Time to look at rings!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@andreanb:  There are so many threads here on this very topic. Check out the ring board. 

I picked my ring out, he handed me his debit card and I ordered it. I still got proposed to. To me it was just as exciting because I love my ring and he never would have picked that ring out. So I got the sweet proposal and the ring I drooled over. Wouldn’t change a thing.

My best advice is to start out talking about budget before you get your heart set on something he just can’t afford. Or like my FI, who is ridiculously naive about jewelry. He thought $200 ought to be a decent price for a diamond ring. smh. Once he’s expressed his feelings on budget you can go ahead and give him an idea of what you like. Do you want to directly pick the ring, give him X amount of options or just give him a general idea and let him run with it? I have no suggestions on jewelers because I hate chain stores and his budget wasn’t big enough to go to a really nice jewelry store. We bought online.

Congratulations 🙂

Post # 4
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hi,

 

Wow congratulations, how exciting! All good ideas from @andreanb, I was proposed to but had said for many months (years!) beforehand that I would like to choose my own jewlerry, given that I would be wearing it. So when I got the ring, he did go down on one knee again and it was still cool 🙂 

I did lots of research (4 C’s) types of metal (platinum, white gold, gold etc) and really liked it when we were in the shops and I could talk with them about what I wanted using their ‘language,’ etc. Don’t rush into it, and remember you can usually get what you want, it might just mean readjusting the size of your diamond etc. And finally there is NO SHAME in haggling, we got ours down about £1k by doing this 🙂 

Post # 5
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1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

My husband and I were both in college when we picked out my ring. We bought it somewhat impulsively because the jeweler was having a really good sale and we just couldn’t let the opportunity pass us by. * months later DH surprised me with a romantic proposal.

Post # 6
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aww congratulations! FI and I looked at rings a tiny bit before he proposed,  but when it became clear that I was very picky, we decided that he would propose with a whimsical, inexpensive ring, and then I would find my official engagement ring! I loved being surprised by the ring he proposed with, and I adore the engagement ring I picked out myself (well, we picked out the diamond together) 🙂

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@andreanb:  Congrats! Mine was a surprise, but I’m pretty sure 90% of the Bees on here that picked their rings still got “traditional” proposals!

Post # 8
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

This is my ring. I saw it in a magazine back in high school and showed it to my FI. What I liked about it then was that it was so different from all the other ones I saw (which at the time were all plain bands with circle diamond) Back then I also saw marriage as this far off thing that may never happen. But this is the ring that FI got for me. Now I see all these new rings out there that look so intricate and antique and part of me wishes that I had waited on picking out a ring until we had a date set and all that. Maybe it would have been nice if he just surprised me, but then I don’t know what he would have picked. The proposal was still a surprise though and at this point I’m used to this ring and it’s mine. I feel like the ring has history with us, funny as that may sound. 
How would you feel if he proposed to you without a ring and then you looked at rings later together? Or maybe you could leave hints about the kind of ring you’d like just in case? Maybe talk to someone he might go to to ask about it, your Mom or best friend? Will you feel let down if his proposal isn’t so much a surprise? I think for the most part even if the ring is picked out men still do the traditional proposal.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Congrats 🙂 My Mom and FI picked out the setting and the diamond was a family heirloom, so it was all a complete surprise.

Post # 10
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am an Encore Bride

First time we were fresh faced Uni Grads, with not a lot of money.  My Ex gave me a Promise Ring (birthstone) when we talked about getting married in our last year of school.  Then he told me for sure we’d be getting married (a Non-Proposal) after Graduation.  We both started our Careers, and decided at the end of the Summer he’d get me my ERing.  We shopped together a day late in August.  And 2 Weeks later, he put the ring on my finger, and we went out for a fancy dinner to celebrate.

This time round…

Mr TTR & I dated for Years.  We had a LIFE PLAN talk around our 6th Anniversary, when I told him I was now ready to consider marriage (we had talked marriage in general before in our relationship, but as my Divorce had been so horrible, I was very gun-shy and it wasn’t a priority / need for me).  BUT by the time we reached Anniversary # 6, I thought it was time to take that step.  I told him I’d like to be married before the end of 2012.  He agreed.  Told me he’d propose in his own way (men like to do that).

So I waited patiently knowing it would be forthcoming.  Our 6th Anniversary passed – Christmas – New Years – Birthdays – Valentines…. and several other occasions that might have been a good excuse to pop the Question.  In the end, like most men, he did it on his time, and in his own way.  April 2012, when we were away for Easter Vacation.

Again it was a very intimate moment (a Non-Proposal of sorts) where he just told me while we were out taking a walk on the beach and saw another couple that were having their Wedding Pics taken on the Beach (an obvious Elopement)… “We should do that the next time we are here”… he caught me truly off guard… and I said “Really ?”.  And he said “Ya you should look into it” and that was it.

(Knowing full well that we’d be back to the area for Christmastime… and infact as we took our walk along the beach that day… it turns out he had done a lot of thinking about our Wedding / Elopement and had many ideas to share regarding the details he’d like to see)

The next day I began to look at Rings… at first I went alone (he was golfing) to get an idea of what was out there… afterall the ERing world had changed drastically in 30+ Years

And then a few days later we went together, so I could show him some things I liked, as well as get a feel for what he liked, and kind of guage what his budget was

In the end, we didn’t buy my ring on vacation (and I am happy we didn’t)

Cause we ended up doing a lot more reading & research about Diamonds, and became much better informed (the first time round for both of us, we were much younger, and it seems that folks weren’t nearly as educated on Diamond stats).  Diamond stats are far more important now I think… probably because of the Internet and how info like this is more readily available. 

The more we read, and the more Jewellery stores we visited, the more we learned.  And the MORE CONTROL we had over the purchase.  Jewellery stores “prey” on folks who haven’t done a lot of reading & research IMO… especially men who shop alone (we saw a lot of that when we were browsing).  Too many men buy whatever the salesperson is “pushing” on them.  And in many cases the rings they buy are nice, but OVER PRICED (this is especially true for Chain Jewellery Stores)

Better IMO for a couple to talk openly about the Ring Purchase… and Budget.  A Ring is a BIG DEAL… and lots of times BIG BUCKS.  Both parties need to be happy.  The man giving the woman an important symbol, and the gal must like it / love it, as she’ll be wearing it every.single.day

In the end we found an ERing that is ALL US at a Family Run Jewellers back in our home Province.  And it was great working with a local goldsmith, someone who is very knowledgeable / helpful.  Infact we love my semi-custom ring sooo much, that we refer to it as OUR ERING.

And we couldn’t be happier.  The day we picked it up (after the Feature Diamond was set)… Mr TTR slipped it on my finger, gave me a kiss in the Jewellery Store… and then we called up some friends to join us for drinks… they had no idea, that there was a Ring we were celebrating, as we had kept the whole Engagement pretty much under wraps for the 6+ Weeks since our Myrtle Beach Easter Vacation.

Hope this helps,

 

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