Post # 1
So we’ve all been stuck at weddings where the stuff (toasts, dances, cake cutting, etc.) seems to drag on forever and it can be quite annoying. By the time they actually get around to opening the dance floor, I’m ready for bed! I definitely don’t want this to happen at my wedding, because I’m a dancing fiend. I want to get people fed as quickly as possible and get everyone dancing. But I have no clue how to time this.
What FI and I were thinking was to do the toasts during the salad, eat our entrees quickly and do our first dance while everyone is still finishing theirs, and then open the dance floor for an hour or so. Then after an hour, we would cut the cake and do the parent dances while everyone was eating cake. Is that weird, to put the parent dances later in the evening like that? We were thinking it would be a nice way to kill two birds with one stone- so people wouldn’t have to spend time sitting through the dances and then go back to their tables to sit some more and eat cake. 90% of our pictures will be before the ceremony, so we should be able to get to the reception and get started with dinner pretty quickly…
Any advice to keep things moving?
Post # 3
I went to a wedding in October where the couple did their first dances etc. and cake cutting after cocktails, before we all actually ate. The toasts were given once everyone had their meal and were seated. This was very very nice. Things really seemed to move along and we danced the night away. My only suggestion would be to make sure there’s salad or rolls or something for people to eat while this is going on because everyone was starving.
That being said your plan sounds fine. I don’t think it’s weird for the guests to eat cake while you guys are having your parent dances. I think it would be a nice break from mingling etc.
Post # 4
i actually really like the idea of having ppl eat cake while parent dances are going on….this can be pretty boring for the guests, usually, so it is a nice way to keep them entertained AND move events along
Post # 5
I am trying to avoid the same problem. This is the timeline that i have put together in hopes to avoid it. The times are just an estimte, we’ll be flexible the day of.
4-5pm Coctail Hour
5:00 Guest take seats
5:15 Bridal Party Entrance (Song)
5:25 First Dance (Song)
5:30 Dinner Line
6:00 Cut Cake (Song)
6:20 Father Daughter Dance (Song)
6:25 Mother Son Dance (Song)
6:30 Wedding Party Song (Song)
8: 15 Anniversary Dance
9:30 Dollar Dance
Post # 6
Everyone will want to see your first dance, so don’t do it during dinner. Why not cut the cake at the end of dinner while guests are gathered, then move to the dance floor for the rest of the evening. People can take a break to get some cake once it’s been cut (it takes a long time for a tiered cake to be plated).
Post # 7
Thanks for the input everyone! We’re still waiting on hearing what our dj and caterer suggest before making any final decisions.
@VeronicaH- Thanks for the suggestion. Our room is pretty small, so I’m sure everyone will be able to see us dance from their tables, probably better than if they were all standing around… I will make sure to ask the caterer how long they need to plate the cake though, I hadn’t even thought of that!
Post # 8
I totally support the sentiment, I think most people put too little thought into the timeline.
Whether this time line is best really depends on how late the reception will go. It might be a tad rushed if you are going to midnight, and are starting at 6. But if you are wrapping up at 10, for example, this is a great idea.
Post # 9
@monitajb- good point. We have to be 100% out of our venue by 11, so that includes packing up gifts, etc. We’re hoping to get the guests out by 10:30.
Post # 10
@ greenleafmountain: then you are on the right path. Your dj and caterer might have some tweaks to the timeline, but it sounds like a good one. My biggest complaint about weddings that end earlier is that if the dancing gets going late, everything gets cut off way too early.