(Closed) tipping! goodness sakes!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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849 posts
Busy bee

Yeah, I feel really bad about it but we don’t have a lot of money and everyone in the wedding business is already making a killing :p It’s not like I’ll be working with tem again, so I don’t care if they think I’m a “bad tipper”

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel like tipping 20% for wedding services is a bit ridiculous, since everything is so inflated already.  But I think 10-15% is about right.  I do wait tables, however, and feel that tipping 15-20% at restaurants is not as ridiculous bc servers only make $2.13/hour and food is normally priced.  But I’m pretty sure that most catering companies pay at least minimum wage to their servers, if not more.  But I guess it depends on the company.  Our restaurant caters some small weddings and the servers still only earn $2.13/hour.  Which is completely wrong in my opinion because the company is making so much, they should pay us employees better.

 

 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We need to end this whole system of tipping (not that I hold my breath that it will ever happen).

 Employers shouold pay their employees a decent living wage, even if that means raising prices.

Then we could tip for extra-ordinary service, not just for someone doing their job.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

i totally agree with you! I do not understand why so many people expect tips for jobs they are already paid to do 🙁 I rather tip only if the person does an amazing job.

In the country my fiancee is from no one tips for anything! Even at high class resurants its amazing to get a 10.00 tip but here everyone holds their hand out.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel that way a little bit to when it comes to our ceremony venue. Our wedding is really low key, no frills type..but we’re supposed to tip on top of the $500 we paid for one hour venue rental.

Post # 8
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow I’m so glad I live in a tip-free society (generally speaking- it’s never compulsory but I do for good waiters etc). Tipping for your vendors that you are already paying a fortune for PAH! Let them think you’re a bad tipper!

Post # 9
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9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Nope. Those people work hard for you, they deserve a great tip. If you can’t afford to tip well you have no business spending money on food service in the first place.

To the people saying employers should just pay a living wage to servers. Do you have any idea how much food prices would go up if they did that?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I totally don’t mind tipping for SERVICE, but the other day I went to the pizza place to pick up my pizza I had ordered online and there was a tip line on the receipt. I did the work! I came to you! You get no tip! Like I am not tipping someone for ringing me up on a cash register, they already get paid for that.

Post # 11
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

@KatyElle: I agree.

More often than not, it’s not the servers of the wedding industry who are making the killing off of what you’re spending. The only thing they see is the gratuity that you add onto your bill. They’re the ones busting their butts to make sure your wedding is as perfect as you want it to be and deserve a tip in my opinion.

I know there’s always a debate between people who were once or are in the service business vs. those who never were. I’m one of those who has never been in the service business, but believe that a good tip goes a very long way.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just want to throw in that my friend waits tables at night as a side job and the other night, a Canadian horse jockey came to her restaurant (Saratoga, NY) and ordered 3 bottles of Cristal with his meal. Her restaurant charges $360 for a bottle of it. His total bill was $1600; she made $500 that night in tips alone. IN A NIGHT. I was so jealy. That’s how you tip!

Post # 13
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9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@2PeasinaPod: Exactly. The servers aren’t seeing all the money that was spent on the catering. They aren’t there for fun or their health, they rely on those tips as their pay. When people do the “let them think you’re a bad tipper” thing and don’t leave a good tip (or anything), that’s like saying you think it’s ok for them to get dressed, spend gas money getting to work, ensuring all your guests are well taken care of and not get paid for it. Not cool.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@fvsoccer:Unfotunately a lot of tipped workers are tipped against minimum wage, so they hardly make minimum. (They make $2 and hour, or so, depending on the state, then the tips make up the difference.) You want them happy and working hard at your wedding.

  18-20% is perfect for managing a large party.

@ohheavenlyday: LOL I do not tip for carry out unless they do something special, and I used to put together carryout. I usually got no tip, sometimes got 5%–which was good for carry out.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I LOVE giving a “fat tip” to wait staff.  It makes me excedingly happy to imagine them opening the folio after I’ve left.    That’s probably because my fiance waited tables when he was younger and told me about the stuff people in the restaurant industry go through. 

 

Now, for my photog, I’m going to buy her a gift instead of giving her more money.  She’s getting almost $5K already!

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