I am an Encore Bride
First time we were fresh faced Uni Grads, with not a lot of money. My Ex gave me a Promise Ring (birthstone) when we talked about getting married in our last year of school. Then he told me for sure we’d be getting married (a Non-Proposal) after Graduation. We both started our Careers, and decided at the end of the Summer he’d get me my ERing. We shopped together a day late in August. And 2 Weeks later, he put the ring on my finger, and we went out for a fancy dinner to celebrate.
This time round…
Mr TTR & I dated for Years. We had a LIFE PLAN talk around our 6th Anniversary, when I told him I was now ready to consider marriage (we had talked marriage in general before in our relationship, but as my Divorce had been so horrible, I was very gun-shy and it wasn’t a priority / need for me). BUT by the time we reached Anniversary # 6, I thought it was time to take that step. I told him I’d like to be married before the end of 2012. He agreed. Told me he’d propose in his own way (men like to do that).
So I waited patiently knowing it would be forthcoming. Our 6th Anniversary passed – Christmas – New Years – Birthdays – Valentines…. and several other occasions that might have been a good excuse to pop the Question. In the end, like most men, he did it on his time, and in his own way. April 2012, when we were away for Easter Vacation.
Again it was a very intimate moment (a Non-Proposal of sorts) where he just told me while we were out taking a walk on the beach and saw another couple that were having their Wedding Pics taken on the Beach (an obvious Elopement)… “We should do that the next time we are here”… he caught me truly off guard… and I said “Really ?”. And he said “Ya you should look into it” and that was it.
(Knowing full well that we’d be back to the area for Christmastime… and infact as we took our walk along the beach that day… it turns out he had done a lot of thinking about our Wedding / Elopement and had many ideas to share regarding the details he’d like to see)
The next day I began to look at Rings… at first I went alone (he was golfing) to get an idea of what was out there… afterall the ERing world had changed drastically in 30+ Years
And then a few days later we went together, so I could show him some things I liked, as well as get a feel for what he liked, and kind of guage what his budget was
In the end, we didn’t buy my ring on vacation (and I am happy we didn’t)
Cause we ended up doing a lot more reading & research about Diamonds, and became much better informed (the first time round for both of us, we were much younger, and it seems that folks weren’t nearly as educated on Diamond stats). Diamond stats are far more important now I think… probably because of the Internet and how info like this is more readily available.
The more we read, and the more Jewellery stores we visited, the more we learned. And the MORE CONTROL we had over the purchase. Jewellery stores “prey” on folks who haven’t done a lot of reading & research IMO… especially men who shop alone (we saw a lot of that when we were browsing). Too many men buy whatever the salesperson is “pushing” on them. And in many cases the rings they buy are nice, but OVER PRICED (this is especially true for Chain Jewellery Stores)
Better IMO for a couple to talk openly about the Ring Purchase… and Budget. A Ring is a BIG DEAL… and lots of times BIG BUCKS. Both parties need to be happy. The man giving the woman an important symbol, and the gal must like it / love it, as she’ll be wearing it every.single.day
In the end we found an ERing that is ALL US at a Family Run Jewellers back in our home Province. And it was great working with a local goldsmith, someone who is very knowledgeable / helpful. Infact we love my semi-custom ring sooo much, that we refer to it as OUR ERING.
And we couldn’t be happier. The day we picked it up (after the Feature Diamond was set)… Mr TTR slipped it on my finger, gave me a kiss in the Jewellery Store… and then we called up some friends to join us for drinks… they had no idea, that there was a Ring we were celebrating, as we had kept the whole Engagement pretty much under wraps for the 6+ Weeks since our Myrtle Beach Easter Vacation.
Hope this helps,