Post # 1
So I don’t know if any of you really care what I have to say enough to remember my opinions (let’s be real, I doubt it), but I have always been vocally in favor of timeless weddings. ‘Put down the mason jars!’ I cried on every thread possible ‘Step away from the cupcake tower, and for gods’ sake delete all of that ombre and blush from your ‘dream wedding’ pinterest board!’. I think I was projecting my anxiety that this decade will be like the eighties: irredeemable in terms of wedding fashion. I’ve always wanted an elegant wedding and I’m worried that in 20 years I’ll look back and be embarassed at how tacky and dated everything was (and yes I CAN SAY TACKY because I’m talking about my own wedding here).
But then I read this article and it changed my mind a little. I mean the author is right, one f the most common regrets among brides seems to be that they didn’t do things ‘their way’ for whatever reason. If you’re old enough to get married I think you’re old enough to know what you like and plan accordingly. To bees who I lectured about timeless weddings: I still think I’m right, but you may have made the right decision if you ignored my advice.
There is definitely an argument for the ‘timeless wedding’ side too, but I won’t get into that now. I just wanted to share my changing thoughts about this and I’d love if you’d share yours too.
What are your opinions on timeless weddings?
Post # 3
@Ruby-Redshoes: I think there will always be some things that date a wedding no matter how hard you try but we are going as close to timeless as we can – more so though because that is my taste! I just prefer more classic looks.
Post # 4
@Ruby-Redshoes: I think you can look at any wedding pictures and make an educated guess as to the date that the wedding occurred. Dress styles, hair styles, makeup, shoes, decor, automobiles all contribute to dating a wedding, but WHO CARES???
Your wedding occurrs when it occurs. Who really needs to ensure that you have a timeless, mystery wedding whose era no one can identify.
Post # 5
@julies1949: + 1. Agreed. There is always something dated even if it is just hairstyle or nail color 🙂
@Ruby-Redshoes It’s also…what is “timeless” to you? I mean mason jars were invented in the 1800s and used ever since, so to some they are truly “classic.” To some vintage is timeless” and to others red roses (personally I hate red roses) and tuxedos are.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception
First of all- I think it’s pretty awesome that you are open to shifting in your views! Great article!
You know…a lot of my friends are getting married in barns. And spending a he!! of a lot of money on them too! Sure they’re cool and rustic and all but for real? I grew up around horses, cows, and goats. I mucked stalls for my first job and can bush hog with the best of them on a John Deere. We DID drink from mason jars, jelly jars, you name it. And BBQs with a buried hog, catchinging fireflies and frogs, and playing horseshoes late in the night were the highlight of our summer.
This said- barns hold VERY fond memories for me. I can’t imagine getting married in a barn.
But that said, my SIL will be getting married in a barn. She grew up similarly to me. My best friend had a roaring 50s party and local food truck catered.
I guess it’s kind of like a tattoo. It’s very personal. It’s very indicative of who you are at the time it occurs. That said, I’m pretty traditional. Church wedding, no sex before marriage, not seeing the groom before the ceremony, white dress, classy first dance, nothing too crazy at the reception. (Yet!). It’s very true to who we are…
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think rather than going for “timeless” or “rustic” or “trend of the moment” or whatever else, people should just do what reflects them as a couple.
My husband and I are NOT elegant traditional people, so a “timeless” formal ballroom affair would leave our guests wondering wtf? We are outdoorsy, festive, gardening, casual people, so our festive outdoors semi-casual wedding with wildlflowers and mason jars very much reflected us a a couple. It may also look dated down the line, but I really don’t care.
Interesting article, thanks for posting!
Post # 8
As long as the couple is doing something because they like it and not because it’s a trend than who cares?
Post # 9
I think that, no matter how hard you try, there is no such thing as a timeless wedding. There is always something that is going to look ridiculous when a younger (or older) generation looks at it. Yes, I think 80s wedding attire and decor was pretty gaudy, but I’m pretty sure my children will think the same of my wedding dress no matter how hard I try to choose a “timeless” style. Think of it this way: years ago women wore lacey, long sleeve dresses to marry in. Growing up in the 90s and early 2000s I remember laughing at pictures of my grandmothers wearing those long, lacey sleeves. Now I love that style, and I know that it’s popular at the moment. It’s all about what is in and what is out, and you can never always be in style with every decision you make.
Post # 10
@Ruby-Redshoes: that’s so funny I started a post on this exact same article! I love it and have forgotten all about “timeless”. Thats not to say i like all of the trends right now, i just mean that my style changes every year so no point in worrying. Ps HOW can cupcakes be wrong?! Haha
Post # 11
Am I the only one who wants my wedding to look dated in a handful of years? I want to look back at my wedding photos and think that was soooooo 2014. but it was an awesome day
just like me and my cousins look at my uncles wedding pics from the 70s in their powder blue suits with huge flairs and pink ties and laugh. I want my kids to be able to do the same some day!
Post # 12
My wedding will not be timeless. Not even close. Instead, it’s going to be a snapshot of exactly how my FI and I were in the moment we were married. We are goofy and silly and quirky, so our wedding is going to be as such. We are filling our wedding with things we love. I’ve been told that the brooch bouquet I am so excitedly making is going to be “tacky” and “dated” in a few years–Who cares? I’ve wanted a brooch bouquet since as long as I started dreaming about my wedding. My dress will not be white or ivory, so I’m going to date it in a trend of blush pink and champagne colored dresses. My bridesmaids will be in a palatte of colors, not one uniformed look–dating it again.
I’ve never been concerned about how “timeless” my wedding will look. I want my children to look at my wedding photos and see that it truely encompasses us as a couple. Having stiff photos of me in a certain style of dress in a country club venue will never feel authentic.
Honestly, I think that the trumpet and mermaid style dresses will be what “dates” our generation, as well as the lace/burlap/mason jar/barn weddings–but who cares? It doesn’t make them any less gorgeous. Also, I don’t think any photos can really be “timeless.” You look at a wedding from the 50s and know it’s from the 50s, same with the 80s. Definitely not timeless.
Post # 13
Idk, one of the most memorable recaps I have seen on the bee was a wedding that had a 1920’s/30’s-ish theme. So it was not timeless on two fronts, which I thought was cool.
People should do what makes them really happy for their weddings. Ultimately, they’ll be the ones who remember it the most. Five, ten, twenty, thirty years down the road you aren’t going to have friends and family come over to regularly critique your old wedding photos. The only time they’ll be used is for special celebrations or when you look at them yourself.
So I guess I’m of the opinion people should let weddings be a true reflection of themselves more than anything else. People might whine or critique before or immediately after the wedding, but years later no one will care as much except for you, so make it the best for yourself.
Post # 13
Ruby-Redshoes: i think its ok for my wedding to look “dated” because it will show what the time was like when we committed our lives to one another. i love looking at pictures from my parents’ 1974 wedding – they are awesome!!!