Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
Is there any rule regarding when the first dance is generally done? It seems like lots of people do it right after the cocktail hour and before dinner, but I want to wait until after dinner when it’s darker outside. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I think you can do it at any point. Recently, I’ve seen people serve dinner first if they are having a late ceremony so that people can eat dinner at a reasonable time.
Just remember that after dinner, people will start to get up and socialize and wander. I think it might be easier to do it first, because you have everyone’s attention. But it can definitely work out to do it later. I think it would be fine. Perhaps just socialize a bit first, and then serve the food? Or maybe you could do the dance in between the salad and the meal?
Something else you could consider is coming in and doing the "first dance" right away, and then waiting a bit before you do the father-daughter dance and the mother-son dance.
Post # 4
Have the dance whenever you want! We’re going to do ours after everything else is done (dinner, tosses, and cake) so it will get the ball rolling on all of the dancing.
Post # 5
Hi, I would love some feedback/comment on my idea of how I want my first dance. It is related to/inspired by what Grey56 <span class=”numpostsandtitle”>posted in "Alternatives in announcing the wedding party."
I don’t like the idea of how a number of events in the reception has to be announced like meeting agendas. E.g., when it comes to First Dance or Mother/Son/Father/Daughter dance, I would like to have it toward the end of our dinner meal (but b4 guests are well into finishing their meals & start walking around). I would like to create an atmosphere where the heads would naturally turn to the dance floor where we’ll be getting ready for our 1st dance without some formal broadcast. I’m guessing turning on the volume of the music when the first dance song comes on? dimming the lights a little bit? Since our first dance song is a slow song, maybe just the fact that a slow song w/ vocal comes on as opposed to the previous loungy background music (low volume) that accompanies dinner? Asking certain guests to be more aware as to 1st dance’s when-abouts and ask them to alert the others at the same table? any other ways?
I would also love some reality check from u to see if this vision seems impractical or littered with potential problems. My FI thinks that without the right execution, it may create confusion or other unexpected consequences. I won’t be devastated if I just have to go back to the traditional broadcast & announce to play it safe. Thx
Post # 6
I was always told growing up that at weddings you don’t get up and dance until the bride and groom dance first. So traditionally, the bride and groom have their dance right when the reception starts. However, I’ve been to others where they wait until after they finish their meal. So really its up to you. If you don’t care if people get up and wander/mingle/or even dance before you have your first dance, then have it whenever you’d like!