Post # 1
Ok so Fiance asked his parents yesterday if they would be saying a speech/toast at our wedding, as we need to submit all our info to the band so they can create the timeline of when each person says their toast, dances, etc.
Future Mother-In-Law was very strange about this, and said it would be more of a “spontaneous” thing, instead of set in stone. Fiance explained to her that we need to include it in the timeline so everything goes according to schedule. She said she had never heard of that before. I think it is completely normal… What do you think?
Post # 3
Timelines are normal for most formal or sit-down receptions I think. You can’t have crazy aunt mabel deciding she wants to give a speech after 8 glasses of wine or have the best man decide that his speech should be given just as the main course is being served. Guests will be like…”hmmm, should we go ahead & eat before it gets cold or would that be rude??”.
The MC or DJ needs to know when to introduce people or introduce the “BIG moments”. They know what they are doing & I would go with their advice. They can also control who can take over the mike & takes over the reception. Some couples have guests that they have to ban from giving speeches, lol
Post # 4
Most weddings have timelines that are ran by the day of coordinator or DJ.
I’ve never heard the groom’s parents make any speeches at weddings I’ve been to. Normally they host the rehearsal dinner and make the speech there.
Post # 5
@PinkMagnolia: All of our parents made (short) speeches at our reception!
We did have a timeline, though, especially so the MC knew when to introduce them and so we knew when it would fall during dinner, etc. It seems like a nice idea to have a spontaneous speech, but with all the planning and work that goes into making the day run smoothly, it’s probably a better bet to have at least a rough timeline of how these things will happen.
Post # 6
Yes, but understand that it may not end up being exact… at least it gives you an idea of time distribution
Post # 7
Yea we are having both sets of parents give toasts/speeches (assuming they want to), as well as all of our siblings (my sister & his sister- although I still need to check with her). We aren’t having a rehearsal dinner, and both sets of parents are paying for the reception, so we thought it would be nice to offer it to both