Tiny Flower Budget

posted 2 years ago in Flowers
Post # 2
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

First issue I see here is the guest list… They get to give input but your parents can’t invite their freaking siblings??? And they’re paying? No. Do not let your inlaws steamroll you like that- it’s not right! And it’s not up to them. Tell them they get X slots and that’s all they can invite. Period. You’re the one sending out the invites yes? and paying? Your decisions.

For flowers it’s nice they want to contribute but 500 dollars isnt going to go far at all. Stick with your original budget and they can pitch in. 1500 is still tight but doable with DIY… 2000 is better though! Theit meager contribution does not mean they get control. Just say gee thanks! And have them cut a check to your mom… But leave them out of the budget/creative conversation. 

Post # 3
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have invitations already gone out? I would put your foot down with your in-laws (and would have done so long ago). In no universe should your FFIL’s boss be invited over your aunts and uncles, especially when your parents are footing the bill.

If that’s not possible, if flowers are that important to you, I’d take the $500 from your in-laws and supplement it with the money your mom had originally budgeted for flowers. Otherwise I would just do flowers for bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres and do non-floral centerpieces.

Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church


It sounds like you need to stand up to FMIL and put your foot down. I don’t understand why your FFIL’s boss is getting an invitation but not your own aunt. That makes no sense. Have invitations/STDs gone out? If they haven’t I would tell her that she needs to scale her guest list back. Also, can you do something else instead of flower centrepieces? You could do candles or something … Our budget is actually $500 so $1500 is a lot to me lol. Your FMIL is certainly getting away with a lot, it seems. 

Post # 5
4591 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My parents offered a generous amount of money for our wedding, which most of it will go to the reception. However, my mom talked with my FIs mom and they agreed that each side will pay for their own guests. This was due to my side of invites (family/friends) only being about 20% of our guest list – and the rest being family/friends of my FIs side. This was where things got sticky when we first talked about guests lists/budget. Thankfully – this agreement happened and things are all good in the world. However, we do still have a set number of seats – but hopefully will not have to excede if more happen to be added.

In terms of flowers… like the PP said, you may be best just getting what you need. Bouquets, bouttonieres, corsages for anyone that needs one. I’m forgoing much else on flowers, except for a couple vases here and there. Plus, I’m using silk flowers so that saves some money too.

Post # 6
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Like the others, I am not clear if invitations have already been mailed. If not, it’s time for somebody in your famiy to grow a backbone and give the FIL’s a number of guests they can invite. Ask them to prioritize their list or you will have to do it for them.

As for the flowers, divide up the funding. Use the FIL’s money to buy some of the flowers, eg  the bouquets, boutonnieres etc, then stick to your original plan for the rest of the flowers.

Post # 7
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like others, I’d worry first about who’s invited.  

We spent $400 on flowers for my wedding and had enough flowers for five bouquets, seven boutonnieres, and centerpieces for the tables.  Our wedding was smaller than yours, though, so you’re going to have to spend more money on flowers than $500.  See what that will get you, and then explain to your future in-laws that while their generosity is absolutely appreciated, you’re going to have to supplement their budget with your own money.  Then do so.

Post # 8
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My FI’s side has more people too, but if we could not provide the wedding we wanted to have for all the guests everyone wanted to invite, something would have had to give. I’m not a fan of no pay, no say exactly, but I do think that if your groom’s parents expect something that is not in line with the reality of your budget, then they need to adjust expectations or come up with the difference.

ETA: we have made some sacrifices/compromises that I can live with. We didn’t book my dream photog for 5k, and we’re not having real flowers, and we’re using centerpieces provided by the venue in place of our original hand-blown glass plan. It’s all about prioritizing everyone’s wants and compromising.

Post # 9
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ginarm:  Why can’t you take her $500 and put it towards a larger number? If you originally planned $1,500 for flowers, consider now that you’ll only have to pay $1,000 and FMIL will pay $500.

It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Tell her to write you a check for the flowers and she’s done! Voila! If you don’t like what she has planned then say no. JUST SAY NO.

Post # 10
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Like all the PPs, this is about more than just flowers!

This warrants a very serious convo w/ your future in laws (w/ FI in tow) to talk about budget and guest list. Just because they want to invite someone doesn’t mean you automatically put them on the list.

My FMIL gave FI a list and HE edited it 🙂 Voila. I have had the same argument with my mom (about inviting too many people) but it is more difficult since they are helping a bit with money.

Post # 11
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If your inlaws are not footing the bill, they get told how many people they can invite.  Anything above that, they need to pay.  That simple.  If your parents are paying, they have some control here.

Post # 12
1634 posts
Bumble bee


I have to agree with everyone else. You have 1 major problem and its not the flowers. I would be having a serious discussion with you FI about the guest list. We drew a “relationship line” in our guest list, if we didnt have a certain relationship (ex: saw more than once a year, had a full-fledged conversation with them in the past year, etc) they weren’t invited. I would have your FI edit his parents guest list (if possible at this point).

As for the flowers, I would add the $500 from your FMIL to your existing budget if you can. Explain to her that $500 isnt enough, but you’d gladly have her pitch in for the floral budget. If its all or nothing, something has to give. I had all silk flowers and it cost me about $200 total for everything and i still have my bouquet (thats why I picked silk!). So you either have to stick to only necessary flowers, or do some real & some silk.

Post # 13
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I feel like I’m in the SAME boat with my FMIL. I’ve told her about 2 different ways they will need to pay for additional guests and she’s made it clear they won’t or can’t. So, I will have to be having another talk with her and it will be the last one. Thankfully, my Fi is totally on my side and agrees with me!


if real touch or silk flowers is something you would consider I would go with that. I’ve never been into spending thousands for something that will die. 

Post # 14
40 posts

What about DIY’ing your flowers???


I did that thru Flower Moxie, and it turned out AMAZING!  I did it under $600.  I sent them my Pinterest board, and how many vases and bouquets I needed, and they did the math for me and I only had a little bit left over which worked because I had forgotten about my guest book table.

You can watch the video tutorials here which helped me: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClsNpgOV72CWs5QpAOCJr5g

Good luck!  

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