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i'm emotional today so BLAAAAHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sammeeee frickin boat here, ladies. story of my life for the past 8 months, since the first time we went ring browsing.  i too tell myself that i shouldnt nag him about proposing, but every few weeks, it pops out...like diarrhea of the mouth. i can't help it sometimes, so i get really upset with myself for even mentioning it because he is stubborn, and i feel like everytime i mention it, he will push whatever plans further back just to further torment me.  I KNOW that HE has told me several times that i will NEVER know when he is going to propose...planning is in the works, but he has told me that he is going to keep me so far off trail, i wont have ANY idea its coming.  Put it to you this way, we began looking in december at ring styles. he has told me several times matter-of-factly that he intends on designing my ring himself, with characteristics of my top choices of rings that i liked, mixed with a design that will give it his own personal edge as well. 

so, i dont even know if my ring even exists yet.  i dont even know if he is looking. and he is doing a pretty damn good job of keeping quiet about whatever phase of planning he is at right now.  so some days im good because i feel like we could possibly be nearing proposal time, but then other days i get distraught and feel like he probably hasnt even met with a jeweler to design a ring yet.

so, i guess i have my good days and my bad days...i envy you ladies that know your ring has been purchased and you are just waiting now!!!  i wish i had a little glimpse into where he is with the planning.

futuremissjp you KNOW what your ring looks like!!!! i dont even know if he is gonna go with round or princess cut!!!!! i know he is going to design a beautiful ring, but even the thought of what its gonna looks like gets me all anxious!! there are a few that are our TOP picks, and i used to stare and gaze  at their online pics all day, until i realized that it wouldnt be a good thing to do since my ring wouldnt resemble any of those rings exactly...i felt like id be setting myself up for dissapointment so i stopped looking at them!!! (i now limit my online ring gazing to like once every 2-3 weeks lol)

akd0110, im the SAME way with my guy!! his TOY that he used to always talk about getting soon is his Harley...and i used to get REALLY worked up about it (without him knowing...I'm thinking, how are you going to buy this motorcycle AND my ring!?!??!  And then to make matters worse, he used to say that he would get his bike before proposing to me, since he felt that i wouldnt ALLOW him to get his bike once we were engaged/married!!!) Sooo yea needless to say, NOW it SEEMS that the bike might be on the backburner, but i still have no effin clue as to how far along he is with the proposal planning!

I wonder if we can start a "waiting with no effing clue as to when we will get proposed to" thread?

hahahaa

PS, you ladies have put me in a much better mood!  I was down in the dumps most of the day, so  I just want to say thank you! :)

futuremsjp, when is your anniversary? maybe he is planning it for then?

awww our dating anniversary is in october too!! but the boy keeps asking about which day we actually MET which is in july, lol. 

We can keep each other sane if we both have to wait until october!! and i agree, from that magical day on december 23rd 2008 (lolol yes i remember the day, ask me the time, im pretty sure i could narrow that down within a 2 hour window lolol)  when he said "lets look at rings" i have lost my mind!!!

Ah, so nice to know I'm not alone. Found a ring we both liked (both saw the same one separately and I *think* that's the one I'll get when the time rolls around) in JANUARY 2007. You guys know how long ago that was? In that stretch of time (counting from birth) I was old enough to pick out  a Michael Jackson tape as a present for my star chart for going to bed all on my own!

 Ahem. So on and off for the past couple of months I've been drip feeding him, saying that I want to get married on a particular year, it takes ages to organise a summer wedding etc etc. Now I've told him enough, I'm going to keep quiet. Try my very best not to even mention marriage or anything, and see where that gets me.

gingerlex, i feel for you girl!!! between jan 2007 and now is a really long time.....he at least owes it to you to let you know where his head is with marriage and proposal (and whats the hold up?!?!?!!) he sounds like he needs a little more than a nudge....having to wait 2.5 years AFTER finding THE ring is a lot!!! Well, we are here for you!!!

Lovesthebear, my boy does that too.  we will be sitting on the couch and he will bring up a question that's proposal / ring / marriage related (most times in a subtle way, sometimes a little more direct) and i really just try to play dumb sometimes, but inevitably the little devil on my shoulder wants to let HIM know that I KNOW that he is trying to show me that he has proposal on the brain.  on one hand i want to act like i dont know what he is alluding to, but then on another hand, i want him to know that i am catching his hints! lol.

futuremsjp, yessss Partners In Craziness!! lol i like that term! its fitting for my state of mind when i temporarily lose my sanity and get Enagement Crazy! hahaha

they are! the biggest instigators!! it could be the furthest thing on your mind (because you happen to have a delicious dish of yummy mexican food sitting in front of your face that you are slamming on!!!)  when he decides to bring up some "indirect" comment about rings....lol! WHY???!!?? CAn i just ENJOY my veggie fajitas?!??! please?!?!? the veggies are still sizzling on the plate and im thoroughly enjoying the sound they are making while im eating, WHY must you DECIDE to talk about rings now?!?!?! hahaha

YESSSSSSSSS. I am sensitive to EVERYTHING...if he passes a comment that i might normally take as a joke, i now get REALLY sensitive and upset over it....thats what we call it now, that im just "sensitive".  UGH.  Between "waiting" for the proposal and getting worked up over when its going to happen, along with his new job that will most likely send him overseas for business trips, i have caused myself to miss my period this month...TMI, but yea...I really need to take a chill pill!!!!!  Things will be so much easier to take in stride once we are engaged!!! lol.

futuremsjp are you sure we arent dating the same guy?!?!  he has said the same thing about the ring...he wants to give me the largest, highest quality diamond so that he would be proud to know that im wearing a beautiful (AKA expensive) ring.   i too have pleaded with him that its not about the size of it, just give me ANYTHING reasonable so that we can move forward with the rest of our life together!!!

futuremissjp that SOUNDS LIKE THIS MIGHT BE IT!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!! We will be here waiting for EVERY SINGLE DETAIL of your engagement when you return from your trip!!!! :) I am super happy for you!!

yessss Partners in Craziness!!  Agreed, if you dont get your hopes up, it will be even sweeter when it does happen!! (that weekend!! cough cough!! aahahaha!!)

@CorgiTales are you going to email him proposal thoughts? LOL That's funny!! I love it! I am going to try for the next two weeks not to bring up anything about an engagement up to him! And I challenge all the ladies who are still in the "waiting" room to do the same! Good Luck Ladies

@CorgiTales Your proposal will happen sooner than you think!! Here's an early Congrats!! (I am speaking life into it)

I feel for all you ladies that went ring shopping and then had to wait for it... such torment!  I'm so glad that he picked out my ring and proposed on his own... I'm not sure I could've gone without saying anything to him... hehe.