Tipping plan!

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@midwestgirl80:  Woah, you’re gonna be tipping like crazy.

These are the people I tipped:

Makeup artist (owns his own business): $20 on a $215 total.

Venue: $50 tip for table busers ($1,450 venue fee)

Hair Stylist: $50 tip on a $50 fee (she did 2 trials for free, so I wanted to pay her)

Photographer: $150 tip on $700 total (she gave me a crazy good deal, so I tipped her well)


Post # 4
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t tip anyone who owns their own business. This may include the florist, DOC and/or photographer. 

I would also not tip if there is already a grat charge. I’m sure they will appreciate it if you do though.

Post # 5
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Honestly… your list is too long.  You are planning to tip some people that you aren’t required to.

Here is a post that I did for another Bee earlier this week…

== snip ==

Tipping… ugh, a bad hang-over from the US Reconstruction Period (post Civil  War)

If only more people actually knew the history of tipping in North America they’d probably be against it (establishes a class system… whereby the lower classes weren’t required to be paid a living wage, but needed to be paid something for work performed after it was done, based on whatever the “so called” higher class person deemed it worth)

Thankfully… North America is showing signs of beginning to move away from this system… and pay a living wage… altho not quickly enough !!

— — —

Ok, to answer your Question.

As it stands now in North America, it is considered the norm to tip those in the “Service Industries” who are not paid a living wage / hourly rate as high as the normal Minimum Wage… but depend on tips to make up the difference

So the same rule of thumb is therefore applied to Services that one receives for a Wedding

You would need to tip your Hairdresser & Make Up Artist, if they don’t own the business, but are employed by someone else.

Same with any Delivery People, Drivers, Valets, Coat Check Staff, Servers, Bartenders and the like.

BUT Not anyone who is self employed / owns the business, or considered in a white collar Professional Job.

Soooo NO TIPS for the Unionized Musicians, the DJ, Baker, Caterer, Wedding Planning, Officiant, or Photographer.  And don’t let anyone CON YOU into believing you need to do so.  Those are NOT PROFESSIONALS… they are scam artists !!

Where it gets complicated is Catering, as you have mentioned.  You need to determine if the Bar Tenders & Wait Staff are being Tipped from those  added on 20% Grats, or if they are being paid a fair wage (and not Service  Minimum).  ONLY your Caterer can tell you this.

You need to find out what that 20% that is being tacked on is being used for  ???

Personally… I won’t deal with Caterers (in my private life, or professional  one) that pull this sh!t.  I want a full break down of costs, and a  complete understanding of where the money is going.  In my world, Caterers  cannot get away with paying their staff unjustly, because the people just won’t  work for them if they aren’t being compensated fairly.  Someone who takes  on a Banquet Job, expects to be paid more per hour to make up for “lost tips”,  vs a night at a Restaurant / Bar, where they know they will come home at the end  with tip money as well.

== end ==

So looking at your current list, I’m guessing you’ll be able to cut it down by half.

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@midwestgirl80: Glad to help.  Honest no need to confirm… cause guess what they may very well pussy foot around it and try to guilt you into tipping them…

See where I wrote in my Reply # 4:

Soooo NO TIPS for the Unionized Musicians, the DJ, Baker, Caterer, Wedding  Planning, Officiant, or Photographer.  And don’t let anyone CON YOU into believing you need to do so.  Those are NOT PROFESSIONALS… they  are scam artists !!

Tip Culture in America has gone overboard in recent years… people have this twisted idea, that they need to be tipped because other people are… so some Vendors are downright pushy and obnoxious about it … even though their jobs fairly compensate them be that with a fair hourly wage… or if they are a Self-Employed Man or Woman they can charge whatever they choose to begin with (no imposed ceiling) … so they don’t need a tip.

Hope this helps,


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