- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
So, as many of you may remember, I had a huge talk with my SO in December. He wasn’t thinking engagement before I moved in and I realized I couldn’t move so far/without a job without that commitment. Long story short, he promised me by our anniversary in October, a few months after I move in. That sounded amazing to me (still does) and so since we are LD I am assuming it won’t happen until after August when I move. It makes it easier, actually, knowing that it probably won’t happen then (I know he has to pay off the ring, plus I only get to see him for a total of two weeks until then, limited time to propose!), so I’ve been able to put it reasonably out of my mind. I haven’t brought up anything engagement or wedding related (unless it is about a friends’ wedding 😉 ) but I was struggling last night, just stressed about grad school work, finding a place to live, finding a job, all these things it’s still just too early to tell, and I guess I like knowing how the next 6 months of my life are going to go! I was afraid that my parents might not be supportive of me moving. They aren’t conservative and expect to be married or engaged before moving in together, but at this point (it’ll almost be 5 years) I know they’re bitter (like me!) that this hasn’t happened yet. I know it’s coming from a place of caring (they don’t want me strung along!), but I’m concerned they won’t be supportive. My SO said, “do you think they would be more if we were engaged?” I said, of course they would, but I don’t think that’s happening before we move in together. And he just said something like, well , we’ll see. So obviously I still don’t think it’s happening until after I move in, but it’s clear it’s on his mind, which is all I really hope for at this point! Sorry this was way longer than I wanted to write, but I thought I’d update every one. I am trying to focus on grad school, but I just want to be employed, paying my bills like a grownup (haha! I know I’ll regret saying that one day) and living with the man I love. Only 6-7 more months. But this week is killing me!