- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
I know most people wouldn’t be as excited for this, but last night my SO told me to check back with him in August.
As a quick refresher, we’ve been dating for a little over 4 years. I’m in grad school and he has a full time job, and he just moved out of his parents house in July.
I’ve been checking back with him every 6 months or so for the past year and a half (as I type this I realize how long that sounds, but the time has actually flown by since we’re both so busy).
I know he wants to get married, but for us the hold up is mostly money and me traveling back and forth to school (and not being able to live with him full time – though I do on weekends and breaks).
Anyways, we got kind of tipsy last night and I decided to check in with him again (last time was before he moved out at which point he said it would be about a year after he found a place). And he said that moving out was step 1, and so step 2 can start in the new year, which would be saving for the engagement. I reminded him at this point that the ring doesn’t have to be expensive, and I think/hope he was relieved (since it’s been kind of tight with money since he moved out).
We talked a bit about long/short engagements and decided that it would be best to get married (have the ceremony/reception) after I was done with school (2-ish years). But, and this is the exciting part, he said we can get engaged while I’m still in school – just not during this school year.
So, long story short, he asked to check back with him in August =]
—- you can stop reading here since the rest is just an afterthought lol —-
Part of me hopes that maybe he’s throwing me off in order to propose sooner (we have an amazing vacation coming up in January), but the rational part of me knows that that’s most likely not going to happen, especially since he sounded pretty convincing when he said he hasn’t been thinking about it (marriage/enagement) that much. He’s the type of person that doesn’t like planning ahead until he has everything he needs. So in this case, apartment (check), time (needed), and money (needed). Time is something that I need more so than him (since as he put it, “you wouldn’t want to be planning a wedding right now” – and school-wise he’s right), and he needs money, since he wants to be able to afford a nice ring (and I need money too for all the things that come after the engagement).
Sorry this was so long. I don’t post often, so when I do I feel like I need to get everything out lol