time to tie the knot. when?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What kind of reception
    afternoon w/ cake,punch,and hor d ouerves : (18 votes)
    72 %
    evening w/ desserts : (7 votes)
    28 %
    other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @jaijaig88:  If you dont want to serve a meal, I would say in the afternoon like 2pm-3pm. You certainly dont want sometime around the dinner time hour if there is no food. I think earlier in the day would be okay if you had horderves and cake.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It depends on your guests. I’ve never been to a wedding without a meal, but I would think after 7pm would be the best time, if it’s on a weekend.

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Definitely early afternoon, with the reception starting at or after 2 pm.

    That’s basically what we did. Our ceremony started at 2:00 and our reception started around 2:45. We did serve food, but we just had heavy hors d’oeuvres and dessert rather than a full meal.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You really need to have a wedding at the sort of time it is reasonable to assume people would have eaten. So either mid afternoon or after 7. Either way it is fairly unusual not to offer any food so if you had a mid afternoon wedding then cakes and hors d’ouevres would be quite acceptable on the basis that most people would have had lunch. If you have a lot of out of town guests then it is very difficult not to feed them something, regardless of the time of the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @jaijaig88:  Will you have small refreshments, like perhaps sweet tea/coffee/punch & some small muffins &/or cake? I think it really depends on how much, if any, refreshments you plan to serve. It also depends on how huge your brida party is & how many guests you are expecting.

    I would say that if you plan to have no refreshments at all, but still a wedding party & quite a few guest, then maybe ceremony at 2pm, & a mingling reception w/ a few dances & bouquet toss immediately following.

    If you plan to have no refreshments, no bridal party, & a very small guest list, then why not do an early morning wedding, at about 9-10am? I’ve always thought a super early wedding with just a few guests would be just lovely.

    If you plan to serve at least some kind of refreshments, that opens your time availability up a little, because then you could start as early as 1pm (if you are having a medium/large wedding) or as late as 3pm.

    If you are having an intimate small wedding with refreshments, I think just about anytime would work, as long as all the festivities are done by 6pm.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @jaijaig88:  Oh, and if you plan to have some sort of refreshments, you could also do something after 7pm because by then you can assume that people have gotten dinner. Just make sure your guests know that a meal will not be served.

    My wedding was at 7pm & we had a full meal, but the late time was nice because it gave me all day to prepare (& I still felt like I didn’t have enough time! lol)

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @jaijaig88:  A few hours. It was over at probably around 6, which was perfect because then people had plenty of time to go get dinner. It also was great for *us* because we got to our hotel that night and weren’t completely exhausted.

    Whatever you decide, put it explicitly on the invites. We put something like, “Dessert reception to follow” or you could put “Appetizers to follow” or something to make it clear that a full meal will not be served, but there will be some sort of refreshment. I’ve been to a “Cake and Punch” reception before, too. As long as people know what to expect, I don’t think anyone really cares. Sure, some people may “judge” when people don’t do a full sit-down dinner, but with the cost of weddings these days, I don’t think it can be helped.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had friends who married at about 2.30 and didn’t plan to offer a full meal. They allowed half an hour for the ceremony and did a fairly quick photo session while champagne was served. At about 3.30 cakes and hors d’ouvres were served and the whole event finished by 6. There was then an informal after party.

    I guess the timeline really depends on how long you want the celebrations to go on for and what you plan to do after the ceremony. Like do you want dancing or would you rather everything wound up earlier?

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @AmeliaBedelia:  +1 to everything you’ve said, a very sensibe approach.

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @jaijaig88:  You’re welcome. Glad it helped. 🙂 It depends on what you have going on. We only had our venue until 7:30, so we wanted people clearing out around 6. We decided to do our drive away thing at 5:40. Most guests don’t stay past the bride and groom leaving, in general. Some guests left before that and the rest left shortly after we did according to my mom.

    Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @cbgg:  Why thank you. 😉 It’s part of what I like to call “How to have a nice wedding for under 10K.”

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