Timeline Update – Part 1 – apartment

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Kat_Kit2000:  Those fights happen regardless of whether or not the couple is married. Personally (and I may be biased as SO and I have lived together over a year), I think they help build the relationship and set guidelines 🙂

Post # 4
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35 posts
Newbee

@Kat_Kit2000:  I agree with what alsgirl said, those fights happen no matter your marital status. Honestly though, SO and I don’t really have many of those kinds of tiffs (and haven’t in the year and a half we’ve lived together). I think there was a short adjustment period for a couple months where we got used to sharing a very small space (400 sq ft studio, FTW), but it really wasn’t bad.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kat_Kit2000:  Hi there. I’ve lived with two guys in my time. The first was a miserable relationship. We didn’t fight much until I kicked him out of my apartment. It was, after all, MY apartment. He was basically a piece of shit so we didn’t have much stuff that was ours.

Fast forward eight years and I’m living with my FH and have been for 3 years now. I moved into his marital home that he shared with his children and ex-wife. It was weeeeeeeeeird because it was kind of obvious that I was treading where others had gone before. It took me a long time to consider the house my own space and a place of comfort.

I say that you need to go into this knowing that you are going to have a wide range of emotions and to do your best to keep your perspective. Does it really matter where the couch goes if you aren’t there fulltime? Is it worth an argument? Probably not. Expect emotions and plan for it to take a while for you to get comfy there. It will work out just fine if this is the right guy for you!

Post # 7
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Kat_Kit2000:  I felt that way at first, as I moved into his place  cos I was in uni accomodation before. Let him know how you’re feeling, and suggest that you get to decorate a bit or buy some stuff together. When I first moved in, SO had posters everywhere, study was in the loungeroom, the now study was just storage, really cheap student-y furniture. We’ve been gradually buying stuff together  (yay we have a comfy couch set instead of a rock hard futon!) 🙂

Post # 8
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573 posts
Busy bee

Me and SO still live with parents mainly due to saving and the housing market.  SO doesn’t want to rent but to buy, so he’s looking for a good investment.  It’s been talked of several times that eventually I would be paying into the mortgage (I would only be doing this once engaged and that I would only move in once engaged).  Like you mentioned, it willbe nice to finally get a spaceof our own.  At the moment we have to use the kitchen when my parents arene’t, and we only have my room for privacy to watch films, hug and talk abotu the day. Other than that we go for drives to talk in private.

The timescale of this varies: only yesterday SO spoke of having our own space together soon, but then last week we’ve been so busy we haven’t had time to look for hourses.  So I guess the point of this reply is I hear ya 🙂  It’ll work itself out soon.

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