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i'm not ttc yet, but i probably would take a break for a month or two. i wouldn't want my kid to end up with a christmas birthday!
@kitzy: I wouldn't either, kids who are born around Christmas tend to feel a bit cheated I think.. Anyone born around Christmas? Did it bother you as a kid?
We're due any day now but we did decide to start trying at a time that would hopefully keep us from delivering super close to Christmas. It wasn't for travel reasons but more because I didn't want the baby's birthday to be within days of Christmas.
My plan was to do this. We (Ok really *I*) timed our TTC so to hopefully have a Spring baby... or Summer if it took a little longer. I always said we'd stop to avoid a Late Nov, Dec, Jan, early Feb birthday. For my own little silly reasons. Yes the avoid a child having a 'Christmas' birthday - but not only for the child but also I don't want the stress of birthday planning every year in the midst of the holiday hoopla :)
But then reality sets in and you're on the 5th or 6th cycle of trying - and each month the disappoint increases - and the desire to 'make it happen' intensifies - and I'm not so sure we would have stopped.
Luckily we didn't have to make that decision on the first go around :) But I'm sure I'll have the same mindset for take II :)
@candicemcc: I think if we don't have any luck this month or next, which would put me due the end of October or November I'm going to want to wait until May.. It seems so far away though!
I don't think its a bad idea if you and your husband are early on TTC and really want to time things.
I wouldn't do it based around traveling to see your family though. Your husband is right, they would be more than happy to come see you if you are going to have a new baby!
I just found this post, lol
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/holiday-birthdays-suck
My birthday is a couple days before Christmas, but my mom's birthday is even closer, so she always made sure to make my birthday a big deal since it was so close to Christmas and she knew what I would go through. Now, its the hubs turn to make sure my birthday is special! He fell a little short this year, but onyl due to money constraints
My birthday is very close to Christmas. I also share my birthday with my sister, who is 7 years older than I am. Double whammy.
I don't think it's that big of a deal, as long as it's made known throughout your son/daughter's life that that is THEIR day, it's not a "I'll combine your birthday with your Christmas presents" day.
In having our birthday so close to Christmas, it was always made a point to celebrate the two separately. If we were born at any other time of the year, that's what would happen, so why not in late December as well? Also, since we share our birthday, our parents always made sure we had two separate cakes, etc and were individually sung to and recognized etc.
It's all what you make of it!
@MrsSl82be: Yeah, as parents I think we would just have to make sure it is kept separate and made special.. One bonus would be that in the future we would be around family and the kid would have their cousins to celebrate their birthday's with!
ooh I WANT a Christmas baby :)
hoping in times out so that I do, hehe
We are SO on the fence about this.
In our circle of family and friends we have TWELVE birthdays in between November and December and then the holidays. Sigh.
So ideally we do not want a November or December baby.
However, given that we feel we will have complications I also do not want to throw two months away either.
I guess it's time my husband and I have heart to heart about this! 
Haha, I'm the opposite -- I want my kid to be born later in the year (September and beyond). There isn't even a reason, really... my brother, sister, and I were all born late in the year and it just feels normal to me. For this reason, I've decided that I am going to go off my birth control around our one-year anniversary in September so that we might be pregnant around December/January-ish. Or something. This could totally not work but it's what I'm thinking. :)
DH and I aren't trying to concieve yet but it would likely depend on how long we'd been trying. I do think it would be nice to avoid having a child with a birthday around the holidays because I would hate to have a birthday around the holidays and wouldn't want to do that to my own kids. Maybe when we decide to start TTC, we'll start in the early summer so that we have a while to be unsuccessful before we'd have a kid with a holiday birthday.
@regberadaisy: I feel the same way, what if we wait and then it still takes us 6 months to conceive? :-/
We didn't even consider this when TTCing, but if I were to go as late as allowed I could end up with a Feb. 14th baby... I'd be demanding an early induction just to prevent that! {and we don't even celebrate Valentine's}.
It took us 5 months, there's no way we would have stopped for a month or two in between because of the holidays. I'm an early December baby and I have a cousin who is an early January baby. Growing up we were far enough away from Christmas to have our own special day, but it was also nice that we'd get to celebrate again with distant family around the holidays. And like your DH says, if you're too far along to travel in December, it's time for new traditions {plus, it's only the one year}.
