Is anyone else embarrassed by the enormous breast forms in their dress? I'm 5'6" 118lbs, and I wear a 34AA bra. I wouldn't let the dress shop order my dress a size larger because I suspected that the bust would be ridiculously large. The rest of the dress fits like a glove, but the top is stuffed with two enormous pads in each cup and I think it looks ridiculous. The tailor said that there isn't anything they can do to make it smaller because of the boning, and that I should just enjoy my new hourglass figure. I think it looks silly and is incredibly embarrassing!
Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do?
This is my first major wedding related freakout so I appreciate the support.
I don't have any suggestions, b/c I haven't had a fitting for my dress yet. I am small chested too and after I was done trying on dresses my sister/MOH told my dad that he should get me a breast augmentation for my gift!
I would check with another tailor. The seamstress at the bridal shop I tried my dress on said she could take in the side of my dress with no problem!
none of the dresses I tried on had "implants," but if you ask me, the idea that you should just have to accept it is ridiculous. people know what you look like, and I totally agree that it would be embarassing. keep shopping for alterationists! at worst, they'll have to rebuild that part of the dress, but it's clothing! it *can* be altered!
No way should they just tell you to accept it! The last thing you want to feel on your wedding day is ridiculous about how you look. I would take the dress to another seamstress to get a second opinion. It may cost more to get the dress altered to fit you, but nothing is impossible. Don't give up.
geez... I'm 5'7", 130, 34AA and I haven't taken my dress into the tailor yet (still have 9 months until W day) but you absolutely shouldn't put up with that answer! take it somewhere else and tell this lady to kiss your (ahem!)
So glad to see this post, cause I'm a little worried about this, too. Has anyone actually been successful at rebuilding that part of the dress to fit a small bust?
I consider myself a small bust bride. A think a good bridal seamstress should be able to take in the bust. I don't know the exact details of the dress, but I would think taking in the bust is not all that uncommon. For my dress I not only took in the bust, but I actually brought down the whole neckline. The sweetheart neckline was a little too severe for my small chest, so we brought it down to be proportional. In this process, some of the boning and wiring were cut off.
Here's where I wrote about some of the process- My First Fitting. Some of my newer post-wedding posts will show you how well the dress fits!
I know what you mean, my first dress fit beautifully everywhere except the bust. It was RIDICULOUS how huge it made my chest area look. I felt like I was wearing football padding! I knew if someone so much as bumped into me that whole boobage area would just cave in. I kept thinking "everyone KNOWS I am not stacked, why would I want to look so unnatural on my wedding day?!?" No amount of alterations fixed this issue...(mainly because after I had it re-fitted, I still ended up hating it.)
Thus, I became the 4 dress bride I am today.
I say, if you really don't feel comfortable, get that bad boy altered. Find a really really good seamstress, because it might be a big job depending on if there is a lot of detailing on the bodice/bust area. You don't want to feel self-conscious and uncomfortable.
I'm just echoing with a similar problem... for me, the dress fit like a glove when I first got it in January, but I still wanted to lose some weight. Fast forward to now, and the 15 pounds is gone, but so are my boobs! I went down a whole cup size. Now, with the wedding so close, I'm stuck doing the padding thing and feeling a little fake up top.
I agree with the other girls- if you have the time, find someone to do the alterations. You want to feel as much like yourself as possible!
Find another tailor! When I was looking at dresses I found several that were cute, but the boning made them much too big in the bust. The lady at the shop said they can shorten the boning, basically pulling it down so it doesn't create such a large bust line, and then they stitch it in place. I would definitely look into that, you want to feel beautiful and comfortable on your big day, not self conscious!
Is anyone else embarrassed by the enormous breast forms in their dress? I'm 5'6" 118lbs, and I wear a 34AA bra. I wouldn't let the dress shop order my dress a size larger because I suspected that the bust would be ridiculously large. The rest of the dress fits like a glove, but the top is stuffed with two enormous pads in each cup and I think it looks ridiculous. The tailor said that there isn't anything they can do to make it smaller because of the boning, and that I should just enjoy my new hourglass figure. I think it looks silly and is incredibly embarrassing!
Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do?
This is my first major wedding related freakout so I appreciate the support.
posted by Blackbird 22 posts 3 months agoI don't have any suggestions, b/c I haven't had a fitting for my dress yet. I am small chested too and after I was done trying on dresses my sister/MOH told my dad that he should get me a breast augmentation for my gift!
I would check with another tailor. The seamstress at the bridal shop I tried my dress on said she could take in the side of my dress with no problem!
I'm sure something can be done! Don't fret!
posted by hbowar 130 posts 3 months agonone of the dresses I tried on had "implants," but if you ask me, the idea that you should just have to accept it is ridiculous. people know what you look like, and I totally agree that it would be embarassing. keep shopping for alterationists! at worst, they'll have to rebuild that part of the dress, but it's clothing! it *can* be altered!
posted by MsPopcorn 104 posts 3 months agoNo way should they just tell you to accept it! The last thing you want to feel on your wedding day is ridiculous about how you look. I would take the dress to another seamstress to get a second opinion. It may cost more to get the dress altered to fit you, but nothing is impossible. Don't give up.
posted by chelseamorning 217 posts 3 months agogeez... I'm 5'7", 130, 34AA and I haven't taken my dress into the tailor yet (still have 9 months until W day) but you absolutely shouldn't put up with that answer! take it somewhere else and tell this lady to kiss your (ahem!)
posted by mrsroth 6 posts 3 months agoSo glad to see this post, cause I'm a little worried about this, too. Has anyone actually been successful at rebuilding that part of the dress to fit a small bust?
posted by tbittles 44 posts 3 months agoHi ladies,
I consider myself a small bust bride. A think a good bridal seamstress should be able to take in the bust. I don't know the exact details of the dress, but I would think taking in the bust is not all that uncommon. For my dress I not only took in the bust, but I actually brought down the whole neckline. The sweetheart neckline was a little too severe for my small chest, so we brought it down to be proportional. In this process, some of the boning and wiring were cut off.
Here's where I wrote about some of the process- My First Fitting. Some of my newer post-wedding posts will show you how well the dress fits!
Hope this helps! Good luck!
~Mrs. Toucan
posted by toucan 79 posts 3 months agoI know what you mean, my first dress fit beautifully everywhere except the bust. It was RIDICULOUS how huge it made my chest area look. I felt like I was wearing football padding! I knew if someone so much as bumped into me that whole boobage area would just cave in. I kept thinking "everyone KNOWS I am not stacked, why would I want to look so unnatural on my wedding day?!?" No amount of alterations fixed this issue...(mainly because after I had it re-fitted, I still ended up hating it.)
Thus, I became the 4 dress bride I am today.
I say, if you really don't feel comfortable, get that bad boy altered. Find a really really good seamstress, because it might be a big job depending on if there is a lot of detailing on the bodice/bust area. You don't want to feel self-conscious and uncomfortable.
posted by wintersprincess 62 posts 3 months agoI'm just echoing with a similar problem... for me, the dress fit like a glove when I first got it in January, but I still wanted to lose some weight. Fast forward to now, and the 15 pounds is gone, but so are my boobs! I went down a whole cup size. Now, with the wedding so close, I'm stuck doing the padding thing and feeling a little fake up top.
I agree with the other girls- if you have the time, find someone to do the alterations. You want to feel as much like yourself as possible!
posted by tarallilove 23 posts 3 months agoFind another tailor! When I was looking at dresses I found several that were cute, but the boning made them much too big in the bust. The lady at the shop said they can shorten the boning, basically pulling it down so it doesn't create such a large bust line, and then they stitch it in place. I would definitely look into that, you want to feel beautiful and comfortable on your big day, not self conscious!
posted by ckonkle 36 posts 3 months ago