Post # 1
this is something that has been on my mind lately…I would like to start trying to conceive as soon as possible after the wedding next January. I will be almost 32 and even though I would like to just relax and enjoy the aftermath of the wedding and enjoy being married I don’t feel that I have that luxury time-wise.
So I guess the core of my dilemma is quite shallow, and has probably been discussed on wedding bee before 😉 but…if I stop taking oral contraceptive 1mth prior to the wedding, what can I expect?
weight gain or loss?
will it impact on the wedding?
i plan to drink a decent amount on the wedding night but I don’t think we will actually have unprotected sex that night…so will I still have a risk of doing alcohol damage to the foetus if we start trying a few days afterwards?
I know I have to start taking folate etc a few mths before TTC but what else should I do/not do?
the reason I was thinking to stop taking BC 1mth prior to the wedding is so I can give the body time to start ovulating again. Is that the right terminology?
Can anyone think of anything I haven’t referred to here? Am I missing something? I feel like I am.
Post # 3
Drinking alcohol before you’ve even had unprotected sex will not impact your future baby in any way.
The changes your body goes through after stopping BC are different for everyone. For me I had crazy hormonal changes that caused a ton of phantom pregnancy symptoms. Tender breasts, mood swings, emotional, etc. I did not have issues with my skin. The stress of the last month prior to the wedding combined with the wacky hormone changes from stopping bc might be tough!
Start taking prenatal vitamins, eat healthy, get some exercise, otherwise just do as you normally do. Some women do not drink at all while trying to conceive, others are in the “drink til it’s pink” camp (I am!) and continue to drink until they become pregnant. It’s a personal choice.
You’re right in that your body needs to adjust to being off BC to start ovulating again. Some women go on to have normal ovulation cycles right after stopping bc, some take time to regulate. Good luck to you!!
Post # 4
i am also 32. i stopped BCP in july, we will be ttc in october. i only stopped bcp in june because i finished all my pill packs and didn’t want to get anymore. i was going to stop in august anyway,
when i met with the gyn, she said 2-3 months off BCP is all you need so your body can regulate. some people do get pregnant right after they stop taking bcp without any break. i had been on bcp for about 12 years. i have been as regular as can be since coming off bcp, i was super surprised.
i met my gyn last month for my annual exam. she told me to have fun the first 3 months. not to worry about charting or anything. if nothing happens, then i can come in for an appointment and we can assess at that point.
i have beenn taking prenatal vitamins for 3 months. i suggest starting those as soon as possible.
Post # 5
and don’t worry about drinking. as soon as we are married, no more condoms… i’m having wine the night of the wedding. we are going to italy for our honeymoon and i will be drinking wine there too. once i know i am pregnant, i will stop drinking. but the glass or 2 of wine i will have while trying will be fine.
and i think my skin is better since i have been off bcp and did not gain any weight.
any questions, feel free to ask.
Post # 6
I stopped taking the pill 3 months before the wedding and didn’t notice any difference, but guess this is different for everyone. I started taking prenatals at the same time (which can improve the look of your nails and hair!), and started charting, I ovulated first month off the pill which was a relief. My husband cut back on caffeine (he drank a lot of coffee)
I’m of the “drink till it’s pink” opinion, so i didn’t give up wine until i had a positive test result, but i didn’t drink in excess once we’d started trying. I got pregnant the second month trying, and that could be luck, but i think all our preparation helped (I’m almost 32).
I also bought some softcups in case i had my period on the wedding night, I know some people use these as a fertility aid too!
Post # 7
When I came of BCP, I was on it for 11 years, my skin exploded, it was like being a teenager again, painful and made me so selfcautious.
I did gain weight, that however, decided to all go to my boobs, so I was fine with it.
Emotionally I was a wreck, I couldn’t have imaginced adding the stress of a wedding to that as well.
I wanted sex All.The.Time…. husband liked that.
Post # 8
DON’T STOP 1 MONTH BEFORE YOUR WEDDING! After my wedding I stopped the pill after being on it for 10 years. My skin broke out EVERYWHERE, I gained 10 pounds, and was the most irritable, moody, crazy person for the first 2 months. I cannot even imagine how much worse it would have been if I had stopped 1 month before the wedding.
If you are going to stop taking it, stop NOW and give your body time to adjust before your wedding. It’s been almost 4 months and I’m pretty much back to normal and I’ve lost 5lbs of the 10 I gained.
Post # 9
@Andyboots: I didn’t have any weight or skin issues when I went off of the pill. It’s different for everyone tho. Alcohol before you TTC won’t hurt the baby. I had a drink during my two week wait (which could have been right around implantation) and I’m currently 13w1d pregnant with a healthy baby. I saw my OB the month before we TTC and got a pap (this meant I didn’t have to get a pap when I went in for my first prenatal apt). If you aren’t already doing it I’d read Taking Charge of your Fertility and check out fertilityfriend.com to get some info on charting your cycles & figuring out when you are ovulating and what signs to look for.
Post # 10
I felt great coming off bcp – mood improved, no breakouts or weight gain, increased libido. My only problem was that my cycles were irregular, so I had trouble conceiving until a naturopath helped me regulate them.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t recommend stopping 1 month prior to the wedding. I really turned into a crazy person. Really bad mood swings, super irritable, my skin broke out, and I just generally didn’t feel good or feel like myself. Everyone is different so that might not happen but I wouldn’t want to risk it with a wedding coming up, plus you don’t know when AF will show once you stop so that’s always a concern in a wedding dress. As far as regulating off the pill, my doctor didn’t tell me to wait to start trying. She told me we could start TTC the first month off the pill. My cycle was completely regular that first month and I ovulated right on time, I wouldn’t be really worried about having to regulate when you come off unless you have had problems in the past, timing might just be a little difficult at first because your cycle length may change. Oh and if it makes you feel any better, I was 31 when we started TTC, I’ll be 32 when the baby gets here and we had no problems conceiving even though I had really irregular cycles prior to the pill.
Post # 12
i would stop earlier than that and use condoms in the meantime. just ot make sure that any negative side effects don’t crop up just before your wedding!!
also it depends which oral contraceptive. the progesterone only pill, if its stopped your periods, it may take a while for them to come back. not an issue with combined pill
Post # 13
Thanks so much everyone for your responses, I have really enjoyed every single reply.
In the past I have gone off the pill and although i have not experienced any mood changes I definitely got a bad breakout. I wonder if that is a small price to pay for being able to conceive as soon as possible post wedding…
Post # 14
@Andyboots: I went off BC the month before the wedding, and conceived on our honeymoon!
I did not get any acne. I was a little crabby, but that also could have been the wedding!I did see a little weight gain, but that could have also been a little comfort eating…
I also drank on the wedding night, and very occasionally on the honeymoon (rule of thumb, you have two safe weeks of drinking from the first day of your last period). And to the best of my knowledge, my princess is fine (and kicks like a kickboxer on stereroids!)
Post # 15
@CityBearBride: Thiiiiisssss. I went off BCP for three months for various reasons and it was HORRIBLE. I got bloated, I got a million zits (and I NEVER get them, not even when I was a teenager did I get more than a few ever) I was moody, even a little paranoid, and my cycle went crazy. I know it was the BCP, when I went back on, it all cleared up in a couple of weeks.