i know that we're supposed to tip certain people throughout the duration of our ceremony/recetion. however, i also know some people say not to tip the owner of a place (i.e-hairdresser if the hairdresser owns the salon or whatever).
here is my BIG question...
i am paying one flat fee to a 'wedding service place' for everything including: catering dj hairdresser bartender (i paid $400 for the bartender to make/serve drinks etc and i paid another couple hundred for the alcohol) florist wedding coordinator parking attendant waitstaff.
i paid through the estate where my wedding is being planned (bluffmountaininn.com check it out! they're great!) for everything (i.e- all of this is included in my package for x amount of dollars).
i am paying (not real names) john and jane smith for EVERYTHING and they have their own people to do such things (in fact, jane is the coordinator and john is the DJ).
am i supposed to tip them at the end of the night after i leave?? am i supposed to tip also the dj, florist, caterer etc etc even though they all work at the same place? if i never even meet the florist (i've done all my floral planning through my coordinator) am i supposed to tip them?along with the caterer who i've never met?
I would tip the servers, bartender, etc. People who "work" for the venue. As far as the florist goes, if you've never met her, I guess I wouldn't tip her. Are you going to be meeting her before your wedding or on the day off? Is she doing anything special for you? I would also ask your venue if they include gratuities in the price, because they might since it's such a package deal.
Check your contract to see if there's a service charge percentage already included for catering. Often times, it's 18%-21%. If so, ask them if that charge goes to the venue or to the staff.
If there's no service charge, or if it doesn't go to the staff, then I'd highly recommend tipping the lead banquet manager a couple hundred bucks, since they will carry out your vision.
I don't think it's necessary to tip the florist. But even though it's a package deal, I think it's a nice token of appreciation to tip the hair, DJ, and wedding coordinator.
If you are allowing the bartender/valet to accept tips, then you don't need to tip them personally. But if you are handling gratuities for your guests, then you should tip both of these people.
It sounds like you're getting a great all-inclusive deal. In my opinion, tipping the people who are executing the best day of your life is good karma! Yes, you are spending a lot of money overall, but in the end, it's worth a few hundred bucks to tell someone you appreciate them.
i know that we're supposed to tip certain people throughout the duration of our ceremony/recetion. however, i also know some people say not to tip the owner of a place (i.e-hairdresser if the hairdresser owns the salon or whatever).
here is my BIG question...
i am paying one flat fee to a 'wedding service place' for everything including:
catering
dj
hairdresser
bartender (i paid $400 for the bartender to make/serve drinks etc and i paid another couple hundred for the alcohol)
florist
wedding coordinator
parking attendant
waitstaff.
i paid through the estate where my wedding is being planned (bluffmountaininn.com check it out! they're great!) for everything (i.e- all of this is included in my package for x amount of dollars).
i am paying (not real names) john and jane smith for EVERYTHING and they have their own people to do such things (in fact, jane is the coordinator and john is the DJ).
am i supposed to tip them at the end of the night after i leave??
am i supposed to tip also the dj, florist, caterer etc etc even though they all work at the same place? if i never even meet the florist (i've done all my floral planning through my coordinator) am i supposed to tip them?along with the caterer who i've never met?
I AM SO CONFUSED!!! HELP ME!!!
posted by KissingLillith 41 posts 4 months agoI would tip the servers, bartender, etc. People who "work" for the venue. As far as the florist goes, if you've never met her, I guess I wouldn't tip her. Are you going to be meeting her before your wedding or on the day off? Is she doing anything special for you? I would also ask your venue if they include gratuities in the price, because they might since it's such a package deal.
posted by KateMW 483 posts 4 months agoCheck your contract to see if there's a service charge percentage already included for catering. Often times, it's 18%-21%. If so, ask them if that charge goes to the venue or to the staff.
If there's no service charge, or if it doesn't go to the staff, then I'd highly recommend tipping the lead banquet manager a couple hundred bucks, since they will carry out your vision.
I don't think it's necessary to tip the florist. But even though it's a package deal, I think it's a nice token of appreciation to tip the hair, DJ, and wedding coordinator.
If you are allowing the bartender/valet to accept tips, then you don't need to tip them personally. But if you are handling gratuities for your guests, then you should tip both of these people.
It sounds like you're getting a great all-inclusive deal. In my opinion, tipping the people who are executing the best day of your life is good karma! Yes, you are spending a lot of money overall, but in the end, it's worth a few hundred bucks to tell someone you appreciate them.
posted by SoCalBeachGirl 385 posts 4 months agohmmm...
so maybe like, tip $50 to both the wedding coordinator and then another $50 to the photographer, and then another 50 to the dj?
and then i know how to tip the hair ladies and such...
there's really no "vision" for the banquet. it's just buffet style with entress and stuff i chose off a larger menu...
maybe instead tip the cake baker?? and if so, how much since the cake is included?
and at the bottom of the contract it says,
"gratuity is not included in price of wedding package but is appreciated by our staff"
is it just me, or is that horribly tacky??
posted by KissingLillith 41 posts 4 months ago