Post # 1
So prior to this, Boyfriend or Best Friend had said that the timeline for engagement would be his birthdya which is in September. He told me the other night that he wasn’t sure if I had remembered what he said about a timeline (of course I did) and told me that he ahd always said at 28 it would happen. Wait what?? Yes, we are both turning 28 this fall but I thought it would be before that 🙁 After he mentioned that, I remembered that he had told me about that a looooong time ago (we’ve been together over 6 1/2 years) but never thought that was for real you know?
My cousin’s wedding is this fall and (feel free to slap me since this is selfish of me) I will be sad if we aren’t engaged by then. We are a bit older and been together twice as long. I know it’s not the end of the world but I hate all the questions about when we are getting engaged, when’s the wedding, etc. I truly am happy for them but a little sad for me you know? Thanks for letting me vent ladies, I feel a bit better. Any advice?
Sorry I didn’t realize how long this came out to be :/
Post # 3
Im sure that it’s a huge disapointment to hear that he wants to push it back a bit further, but it’s not too much more time. So, Im understanding that he originally said that he would propose by September, but now he is saying sometime in the fall? It can be torture waiting, but even eith one more month or two you will be ok. About what to say. I think by the time of the wedding if he hasn’t proposed very calmly bring it up. Mention how you had hoped to be engaged due to his timeline of September.Perhaps ask him what you should tell people since you aren’t quite sure what to say at that point.
Post # 4
@wishingonadream04: i know what you mean. a small part of me is dreading going to my bfs sisters wedding in april without being engaged.
Post # 5
@wishingonadream04: I think your feelings are prefectly valid. I’ve felt consious about wedding planning alone especially since we have not officially been “engaged” and no ring if people look at my fingers. This for you must feel a million times worse.
Maybe if it doesn’t happen by the wedding he’ll get inspired to from the wedding and propose to you after?
Post # 6
Why couldn’t you say you thought it was by his birthday last night when he brought it up? I agree with what Tunacupcakes said about asking him what to tell people who ask. I did that with my SO & it cleared a lot of stuff up and made me feel a whole lot better. To top it off, he had some really great things to say to people that even I totally bought into!
Post # 7
Thank you ladies for the great advice 🙂
@Tunacupcakes: and @LaurenK0105: I don’t know why I didn’t say anything about his birthday timeline when he said about age 28 but I definitely will the next time he talks about it.
@tiny tuna: I agree, if we aren’t engaged by the wedding, I hope it does give him the kick in the but he needs to finally propose lol I refuse to end 2011 not engaged yet.