- 5 years ago
Hi Bees! I have been a long time board stalker but finally thought I could use some advice on this. My fiance and I are getting eloped in Bora Bora, we are both deployed in Afghanistan and will be getting married at the beginning of our R&R… I likely won’t have professional photos back for a while (I’m sure they take 6-8 weeks at least). I plan on having an announcement designed and made to send out to all of our friends and family that we would have normally invited. We will be gone approximately 3 weeks, relatively unplugged from everyone.. the question is:
1. Should I mail out my wedding announcements with a letter explaining what we are doing and why as well as a website with a note saying to check it in a month or so as we will update it with pictures the day I hop on a plane? (this would be 5 days before we are set to have our ceremony, it takes about 2 weeks for mail to get back to the states)
1.b. sub question: does anyone like that idea about the future website? thinking we may have time to update it there, or at least when i’m travelling 40 hours back to work with more of our story, how the actual day of the ceremony went, the magic of it, the beauty, a couple pictures..
2. Should I wait until we get back and mail them as soon as I get to a post office (announcement with a letter)… keeping quiet the whole time since it hasn’t been formally announced (i.e. no facebook) this would have to be without pictures as well since I will not have them back yet.
3. Should I wait until I get pictures back to include it with our announcement and the letter and keep quiet until then?
Please don’t berate me for asking the facebook thing, it is a part of our life now, especially over here where we can’t keep in touch with everyone easily and I figure if I mail everything before hand we would be in the clear to announce it when we get back via fb. Otherwise, if I wait until I mail them afterward, I’d have to wait about 6 weeks from our wedding day to publicly announce it, in which we will get all the congrats etc etc as if it just happened that day and I’ll have to explain it all over again. Just want to make sure I time everything right.
And yes etiquette police, I know you technically aren’t supposed to announce your elopement before you actually get eloped, however, considering we will be off the grid and it will be a matter of days, the only way anyone would know is if they compared the date stamp on the envelope. The only downfall to option 1 is that I won’t be able to write to everyone explaining how special our day was if I send it beforehand, of course my solution would be to direct them to a website that I can update when I can.
Thanks for all the help!!!