My baby is due in July, but if I wasn't already pregnant I wouldn't wait. I'd just want it to happen asap.
It's always been in the back of my mind that I'd like to avoid having a baby in late December. I wouldn't really mind November, or early December. But I think once I lay out my cycles, I would stop TTC the one month where I might end up with a Christmas baby. The only problem is that my hubs and I had talked about starting TTC in Feb. I thought we'd try in Fed & March, and then stop in April if we hadn't had success. But now, we've postponed our timeline a bit, so thinking about waiting until MAY to start seems SO FAR AWAY, even though it isn't!!!
It would be nice to have lots of family around for a child's birthday, but at the same time, I think that the child would always feel like his/her birthday was not that big of a deal if it's during the holidays. I'm a "birthday person" and birthdays are a big deal in my family.
I also wouldn't really mind any other holidays- Valentine's Day, Memorial/4th of July-- I don't think those are as big of a deal.
We have discussed this and agree that we don't *ideally* want a baby born in either December or January (of course, we would still be happy) - We have 5 close family birthdays in late December/early January and we feel we always cheat them out of good gifts/celebrations because we have so many people to buy for and so much going on at that time...We don't want to do that to our future child! We've agreed that we will start TTC at a time when we'd be avoiding a Dec/Jan due date, but if it was taking us awhile to get pregnant, we wouldn't stop TTC just to avoid it. It's not THAT big of a deal to us. Plus, God laughs when you make plans... babies can always come early!
I am sure it is not ideal for some, but honestly this is something you can't really choose to an extent. My hubs said that to me last March when we started TTC that he was kinda glad we did not get it right the first try seeing it would have been a Christmas baby. We just revisted that conversation tonight after our 11th month trying and he feels horrible and is eating his words. I had people tell me, don't give birth Dec-Feb bc of the weather, don't in July-August bc you'll be miserable due to the heat yadda yadda. Life is what happens while you are busy making plans! Right now, we would give our right kidney to get off these fertility meds and get pregnant.
I'm considering timing only because I want to give birth during the late spring/ summertime. I don't neccessarily (sp?) want to give birth to a child from Dec to February because it's rainy season and I don't want to be trapped inside when it's raining. I want some nice weather to walk the baby in. Yeah, it's not really related to the holidays, it more about the weather. haha
Doesn't matter to me one bit. We start ttc again in the next few weeks and if we have a Christmas baby, great! After a miscarriage last summer and then major surgery in order to try again, I don't care when we would have a baby. We just want a baby! :)
I would really like to have a fall / winter baby. We aren't ttc yet, but I think it would be nice to have a baby before the holidays so that we could have lots of support from family around the holidays after the birth who might not otherwise have the time off. Also, it is quite hot in the summer where I live, and I think it would be much more pleasant to be 9 months pregnant once the weather starts to cool. My last reason is kind of crazy...but...I would have lots of time to lose weight while it is still appropriate to wear long sleeves and long pants :P
My sister's birthday is in the very beginning of January and it never felt like Christmas - my mom did a great job in making it a special day. I think having your birthday ON Christmas would be less than ideal, but I think the Christmas season would be a nice time overall to celebrate a birthday :)
I think that if you have the luxery of avoiding a holiday season birth then you should. That's when my bday is and growing up it always felt that people were sick of parties and shopping for gifts by the time my bday rolled around. That, and a few canceled birthday parties due to snowstorms in the NE, definitely felt a little cheated as a kid.
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I am curious, is anyone else thinking about timing when you give birth if you're TTC? Both of our families live in MI and we always spend a week there over Christmas & New Years so I suggested we skip a few months of TTC but DH said who cares, if you're too far along to travel they can come to us or we can have our own Christmas here in Jersey! I know we have to start our own traditions at some point but the thought of not spending the Holidays with our families breaks my heart, is anyone else debating this?
A little bit of background... I am 29, DH is 33, we were just married in October and are only on our second cycle of TTC, or as my doctor called it, Russian Roulette... I know with some, you've been TTC for a while so I know that would also be a factor...