Timeline Advice?

posted 5 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
878 posts
Busy bee

How old are you? What industries are you in? I would value the work reason over ‘time to buy a bigger ring’.

Post # 4
10 posts

Hi friend! My fiance and I got engaged last May and knew then that it would be a L-O-N-G engagement. He is stationed in CA, and I live in NC. I’m finishing graduate school, so planning anything for this year is out of the question. Even though it’s been hard sometimes to look around at my friends who are actively planning their weddings, I am thankful that we have the extra time to save up money and plan. I graudate in May, and we’re trying to figure out whether I should move to CA and try to plan our wedding from there, or stay here for a year and put extra money aside. 

If I had to give advice, I’d tell you to do what makes the most sense for your relationship. It will all work out. 🙂

Post # 5
1438 posts
Bumble bee

Can you afford to not work for a year?  Both financially (do you have student loans?) and from a career standpoint?  How hard is it to break into your industry?  Are there competitive internships that you may miss out on due to being essentially stagnant for year?  Ultimately, where do the two of you want to land once school is done for good?

I would take rings and wanting sooner than later out of the equation and do what is best long-term for building your life together.  I would assume, in most circumstances, that means getting to work asap, building up a savings, and building roots wherever you plan to be long-term instead of putting everything on hold for a year only to move back to where you were originally – but your mileage may vary on that.

Post # 7
878 posts
Busy bee

bambii :  In that case it would help for you to move to the west coast and work for a year while he finishes school. That way no one loses out on anything career wise. Where in Canada is he? If Vancouver, visiting via train can be really easy from Seattle! You guys are both pretty young, so being engaged the summer after he graduates (or sometime near then) sounds like it would work out fine. Plus it will give you time to start saving for a wedding or home!

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