Post # 1
All along I’ve known that there was a chance our venue would have an event on Friday that would preclude us from decorating the day before. The coordinator just emailed me and they scheduled an event the Friday before … we can’t get in to decorate until 10 a.m. Saturday morning. The wedding is at 5 p.m. but we planned on photos starting at 2 p.m. at a nearby hotel, and at the venue at 2:30/2:45 pm. My hair appointment was for 10 a.m. and then everything was going to fall into place after that (because I had assumed we would have the decorations done the night before) … now not so.
My florist is doing all the flowers, but I’ve got bottles to set up on tables (to be filled with flowers), books, candles and wood sayings to be placed on the tables, in addition to misc. other decorations. I’m thinking 1-2 hours is what I’ll need.
Do I get my hair done at 8 a.m. so I can get to the venue at 10 a.m. and decorate for a few hours, then go back and do my makeup? Will my hair hold ALL day (again, ceremony at 5 p.m.)?
FI says we’ll get help (his mom, my sisters, etc.) but everyone has hair and make up appointments and will be getting ready. I’m a control freak and it’s hard to delegate work…I’d rather do it myself.
Thoughts on how to best handle? How to rearrange my timeline for getting ready AND still having the decorations in place?
Post # 3
We were in a similar position: We couldn’t get in to decorate until 12 pm; I, along with a bunch of the other women in my family, had hair/makeup appointments starting at 8; we were set to start pictures at the church at 3 pm.
What I did was turn everything over to my husband. He rounded up all the men (my dad, his dad, our uncles, and some of our male friends) and had the whole thing decorated in 2 hours. That left them plenty of time to get dressed and to the church by 3 pm for pictures.
I’m also a bit of a type A personality (although, I just say I’m “highly organized,” lol!), so I made my husband a whole reference binder for the decorations. It had table layouts, mockups of table decorations, mockups of the mantel decorations/gift table/guestbook table, lists of all the vendor phone numbers, a detailed timeline of what they had to have done and when, etc… In the end, I turned it all over to him, and everything turned out SO well! I had a hard time letting go, but on our wedding day, it was so nice to be able to relax and be pampered. Even though I worried a little bit, I trusted that my husband could do it, and he didn’t disappoint. 🙂
Post # 4
@Mrs. Spring: Ahhhhhh, that’s what I needed to hear. FI is fully offering to take care of it … and it isn’t that I don’t trust him, I just need to be in control. Maybe this will be a good test for me to trust him and have faith in him that he can handle it. Any other day, I’d have this covered….just NOT my wedding day!
Post # 5
Is the venue coordinator able to help? Between the coordinator, caterer and florist we were able to get the setup done without any bride, bridal party or family involvement.
Post # 6
@milesbella: Do you have any close friends or close family members that are not an “extra-special” part of your wedding such as BM or reading a scripture or poem or anything like that that could help? I have a HANFUL of AMAZING FRIENDS and very few “friends”, so it was really hard for me to decide on who would be in and who would be “out”. I wanted to incorporate them all in my special day — the majority of my girls not “in” the bridal party have offered to OVERSEE the entire day and timeline as well has help decorate and help take apart… handle tux returns the next day. It’s insane how many people actually WANT to help, you just have to ask and let them know politely what you’re looking for. It might also flatter someone you’re close with, once they know you trust them that much with your special day. Just my opinion.
@Mrs. Spring had a great idea also. Let the men know what you want, they’ll definitely get it down. Your groom doesn’t want to incite (sp) a riot on the day of:) 🙂
Post # 7
The same thing happened to me. The venue was willing to place things for us, but they were a some things that I didn’t want to leave to them. Luckily, I have some relatives who weren’t in the pictures who were willing to help out. We also did family pics first, then bridal party, so our parents were able to get to the reception site early to set things up as well. You do not want to have to set up on your wedding day!!!
Post # 8
@milesbella: Lol, think of it as practice for the future! I’m sure your Fi will do a great job! 🙂