Post # 1
So…..last night J and I were talking about his friend’s recent proposal(which was really more of a non-proposal), and he said:
“when I propose to you, it’s going to be something special, something you’ll remember forever”
and THEN he said that he already knows how he’s going to do it! Eeeek!
Then he expressed a lot of concern about asking my mother for my hand. My mom, while not a cold woman by any means, is not a particularly approachable person. I know that getting her permission is very important to him, and I also know that my mom fully wants me to marry him…and I told J that, but he’s still nervous about having that conversation with her. Any ideas on how to help with this?
Post # 3
no advice re your mum but I just wanted to say that’s a great sign!! things are getting very close now huh?
Post # 4
It does seem to be getting close! I know it won’t happen for at least 2 more months, so I’m trying to remain calm for as long as I can!
Post # 5
that’s so exciting! 2 months will go by fast, so i can’t wait to get more updates 🙂
as for him being afraid to approach your mom, i know how you feel. my bf and my dad get along really well (like, they renovated my parents bathroom together), and he still talks about being nervous when he has to ask.
the only advice i have is just reassuring him as much as possible. ask him if there’s anything you can do, like bringing it up with your mom just so he knows she’ll say yes, or anything like that…
Post # 6
Yay! Sounds like someone’s getting engaged soon! 🙂
I think asking permission from a girl’s parents is a bit intimidating for any guy, regardless of the circumstances. Just be supportive and reassure him that your mom is fully on board with you two getting married. Can you talk to your mom about the whole thing? Maybe let her know that your Boyfriend or Best Friend is thinking about proposing and wants to be sure to ask her permission but is nervous about the whole thing. That way, your mom knows ahead of time and maybe can work on her approach to the conversation when the time comes.
Post # 7
My mom is the same. My dad is not in the picture, but since we’ve been together for 5 years and now we’re next door neighbors living on our own… lol… she knows it’ll come soon. So, now it seems completely unnecessary. He had planned to do an informal lunch a while back… until it seemed unnecessary.