a size 5.5. I love the effect that smaller fingers have on “smaller” stones My friend is a size 4.25 and has a 1/2 carat from Tiffanys….it looks like a full carat or larger.
Post # 11
@mousepeach: I can’t remember any rude comments. Maybe there were some people slipped in as we’ve been together for over 5 years but I was too happy to care.
I absolutely adore your reaction to her comment. “Get out the bubbly because I just had my first official rude comment regarding our engagement.” That’s the best way to look at it. Popping a bottle over here to celebrate for you 😉
Post # 12
@TealMarie: Awww thanks!
I have a good attitude about it because I’m still on cloud 9 and it would take a lot more than that to bring me down. For the most part we are extremely lucky because nearly all family, friends and co-workers are amazing.
Post # 13
I don’t know that I would call this comment rude. I didn’t take any offense because I know my friend wasn’t trying to be mean. I was just kind of confused by her response. I told I my fiancé proposed and her reply was “Thank god.”
Post # 14
FH had a few people congratulate him on being a father and not on being engaged..um definitely not pregnant! People were like Oh, it’s actually for real?! Some people..geez lol
Post # 15
I’m a Canadian, Darling Husband is a New Zealander. When I told my boss that we were getting married at City Hall due to getting our greencards and then having a celebration (I did not say ceremony or even wedding) he said “Don’t tell your friends you are already married. People might be offended.”
I think they’d be way more offended if I lied. We’ve been honest about it (we’re legally married, and we want to have a celebration of our marriage with people from around the world who mean the most ot us.) Fortunately all of our friends have been supportive (we have a pretty international set of friends and many have done the same thing.)
Post # 16
My dad (who was actually asked for permission by fi before we ever got engaged) replied to my engagement excitement by saying “hmmmm that’s nice, when’s the baby due?” And since then every chance he gets he makes some smart ass comment about me being pregnant and that’s why I am getting married. I am not pregnant nor do I plan on getting pregnant.